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[Boner Killers] Is it normal for a girl's sexual history to kill your boner? (self.asktrp)

submitted by animalpoo

Is it normal for your boner to die, or struggle to stay hard when you uncover some new information about the person you’re fucking?

I had this girl, she's an agent of averageness but - low drama, gives great head and low investment.

She decided 2 months in that for whatever bizarre reason “I want to tell this guy my sexual history”.

  • Bisexual (whatever)
  • You’re not usually my type, I go for foreign guys...
  • My mum gave me blowjob techniques
  • High number count
  • Threesomes

Followed by becoming incredibly drunk and deciding she wanted to go on an “anti-me rant” and generally be disrespectful.

Either way, my shits in hers, I have to go back and collect my stuff so I may as well bang.

For the life of me, I couldn’t get it up. I was annoyed at her and slightly disgusted by what she’d revealed in her confidence and I’m wondering if it’s this that's killed my boner?

Before anyone tells me to next her, I slipped out at 5 in the morning as I couldn’t sleep. I’m more concerned about my sudden case of impotence ...

  • Has anyone experienced similar?
  • Let's be honest a lot of girls aren’t saints - what could I do if I want to fuck girls but im turned off by their sexual history?

[–]losectrl 69 points70 points  (1 child)

Are you a machine? Are you designed to fuck when a bitch opens her legs? Or are you a human that hears things that are unagreeable and takes action based on what he hears?

If she says something you don't like GTFO.

[–]animalpoo[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Definitely a human who takes action and is GTFOing, thanks for your insight

[–][deleted] 82 points83 points  (2 children)

Completely normal.

You got instinctually turned off.

Also next this bitch.

[–]animalpoo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for reassuring this, appreciate it.

And done

[–]hb8only 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that bitch is crazy.. and her post wall stinky mother is even more...

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 55 points56 points  (3 children)

Is it normal for your boner to die, or struggle to stay hard when you uncover some new information about the person you’re fucking?

Yup.

Followed by becoming incredibly drunk and deciding she wanted to go on an “anti-me rant” and generally be disrespectful.

NEXT

Alcohol = truth serum.

Before anyone tells me to next her, I slipped out at 5 in the morning as I couldn’t sleep. I’m more concerned about my sudden case of impotence ...

Dude. You're fine. I wouldn't even try and go near her in these circumstances. It's fine for your dick to say "no, not this one, too filthy". This is natural.

You'll be fine with another girl.

[–]animalpoo[S] 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Dude. You're fine. I wouldn't even try and go near her in these circumstances. It's fine for your dick to say "no, not this one, too filthy". This is natural.

Appreciate it man, just that voice in the back of my head that says "Maybe I'm broken and should see a Doctor"

Thanks for the reassurance.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 15 points16 points  (1 child)

These instincts you have evolved for a reason. You're just not in the habit of listening to them yet.

Make this your next stage of development.

[–]animalpoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point and I will thanks, gets hard to listen to it when your emotions blind you at times.

[–]RolandTheDickslinger 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Don't ever leave anything you can't lose on a bitch's place.

[–]redditJ5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And don't let them n nest (leave their shit) at your place.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child)

This is completely normal. She is both repulsive and immature.

I’d block and never speak to her again frankly. I don’t have time for dead erections caused by a chick

[–]animalpoo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, good to know I'm not fucked in the head. Ghosted her

[–]AlphaGrad 13 points14 points  (2 children)

It's a good sign. You should have been really worried if you were turned on by it.

[–]animalpoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

haha valid point!

[–]redditJ5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people like the dirty.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You found out she was not only boring, but she was a dumb disrespectful CC rider.

Completely normal. It's your instincts telling you no only does she have bad genes, but she'd be a terrible mother.

[–]OrgasmicKitkat 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Happened to me. When it was obvious a girl had feelings for me and I didn't reciprocate I felt bad for her and couldn't get it up in bed like twice.

Us men are more human than we're usually told we are or expect ourselves to be, heh.

I managed to get past it by thinking "meh, it's her problem, I was clear enough".

[–]animalpoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, and providing an interesting way to reframe it

[–]zboo1h 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your dick knows better than you. Trust it.

[–]smirk_addict 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Are you upset about a girl sharing her sexual history? That's something that says alot about a woman. Case in point, this girl had a very casual view about sex so I think it's no surprise she's done things like that. It's a sign of impulsive and self destructive behavior. Hence her getting wasted and becoming a drunken shrew. What do you do? Enjoy them until you get turned off by their history or behavior. You don't owe them anything. I know TRP often preaches about getting all the sex you can. But it sounds like you have standards and you're trying to ignore them haha.

[–]animalpoo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head with this one. Both from me ignoring (questioning even) my own standards and her being an impulsive skank.

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ive never experienced the "anti-me" drunk rant, as op puts it, from a girl. In my experience they say all those things that you want to hear. Personal favorite was hearing how masculine i was.

If a girl is trash talking you when shes drunk, thats an automatic next. They are speaking from a purely emotional place. If its not an exposition of how great she thinks you are, quite simply, she doesnt think that.

[–]hamsterenema 5 points6 points  (2 children)

This whole goddamn subreddit needs to learn how to next bitchez faster.

The first time she is TRULY disrespectful quietly gather your shit and walk the Fuck off.

Chances are she's never had someone do that before.

You get to pop her "nope" cherry.

It's glorious. I actually look for reasons to do it now. No argument. No words. Just. Walk. Away.

Figuring it out is her Fucking problem.

I've never had them maintain composure when I do it. Because nobody ever does this. We talk and supplicate. Like we're her girlfriend with a giant clitoris. These sloots act this way because we tolerate it.

It's worth it for the begging blowjobs and anal that follows fully a third of the time if you have the balls to truly let the bitch take a walk for a few day's at least.

Tldr.

Ho is trippin'?

Engage nuclear dread. It's not you problem now.

[–]animalpoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree,

I sobered up, quietly grabbed my car and left her to wake up confused in the morning.

I think it was Andrew Tate who said "It's better to die the hero (e.g. next a bitch without giving her a reason and have her mourn you as 'the one') Than to run your mouth and become the Villain"

Anyway 3 days later neither of us have made the effort to communicate - which speaks for itself.

[–]brinkleybuzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Listen to your Johnson. He's telling you "don't send me back into that cesspool."

[–]omega_dawg93 8 points9 points  (3 children)

i've met some really good women with WILD sexual pasts. and i've met some really horrible bitches that claim they didn't have a wild past, ie, the "i'm a good girl" bullshit.

bottom line: they fuck waaaay more than you think anyway... so the truth is forever elusive.

i just fuck them and worry if there's a good fit or not. girls love to fuck just as much or more than we do. and girls will ALWAYS LIE about their true dick count.

[–]smirk_addict 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I understand the point you are making but lets not over exaggerate dude. Girls often use sex to leverage some type of commitment or resource. And if they think a guy is hot enough or has enough status, they'll bang him for validation. Yes women like sex, and some have an insatiable appetite but the average woman doesn't think about it as often as the average man.

[–]omega_dawg93 1 point2 points  (1 child)

women think about sex waaaay more then you think... and women act on it waaaay more than they'll admit.

they love to fuck dude... and nothing is wrong with that. a female with a healthy sex drive is an angel in my world.

[–]smirk_addict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you man. I just don’t think nothing can match the crazed sex driven mind of a man in his prime with a healthy level of testosterone.

[–]xXxsnabelmannxXx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Red flags all over the place...

[–]Euphoricentia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If their breath smells and she tells you this its a turn off for me too

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's no big deal. If you had just met her, then it might not have affected you as much. Also, the rant that was negative towards you probably didn't help.

An ex shit all over me one night, and I left her the next day. She could be buck naked right in front of me, and I probably would turn her down.

[–]Elfclan30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes.

Thing is it'd be great if you are unshaken by such things.

However it's great that she trust you to tell you these things so you know what you are dealing with.

[–]quicklogaccount 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Are you sure it's the history that's killing your boner? That sort of history smells as easy sex and has a knack to turn me on, but there's some other shit there that would murder my drive pretty bad.

  • Generally disrespectful "anti-me" rant;
  • "My shit's in hers", if you were bonding to her because you were getting laid (it happens and I dare to say it's BOUND to happen if you're only banging one chick) chances are learning that her sex is worth shit would annoy you hard enough to kill it.

Let's be honest a lot of girls aren’t saints - what could I do if I want to fuck girls but im turned off by their sexual history?

All in all, turn offs that don't stem from physical disgust are cases of giving too much fucks of the wrong kind. You can do some soul searching and track why you care or you can spread those fucks between more plates so one individual chick doesn't have enough of them to bother you.

It's nice to know why you care but for me it turns out giving some shits is important since it allows you to get companionship and shit other than pussy from women, so I encourage just adding plates first. If it turns out you do care too much, do the soul searching thing.

[–]animalpoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you raised a valid point there:

All in all, turn offs that don't stem from physical disgust are cases of giving too much fucks of the wrong kind.

If I'm being completely honest with myself. Emotionally I care a lot, and its because I've come out of a 2 year Monk Mode looking for something low maintenance, while I can focus on my business.

I think I caught feelz without even realising it. Fuck!

Anyway, I appreciate the comment, I feel like it helped me figure something out.