Here is my original post to that joke of a sub before they locked it for very clearly expressing my views towards women who casually have sex with men outside of relationships.
"I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We never talked about past partners or previous sexual encounters despite her trying to because I knew they would bother me.
But one day while she was out, I was looking on a bookshelf and found a note of hers, that had every sexual partner she'd ever had. Dates, times, details and descriptions, the works.
She had only lost her virgnity about 2 years before dating me, but it was to a random person she met on Tinder. She dated him for about 4 months. Between then and meeting me, she had sex with about 20 people. 15 of which were in less than a year, leading up to meeting me.
During this time she had had multiple casual sex hookups with guys from tinder. Guys she met at parties and slept with that night. Sleeping with multiple guys in the same time frame. Then to top it all of she had a train ran on her at party after she went just to have sex with an ex who invited her; barely even any time at all before meeting me.
The details had things about who was the best, who had the biggest dick, which ones were jerks, which ones she'd fuck again, how she loved fucking black guys because of the skin contrast and taboo. How hot some of them and the sex were.
I've only had a handful of partners in my life, the majority being in relationships. She views sex as just something fun, whereas I see it as a bonding experience and something that should only be shared between 2 loving people. And now all I see is her getting a train ran on her at a party, having multiple people inside her in just a few hours, and its not only disgusting to me, it goes against everything I view sex as. I believe in the partner-to-partner one-on-one thing, not just letting whoever wants it take it.
Before I found all this, I loved her 100%, but after finding it, it feels like something has broken. It hasn't been the same since. I wanted to break up with her that night, but I didn't. Because I know outside of all these things I do love her and if she hadn't done any of these things she would be perfect for me.
We've talked about it multiple times, and she seems to not regret any of it yet says she wishes she could take it back if I could love her 100% again. She's cried every time we've talked, saying she's sorry and she doesn't know how to fix it, she's not that person anymore, even if it was hot for her then it isn't now that she's with me, etc. And I feel bad, but I just don't see how she couldn't think of any of this before doing it. I want to be with her, but I feel like this is the hole that's going to slowly sink our ship. Is there a way to fix this?"
You can also view my comment history if you want to read my replies and thoughts or the entire thread itself.
I genuinely want to know if there is a way to save my relationship or if it will not be worth it to try and salvage it. All relationshits did was have women tell me to leave because they wanted to defend a woman for 'exploring her sexuality' in an effort to validate their own promiscuity.
I know most people here might also tell me to leave, but based on most comments I've already gotten and my experience with women in general, I feel like leaving my girlfriend who I otherwise have a perfect relationship with, is only going to be exchanged for women with even worse pasts and poor judgement calls.
In search of somewhere to get advice where I wouldn't just get flamed by slutty women to defend another slutty woman, someone messaged me to attempt a post here. So I'll ask you guys, is there a way to overcome this or is this relationship that I really, really do not want to lose, doomed to fail?
Update: So my plan for now is to keep her but stay as emotionally unattached as I can. I don't think I'll ever be able to move past this, but at least this way I'll have a girl while I find someone better or until she gives me another red flag to leave, hopefully the former. Thank you guys for your advice. Its probably not going to last much longer as I'm losing my interest in her with every day.