My friend's soon to be wife invites me out to drink with her (self.asktrp)

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This is weird. My friend's future wife just invited me over facebook to go out with her tomorrow and have a couple of drinks. I've seen her only 1-2 times before. She said her boyfriend will be out of town and she doesn't want to spend evening home alone. I knew this world is fucked up but what the fuck. What should I do in this surreally fucked up situation?

P.S. I think her boyfriend doesn't even know about this

UPDATE: I told her I have other plans, I don't want drama in my life.

[–]Coach-Red-Pill 65 points66 points  (13 children)

Two possibilities: She wants to talk about her bf/fiancé (who after all is your buddy), maybe ask you about doing something for him, or maybe asking about some obscure thing in his past/family that she's been gnawing on; or she wants to “explore her feelings” for you.

The odds are 70/30 it's the former. Lots of times, girls on the brink of marriage want to know every last little thing about their guy before they tie the knot. So as the day approaches, they try to nail down every last bit of intel they missed. I've seen this lots of times with my sister's friends just before they got married.

Now if she wants to see if something sparks between you two, that's a whole different story.

If it's that, then you have to tell your friend about it. “Bros before hoes” and all that crap.

Put it this way: If you were about to get married, and your bride-to-be hit on your friend, would you want to know? Of course you would—so as to avoid a colossal mistake.

In the mean time, keep an open mind. It could well be totally innocent.

Edit: /u/lukemeg pointed out a phrase in OP which I must've eye-skipped—but which totally changes the dynamic here.

OP wrote:

She said her boyfriend will be out of town and she doesn't want to spend evening home alone [emphasis added].

Me bad; I didn't notice this, and it changes everything.

I put odds 20/1 that she indeed wants to fuck OP's brains out.

My suggestion to OP would be: Surreptitiously record the encounter on your phone, enjoy the free pussy getting tossed your way, then head straight for your buddy and tell him what's what. Don't tell him about the recording. If the bitch says OP is lying and/or raped her, then OP whips out his recording.

[–]lukmeg 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I find hard to believe that if she just wants to talk she would frame it as "my boyfriend is gone and I don't want to spend the evening alone". That is very blunt for a woman. Womanese is usually much more subtle.

[–]Coach-Red-Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit, you're absolutely right. I didn't notice the phrase:

She said her boyfriend will be out of town and she doesn't want to spend evening home alone.

This totally changes the odds. I'll edit my original comment.

Thanks for the catch!

[–]Cunt_Robber 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The "former" was my first thought as well. She's likely going to ask OP about things related to her soon-to-be husband. Stop freaking out this is nbd.

[–]AnonymousAndLovinIt 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Good advice. I'm dying for an update on this!

[–]Coach-Red-Pill 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Me too, actually.

[–]AnonymousAndLovinIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update is here. He just told her he was busy. Seriously disappointed.

Regarding your edit

enjoy the free pussy getting tossed your way,

I seriously have an issue with this. Even if this girl was a cheating whore the moment you tap it you're screwing your friend over in the worst way. There's no "friend" to show the recording to.

[–]Invalidity 3 points4 points  (3 children)

If she wanted information from OP about her fiance, she wouldn't do it over drinks.

[–]Coach-Red-Pill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it's delicate she might. Who knows, let's see how this plays out.

[–]exit_sandman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Why not?

If she wants to avoid giving off the impression that she's prodding for information, keeping the atmosphere social and casual isn't a bad idea.

[–]Invalidity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it's a cop out.

The whole thing is set up to give her plausible deniability in the event that anything should happen. When it comes to gathering information, she would have been able to find better information without having to resort to such measures.

She wants to be in the situation for other reasons. She's not going to spell it out, but it's definitely not as sophisticated as snooping.

[–]exit_sandman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The odds are 70/30 it's the former.

More like 95/5, unless OP is very attractive and has signalled that he's not above stabbing his friend in the back. Or extremely attractive.

I mean, why on Earth would she try to hook up with a friend of her fiancé of all people if she has cheating on her mind? The odds of this blowing up into her face are so astronomically high when compared to some total stranger that she needed to be functionally retarded to risk it.

[–]Metalageddon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're very correct by male logic.

But risk and rush increase reward. Most girls don't fuck the random guy, it's someone you know. In many cases, someone who is objectively your lesser in many ways, but different in just that one she doesn't get from you right now.

Guys do this too, just saying.

[–]DadOnDabs 115 points116 points  (12 children)

Go get drinks with her if she starts to get sexual put your audio recorder on and show your buddy.

[–]AwakenedSovereign 1 point2 points  (7 children)

Just send him the facebook messages.. no reason to take it any further

[–]LordThunderbolt 49 points50 points  (3 children)

Nah the friend might still not get it. He will take her for her word. She'll cancel the drinks with OP, and the couple will still be together.

[–]menial_optimist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this and this. Its the best thing u could do for your bro. He won't be able to deny the hard evidence. Just make sure you do not drink very much. You're going undercover, not to party it up until 5am.

[–]JJXVII -1 points0 points  (1 child)

She'll cancel the drinks with OP, and the couple will still be together.

And that's a bad thing how?

[–]LordThunderbolt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because she will now double her efforts to hide her slutty and cheating ways to both OP and her fiancee. The point is that this girl isn't marriage material and OP has to prove it.

[–]mancozbi 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Don't do this. Please. It could be totally innocent, maybe to arrange something for the wedding. You're unfairly jumping to conclusions.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

IF she gets sexual. Only if. Other than that it's blue skies.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeh fuckin right

[–]AtlasCuckd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about a GoPro? Get some good POV going for when they sit him down for a Cucktervention

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

And if he set it up and kills OP, then what

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Woah there, Mr Shyamalan

[–]creating_my_life 73 points74 points  (12 children)

she's fishing for information about her fiancee--has he cheated, what about an old girlfriend. something has sparked her curiosity and she's digging for info.

she's not looking to fuck you.

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    [–]exit_sandman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Maybe, just maybe she just wants OP not to realize that she's prodding for information?

    What sounds better:

    1. "hey, let's meet for a drink and chill a bit. Since you're one of my soon-to-be-husband's friends, I'd like to get to know you personally"
    2. "hey, I want you to give me minutiate about my soon-to-be-husband's personal failings regarding his past love life. You're on board with potentially ruining his marriage in case I get to know something I don't like, aren't you?"

    [–]AaronKClark 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Wait wait wait.. you must be new here. This is TRP. All girls want to fuck us here!

    [–]new_alpha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    And that actually makes sense but he'all only know after he goes out and talk to her.

    [–]JJXVII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    she's fishing for information about her fiancee

    She could do that over facebook chat.

    [–]Sadpanda596 -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

    Seriously the fuck is this thread. Friends fiancée wants to chill over drinks?? "Omg she's a giant slut." Literally nothing here to suggest bad intentions.

    [–]JJXVII 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    You are an idiot. How would you feel if your fiancee met up with your best friend in secret and had drinks when you were out of town? You are a giant cuck my friend if you think that's okay.

    [–]LordThunderbolt 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    Go for it and start recording on your phone as soon as you get to the bar. What you want is incriminating evidence. Either she shit talks him, or tries to escalate with you etc. Don't forget that dudes can be in severe denial when u tell them their girl is a floozy. Get proof before you tell him.

    [–]MelodyMyst 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Make sure you dump your phone before you start this endeavor. Nothing would be worse than running out of space on your phone and not being able to record the good parts that happen later in the evening.

    [–]AnarkistReese 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Stay away from tequila.

    [–]Viking_RnP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Probably just wants to know some shit about your buddy.

    [–]Cookiest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    She's just fishing for info about her fiancé. Nothing too suspicious

    [–]Oftowerbroleaning 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    If he's your friend tell him dude.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    What exactly did she say? You may be misinterpreting.

    [–]a0001_i1100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Sounds like a situation to avoid in my honest opinion. Can't you go out with a girl besides your buddies fiancé??? Think about it.

    [–]JJXVII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    TRP on reddit is dead going by the replies on this thread. So many cucks.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I would go but keep your guard up. Honestly she might want to talk to you about him like she's planning to do something fun for him and wants you to help or advice. If it starts to get weird call her out on it and tell your friend.

    [–]theamazingswayze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Yea I agree with the others. Don't escalate. This might be a good chance to expose her

    [–]exit_sandman 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    Three options:

    1. Completely innocent. She just legitimately wants to hang out with you. Maybe to get to know you better, but more likely wants to ask you something you're more likely to know than other people - for example trying to pitch you some ideas regarding the wedding preparations and such, and how her STBH (soon to be husband) might react to this.
    2. Not so innocent: wants some more detailed information about her STBH and tries to suss it out of you under the guise of a totally casual meeting.
    3. Totally fucked up: Plans to cheat on her STBH with you.

    Personally, I think 1 or 2 are far more likely; if only because it would be strange if she specifically singled you as her STBH's friend of all people out for cheating.

    [–]JJXVII 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    She just legitimately wants to hang out with you. Maybe to get to know you better

    She can do that when her fiancee is with them.

    [–]exit_sandman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    ....but more likely wants to ask you something you're more likely to know than other people - for example trying to pitch you some ideas regarding the wedding preparations and such, and how her STBH (soon to be husband) might react to this.

    [–]JJXVII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Screenshot the facebook chat, send it to your friend.

    [–]fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    My friend's soon to be wife invites me out to drink with her

    If you decide to do it, record it. When she tries to play it off that you made the moves on her, you've got the evidence. Your friend can be stupid and ignore it, but at least there's (f)actual evidence in the wild.

    and she doesn't want to spend evening home alone.

    Classic words for "I want to fuck you." Your friend is about to marry a whore.

    [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (18 children)

    He probably set her up to do it you fuckin retard

    [–]anusbleach11111 1 point2 points  (13 children)

    This could be the case, doesn't make op a fuckin retard though.

    [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (12 children)

    Him wanting to fuck his friends makes him the lowest scum on this planet

    [–]anusbleach11111 0 points1 point  (8 children)

    And? Not all retards are scum, and not all scums are retards.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children)

    You're taking a specific word out of context

    [–]anusbleach11111 2 points3 points  (6 children)

    Dude honestly I've been studying for the LSAT a lot lately. When I see a written sentence I can't help but automatically look for flaws in the argument and such.

    [–]get_real_quick 1 point2 points  (5 children)

    175+ or gtfo

    [–]anusbleach11111 0 points1 point  (4 children)

    Teach me your ways Sempai

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    [–]anusbleach11111 0 points1 point  (2 children)

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    [–]tallwheel -1 points0 points  (2 children)

    It does? Who doesn't have a friend they would like to fuck?

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    What? His friends girl? Kys

    [–]tallwheel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Friend's girl? Hell yes I have friends whose girls I wouldn't mind boning once... if I could do so without consequences. I don't want to betray friends, so I guess I might have to wait until they break up or something...

    [–]JJXVII 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Why the fuck would he set something like this up?

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Because his friend wants to fuck his girl. You don't think people can pick up on this?

    He sets this up, OP goes to meet with his girl and gets his face broken.

    [–]JJXVII 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    No one would set something like that up. I know for a fact some of my friends would fuck my girl but I would never plan some dumb shit like that. You have been watching too many movies.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You'd be surprised. From what OP says, he seems pretty eager to fuck his girl. You're convinced his friend can't tell when they're all together?

    [–]anusbleach11111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Show your friend the messages, there's a possibility he's testing your loyalty or maybe it's even him through her Facebook. Then you two can work together to set up the date, and after you meet with her he will then ask her what she was up to on the day of. If she was not expressing any sexual interest and just wanted to meet up platonically so that she may build a better relationship with her soon-to-be husband's friends, and she does inform him about it, then by all means do as you wish. However, if she lies about her whereabouts, and does in fact show sexual interest and such, your friend will have solid evidence that he's marrying a whore. (Maybe you can fuck her if this is the case and you wish to do so).

    [–]1walawalawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You decline the invitation. You tell your friend. Be prepared to lose a friend. He may be in denial.

    She will deny it and say you're the crazy one for suspecting something other than "friendship".

    [–]icecoldwhoknows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I don't know your relationship with your friend, but maybe she is just trying to get to know you since you are her future husband's friend. Obviously, this is a win win either way, you work on your frame and you let your buddy know what he is dealing with.

    [–]Olongapo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    If you value your friend and even if ratting her out may end that friendship, then forward the messages to him and don't go......he'll either hate you or thank you later.

    If you don't value his friendship, then go over, bang her, and never mention it again.

    Personally, I would want to know.

    [–]Kommanderdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You should go op.

    [–]AcidMal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Moron, go and sniff it out and help your "friend".

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    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Good call. If he was absolutely resolute not to fuck this bitch then he could end up helping his friend.

    [–]Sinth42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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    [–]claptilley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    A redditor once wrote...AWALT doesn't guarantee she will act a certain way, but she has the propensity to. Like the rule, "Treat Every Gun as it's loaded" doesn't mean every gun is loaded. With women and handguns, act accordingly. Don't give a gun a chance to hit an accidental target. Don't give a vagina a hard dick to fall on. Innocent or not. Can't happen if you decline.

    That said, being the messenger will absolutely backfire in this situation. She sucks his dick and if he's not unplugged can influence his logic. Keep the messages saved and backed up. If he ever asks, be honest and don't hesitate to show him.

    If this is your best friend. If he is like a fucking brother. You send him the screenshots of the messages and ask, "you cool if she asks shit like this"? Let him know you just don't want to disrespect him and youre not going. Fuck her (not literally) if she gets pissy and pulls some mental gymnastics and victims up. It'll not end great, but fuck if I don't give my man every chance to save himself if this is a red flag for him.

    [–]suxxos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    she doesn't want to spend evening home alone

    Maybe she's afraid of the burglars.

    Seriously though, my mom is like that, she can never spend a night at home alone, because she's scared. Not that anything has ever happened.

    [–]-The-Pussy-Whisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    She wants some strange. Your move Chad.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Bro, it's your friend. You tell him

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    [–]vorverk -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

    You're overthinking, she wants to chat with a soon to be husband's best friend. Nothing else.

    [–]-The-Pussy-Whisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    No she doesn't