How do you treat women like children? (self.asktrp)
submitted 4 months ago by JaspersChest
I hear this all the time but what's the gist of it? I'm hardly ever around children, can someone go into a little detail with this analogy?
[–]DesperateChemical 115 points116 points117 points 4 months ago (15 children)
Take charge, don't take anything they say seriously, do the things that you want and bring them along for the ride.
[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 152 points153 points154 points 4 months ago* (14 children)
That's a pretty good summary. Also:
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 28 points29 points30 points 4 months ago (3 children)
And don't make her responsible for anything - she'll crash your car and blame you for lending it to her.
[–]Aggressive_Beta 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (1 child)
I’d blame myself for lending it to her too. Only time she drives my car is when I’m drunk
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
[–]Prodigalrockstar 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
and she won't stop trying to make you think it's your fault as long as her mind is on it. but if you accept fault she will resent you for letting her do so.
Be calm, be strong, it will pass.
[–]Cloudsurf89 25 points26 points27 points 4 months ago (0 children)
😆 Yes! I love having her drawings on my fridge
[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill 9 points10 points11 points 4 months ago (2 children)
You missed an important one, have clear boundaries and enforce them when she passes them. Kids and women do well with good boundaries.
[–]superyute 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (1 child)
do you explicitly establish these at some specific time in the relationship? (i.e. "i have a few things id like to address by the way"). or do you do that whenever a topic comes up where itd be appropriate to do so (i.e. while she expresses how she'd NEVER do anal or what have you, you follow up with "oh, speaking of boundaries, blah blah")?
[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Some boundaries are hard, unwritten and assumed. Fidelity for an LTR, for example.
Some you approach as they arise.
I could see some boundaries being discussed ahead of time with an LTR, but framed as a value discussion. "Oh I want kids." or "I expect to move a lot for my career"
She may even force the discussion about them, "What are we? I want a committed relationship"
You may have to force the situation, say in an cohabitation she's not holding her end of cleaning, "Hey, I'm not here to clean up after you. Fix your shit or it's time to move out."
A boundary is simple. What's your go/no go point, and what are the consequences of passing that? The real key is that you are a man of action. If you set a boundary be prepared to enforce it however you see fit.
[–]Supermanreturn 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Wow this man know some skills
[–]JaspersChest[S] 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (4 children)
Great summary. A question about point number 7, if we act really impressed or overreact, won't we look less too nice/ unworthy of respect? I've never seen men praise women on their achievements like this.
[–]Freedom__Fighter 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (3 children)
No you don't look too nice or unworthy of respect. You aren't being instructed to coddle her feelings and tell her that she is the most special snowflake in the universe. When she actually achieves something you should reward her, just like you give a gold star or allowance to kids who do their chores. This reinforces good behavior through a reward system. You don't tell her she is hot and the most beautiful woman in the universe. You instead reward her for actually doing shit. This helps her with her need for self validation of her looks and vagina. This helps her become an actual person in the long run and that her self worth is because of her skills and talents. This is also what you do if you intend to keep her LTR. You don't compliment her looks or coddle her feelings. You pin her drawing on the fridge, or take her out to eat for that new promotion she got at work.
[–]JaspersChest[S] 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (2 children)
Alright this makes more sense, thank you for clarifying.
[–]Freedom__Fighter 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (1 child)
No problem Jasper! you gotta be careful in here. Some of TRP is straight Autist Chad mode, which can be effective, but there are more approaches to avoid blue pill life. Like what are your goals? Plenty of Red Pilled men have marriages. It's the truly Red Pilled that don't get divorced and if a divorce happens it was on their terms. Most marriages that end with it being on the woman's terms was because the husband was a blue pilled beta bitch. You gotta keep frame no matter what and be good with your responses, if any, to her constant shit tests for the rest of your life, if you intend to commit to oneitis... not recommended, but it's not out of question and I wouldn't judge someone for choosing that. An endless sea of revolving pussy sounds like a great option as well, even better.
[–]JaspersChest[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago* (0 children)
It does sound nice to have an endless supply of new women to choose from, but I'm more drawn to finding a woman I really like and sticking with her. I believe in Marriage and try to look at the bigger picture. Marriage is a representation of something beautiful while casual sex hurts a man's self value and the value he places on others. Even though most women probably deserve to get pumped and dumped these days, they're just as confused as us men are about how things should work. Men think they have to be macho/abusive and run through as many women as they can. Women think they have to be whoring around, cunning, and accepting of the abuse to be normal. Everything's outta whack and I tend to set things straight In my life.
[–]redpilledcuck 71 points72 points73 points 4 months ago (2 children)
You ply them with candy and fuck them in your van.
[–]ppanthero 13 points14 points15 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Oh my god... 😂
[–]jacencross 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (0 children)
[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 4 months ago (11 children)
As RDJ teaches you ''smile,nod,agree and keep doing whatever you were doing anyway''.
She tells you ''Omg, you're always so distant/you don't love me anymore/you never help me with anything'' you look at her,nod,agree and reply with ''Yeah,I agree,we should definitely do something about it '' and go back to that new cool push up progression routine you were reading about online.
[–]Kenny_Twenty 7 points8 points9 points 4 months ago (8 children)
What are you, decaf TRP?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (7 children)
what do you mean ?
[–]Kenny_Twenty 1 point2 points3 points 4 months ago (6 children)
Sorry, poorly executed joke. Your advice is good.
Just breakin' balls.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (5 children)
Np bro, I enjoy some good trolling from time to time too
[–]Kenny_Twenty -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 months ago (4 children)
Then I'm your Huckleberry!
[–]InformalCriticism 9 points10 points11 points 4 months ago (3 children)
You guys should really think about meeting up.
[–]Kenny_Twenty 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (2 children)
[–]idmfk 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago (1 child)
I’m your huckleberry
I’m your huckleberry
[–]Kenny_Twenty 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Ohhh. You don't get the reference...
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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Memes, mostly. And Hipster 15 yos sharing ''deep-yet-dank'' links on fb. Kidding aside, it's just something he tweeted one day and got retweeted all over the internet.
[–]stylesm11 6 points7 points8 points 4 months ago (0 children)
You gotta internalize to not take the brunt of what is said seriously
[–]RedPilledRoaster 4 points5 points6 points 4 months ago (0 children)
You don’t take them seriously. At all.
[–]kylerosa21 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago (0 children)
There was a post the other day called “Don’t DEER, just DARE” or something along those lines. It’s by LiveAFTSOV. It should give you a good start on how to treat women like children.
[–]FemtoG 2 points3 points4 points 4 months ago* (0 children)
You have your principles and you know your principles (and all associated actions and words) to be right. this is why you never apologize btw (unless you truly truly should for your soul's sake)
[–]Wrath_of_Trump 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
It's a delicate balance of being a man and remaining in charge of all situations at all times, leading everything they do, and also being childlike yourself by not really caring that much and chasing things which are fun to you (first and foremost).
[–]1redhawkes 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (2 children)
Read on Amused Mastery.
The core is to not take them seriously and treat them like a bratty little sister, playfully, teasing, fun, light.
[–]GorgeousGamer99 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (1 child)
Instructions unclear, punched bratty sister in the face.
[–]1redhawkes 0 points1 point2 points 4 months ago (0 children)
Bonus points if you broke her nose.