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What would you tell your 17 year old self? (self.asktrp)

submitted by OneMinuteDeen

I am currently at a point in my life, where everything changes. Within the next few years, I'll have to transition to being an adult and taking responsibility for myself.
Next year, I'll be done with german highschool and probably start my 3 year apprenticeship as a software developer. This is a scary point in my life. I have no one else to ask this question, except for you guys:

What advice would you give your 17 year old self?


[–]chachaChad 104 points105 points  (30 children)

Lift lift lift

Don't be fat.

Vet for ltr.

Wrap it every fucking time.

Next early and often

Never be afraid of who you are.

Get on your own asap.

Never worry what your parents think.

Game girls a year or two younger than you.

[–]maxofreddit 15 points16 points  (7 children)

Wrap it every fucking time

I REALLY have yet to understand how there are STILL guys ( like /u/stopflatteringme ) who follow this up with, “unless you’ve done A, B, C and you’re sure she’s on birth control and tested.”

In my mid 20’s I had a scare where the girl I was dating thought that she might be pregnant until her period came 2 weeks late. That put enough scare in me to wrap it every fucking time from then on.

“A man is responsible for the location of his sperm at all times.”

Borrow someone’s newborn for a full week of sleeplesss nights, or take half your paycheck every week and “garnish” it by burning it in a fire. Then see if NOT wearing protections feels hat much better... it doesn’t man... it so doesn’t.

Wrap it every time, even if she’s “clean” and on the pill. It puts you in control of your life. That’s as “alpha” as it gets.

As a side note, not that it matters what SHE fucking thinks, but you wrapping every time also tells her that your on the ball and aren’t taking chances. It’s a hard line for you. Hold it.

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    [–]chachaChad 4 points5 points  (5 children)

    .

    I hear you. I've done stupid stuff in my life but I didn't have anyone to tell me any differently. If you're on here and you're reading this, hopefully getting the same message from all these guys make sink in for some so it's still worth it to try.

    I've had lots of pregnancy scares with gf's that I've used protection with. That feeling sucks.

    At 21, I got a 16 year old pregnant. My plan was oral but at some point she just wanted me in her. She had an abortion without any help from me. I regret that I caused her that pain. I was an adult. I should have known better.

    I have a 28 year old daughter from a one night stand that I don't really have a relationship with because when I got up to get the condom, her mother told me there was no need. I HELD THE FUCKING CONDOM IN MY HAND AND PUT IT BACK IN THE DRAWER.

    I've caused a lot pain in my life because I didn't responsibility for my sperm. Don't be me.

    [–]Yeralt 0 points1 point  (4 children)

    Any advice to imorove or increase the cindom effectivity? I have had pregnancy scares with pretty much everygirl i've been with even tho i wrap it , put it on correctly etc... The feeling is sooo disgusting that it kills my desire to be with women.

    [–]clausternn 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    You don't need to "improve condom effectivity," you just need to relax.

    Just make sure you always use your own condoms not hers, buy good brands, and use one everytime. Besides that, just relax, if the 0.1% chance of pregnancy happens, there was nothing you could have done about it.

    [–]Yeralt 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Bro, condoms only have a 84% of effectivity in real world aplications outside of the laboratory

    [–]clausternn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I'd need a source on that.

    Just pullout before cumming if you're that paranoid. Chances of pregnancy go from 0.1% to 0.0001%.

    [–]1984Survivor 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    why getting on your own asap? I'm not denying it, i'm 18 and i'd like to know why do you say that.

    Is it because, in your particular situation, you would have had a better experience moving out sooner or do you think it's more of a benefit for any young fella, not only your past-self?

    [–]UshankaDalek 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    It probably works for some people better than others.

    [–]Square0ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I get along well with my parents but moving out at 18 is the best thing I ever did. It certainly made me more confident and also is more convenient if you have friends / a girl over

    [–]frl987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    it's just shitty AF when you don't & wish you did. plus you will never be able to claim in an argument that you were capable of it, unless you do, for the rest of your life

    [–]LateralThinker13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Getting out on your own means learning to live under your own rules. You learn - or don't - about how to stand on your own two feet, manage your schedule and finances, and otherwise how to adult.

    If you live at home, you aren't truly grown and independent.

    [–]ArcheHoe 3 points4 points  (4 children)

    wrap it every fucking time

    what’s this mean?

    [–]alwaysalliterateonce 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    Wear a condom; rubber; lovesock; glove

    [–]BuckNekkid18 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    ALWAYS use a condom unless it's an LTR who you know for a fact is on birth control. For plates, FWBs, and ONSs always use a condom.

    [–]OneMinuteDeen[S] 21 points22 points  (1 child)

    I know a few people who got tricked by their LTR. She took placebos and now they have to change diapers

    [–]Morphs_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It's a matter of getting a feel for the woman. During my entire college life I didn't use condoms because they weren't working for me. Because the girls were all quite smart they were on the pill and not lying about it. Never had an STD either.

    Nowadays with multiple plates/FwBs I recommend it more. Usually there's one that gets no-condom exclusivity some of the time.

    [–]stopflatteringme 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Man I am totally with wrapping up religiously, but if you're being literal Bout "every time," that sounds tough for me and I'd probably lose interest in sex altogether. Sex is amazing. Sex with a condom is... okay, pretty good, or a greats means to an end etc.

    I'm only recently 'back on the market,' and intend to use a condom with new partners and for the foreseeable future. But in my last LTR, we each got tested before becoming mononagous, (and after splitting 3 years later) then I tracked her menstrual cycles and stricly avoid unprotected spunking anywhere near her potentially fertile window. Even when odds were on the low end I wouldn't. Only when it was extremely, extremely unlikely. That leaves a little more than a week of free for all when done right and religiously. Of course despite any vetting an LTR could fuck around and bring you a new virus home, but that's an acceptable risk (to me) when mitigating for it as much as possible by proper vetting before hand and open eyes in the relationship.

    Now that I'm stepping back onto the field, the excitement of new women is enough to make up for the fact that I need to wear a condom. But, optimistic a goal as it may be, my ideal situation would repeating a dual testing followed by cycle-tracking. If the right candidate emerges that is. I feel I'd be unfulfilled having the barrier 100% of the time. It's sort of the prime motivator I have to give some exclusivity.

    I've been meaning to make a post about this. The biggest complicating factor I see in living the bachelor life is having to choose between less fulfilling sex vs. expensive testing that racks up quite the bill if you want to have multiple partners and want to be thoroughly careful. My fantasy plate spinning scenario, I guess, would be multiple plates who've all agreed to regular testing and agreed to not either not sleep with anyone who hasn't been tested since last encounter or not sleep with anyone else without protection. Obviously, not failsafe, but I do feel like putting STIs and testing in a spotlight would keep up front of. mind and discourage risky behavior from plates. There's still a level of risk but this pie-in-the-sky dream would more than pass my risk:benefit ratio test. Except it would be cost prohibitive.

    Ultimately, it will probably be easier to just fuck work condoms for a while and get in an LTR since finding one quality candidate for this position will be difficult enough, let alone multiple.

    [–]juliusstreicher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Don't let them talk you into wearing a condom every time! Fatherhood is amazing! Especially when the mother is the town pump!

    [–]LavenderBuds 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    this man fucks

    [–]endertheend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    >Man I am totally with wrapping up religiously, but if you're being literal Bout "every time," that sounds tough for me and I'd probably lose interest in sex altogether. Sex is amazing. Sex with a condom is... okay, pretty good, or a greats means to an end etc

    Great, well please prepare yourself to be a good father.

    [–]RedKepler 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    That last bit is the only bit I have somewhat a problem with, at this age anyway. Though I do know a couple of people who have successfully gamed girls like 2 years younger, though they're 15 (one of them got with their girl when she was 14).

    Thats my only problem, is that they're underage (British) but I get that a lot of people who I know are successful do go after high value girls (like those of my age group) are 1 or 2 years older than them. No jealousy, kudos to them, just in my honest veiw is I'd rather not statutory rape. Even if this kid (which is what they are at these ages) is head of heels for you.

    [–]chachaChad 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    You to use a bit of common sense. Leave the young ones to ripen.

    [–]RedKepler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Hmm?

    [–]FatmanO 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Why next early and often? Im 18 and why should i game girls younger? Thanks!

    [–]chachaChad 3 points4 points  (2 children)

    Next early and often...

    Don't work on a relationship because you want to SAVE it. Good relationships aren't work. Bad ones are. Learn to realize that sometimes people just don't get along that well. Find girls you do get along with and don't hang out with difficult ones no matter how good the pussy is.

    18 year old girls are fucking 20-29 year old guys. Guys mature later than females. Girls in your class know you from grade school. You're not mysterious or attractive to them. If you're a senior in high school, girls a year or two behind you think you're fucking awesome.

    As a guy, you really shouldn't be with a female that has more experience in sex and life than you do. While banging older chicks might be fun once in a while, her being older changes the power dynamics. Also, younger chicks are much more fun than older ones. The still have some of their innocence intact.

    [–]FatmanO -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Just talked to my girl friends in the pool, 5 of them. All only kissed guys the same age as 18, this is what msotly doesent apply in TRP imo.

    [–]chachaChad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I don't think 18 year old female virgins are that uncommon despite what everyone here on TRP says. I've talked to a large number of college girls who are 20+ and haven't had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Of course, most of those are STEM majors so that's sort of to be expected.

    That being said, any hot girl that's been double teamed repeatedly isn't going to tell you shit.

    [–]neveragoodtime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Vet for ltr and Next early and often. Half of being an alpha is treating women how they deserve to be treated. I was taught that every girl is a special priceless snowflake and any girl could be ltr. So instead of treating the slut like a slut, I treated her like a girlfriend. I thought any girl that would have sex with me was my girlfriend now, without realizing I really didn’t want the kind of slut that would sleep with me as my girlfriend. Let me tell you, the best possible outcome there is she gets bored of your beta ass and leaves on her own. It’s far worse when they stick around and let you fuck them while they fuck your mind.

    The other half of being alpha is treat yourself as you deserve. That means getting your shit together and lifting. Those two things would have helped 17 me. I probably wouldn’t have listened, but they really would have helped.

    [–]Iron_and_Glass 97 points98 points  (16 children)

    Lift. Recognize that every step you take in improving yourself now improves the quality of the rest of your life.

    Also stop wasting time on porn.

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      [–]Iron_and_Glass 34 points35 points  (2 children)

      Self improvement. Better posture, better looks, more testosterone, the knowledge that you can physically wreck shit, and higher confidence.

      Its therapeutic and my personal time. Its why trp is synonymous with lifting, the mental and physical benefits help to naturally build a strong frame.

      [–]thomas_ja 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      How do I get into lifting? My schools got a gym that I’m gonna start going to... tomorrow actually, but like do I just go and lift stuff or there some kinda app you’d recommend?

      [–]Victorinox2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Find a workout program online. You have plenty of them on bodybuilding (.) com forum.

      If you are beginner, the recommended routine is usually Starting Strength or something similar, focusing on heavy lifts. I started with a Push/Pull/Legs routine (pretty similar to coolcicada's plan on the site) and it worked fine for me, but probably not as good as started routine would.

      Also, go easy on your first few sessions and learn proper form. Later, go beastmode. Eat enough, sleep a lot, be patient and consistent.

      [–]BuckNekkid18 21 points22 points  (4 children)

      Almost every guy starts lifting to attract women, that's true, but almost everyone falls in love with working out after a while and it turns into a healthy habit.

      [–]Flintblood 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      I second this. I started to shape up, but got hooked on how it made me feel. If you workout without much rest you can also get cardio benefits - all which help make sex feel and go better. I’ve had less back and neck complaints too since practicing good form with classic lifts.

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        [–]Flintblood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I wish I got addicted to lifting and making gains.

        I think I was dark side powered. I was frustrated and on a mission to shape up and make women see me differently. It seems that I am most inspired now when it seems that people and the world are dragging me down.

        So I got on a mission, but I started slowly. I started with regular light cardio, then some crossfit, intermittent fasting and keto. I started that around February or March and achieved a much needed cut and weight loss by late April or May. That early success and reading TRP led to another wave of inspiration that led me to lifting. Success feeds success. I've been focused more on lifting for the past 2 months and less stringent with my diet the last month. I am currently doing stronglifts 5x5, slowly adding defined bulk, and carb cycling on rest days to help keep gains leaner (I think).

        [–]123_Meatsauce 22 points23 points  (0 children)

        The red pill teaches to not put the pussy on the pedestal; arguing that “99% do it to get women,” is false. Men do it to improve themselves and women are a benefit of a man who has improved himself.

        [–]endertheend 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Halo effect.

        In anycase, your protests don't matter

        Lift.

        Other guys doing it for girls doesn't matter,

        Lift.

        You doing it for girls doesn't matter,

        Lift.

        Living out in the woods alone off the grid doesn't matter,

        Lift.

        You Being a soyboy faggot doesn't matter

        Lift.

        Being a woman doesn't matter

        Lift.

        Wondering why you should Lift doesnt matter

        Lift

        The first step is to Lift. If you're not doing the first step, and are not willing to (which is what your post sounds like) Then for you, there IS no second step. Might as well give up now, leave the TRP subreddit and never return as you will ALWAYS, ALWAYS ALWAYS be told to:

        Lift

        Lifting is the Pre-Requisite to living a good life. If you aren't lifting, you aren't living well. and you're not going to have the best life you could have.

        I won't argue this point, either. It's non-negotiable, mandatory.

        Lift.

        Any response you come up with will be met with this simple word:

        Lift.

        [–]alchamest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        i am 36, i do it primarily for health reasons.

        Starting younger would of been great, however i have no desire to be huge, just functionally strong. OP is looking to go into Software dev, the occupation is sitting on your ass most of the day, doing weights is needed to counter how sedentary it is.

        [–]ArcheHoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        i’m gonna be honest my liftin goals are literally because i want to look like a CG model in shirts, it’s not really about women

        [–]frl987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        your question answered itself as far as 99% of guysare concerned, didn't it?

        [–]ppanthero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        And still lifting has positive effects on your health, it teaches you discipline and it gets people to have more respect for you. Even if you only do it for getting bitches.

        [–]HandsomeTalos 34 points35 points  (7 children)

        I’m 19, but really regret that I’ve wasted the highschool years partying and drinking instead of studying more. Make a schedule, ace every class. Knowledge gives you so much power. 2-3 months before my big final exam I discovered this subreddit, went full monk mode. Now I’m studying both law and sociology in college. School is so damn important.

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          [–]musterdcheif 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          How do you schedule things lol

          [–]Hellsteelz 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          Funny how I find it the opposite. I would tell you to have fun and party more in your younger years.

          [–]moltenw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I'm also on the fence about this.

          I went to a great school, though I was just an average (7/10) student. I absolutely hated it.

          Currently taking a gap year and I have never felt as free in my life, I feel like I'm on the top of the world.

          My opinion might change about school, who knows, but I believe that school is neccessary for average folks. You can learn most shit on your own if you have the right mentality.

          [–]packetdata 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          This Wasted High school and freshman year running around chicks,partying, watching too much porn.

          Realized the hard way when i got rejected for GSOC(Google summer of code).

          [–]endertheend -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Cool,

          Lift.

          Then. . .

          Lift More.

          [–]Tiway22 30 points31 points  (1 child)

          Gym. School. Grind. Dont get upset over girls and their bullshit, just move on.

          Your life views will drastically change by the time you are 25-30.

          Above all - do something each day that will help you in the next. No matter how minor.

          Partying isn’t everything.

          Don’t try to impress people.

          The most important person to you, is you. It’s ok to be selfish.

          [–]julius42 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          This one is good advice. Study hard. Lift hard. Go out whenever you can. And don’t get upset about irrelevant things.

          [–][deleted] 45 points46 points  (5 children)

          Precum contains sperm.

          [–]camefromnofap 6 points7 points  (4 children)

          Is this true in cases where one has not came in a while? Regardless, just wrap it.

          [–]this_weeks_account2 7 points8 points  (2 children)

          Yeah, it’s true. Precum always contains sperm, and yes, enough to get that random pregnant.

          [–]camefromnofap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Got it.

          [–]Critical_Mongoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I know so many people who don't wrap it and don't take the pill. Educated people. I'm amazed I've never heard of anyone in my social circles getting a girl pregnant like this. Really can't tell if people are too pedantic about it or these people are extremely lucky.

          [–]IntenseCuddling 13 points14 points  (0 children)

          Go talk to someone new every day, doesn't matter who just so long as you improve your conversation skills.

          Start picking up heavy objects and build some bloody muscle. Don't wait till your 24, lifting will change your life.

          Be bold motherfucker, don't let fear of failure prevent you from experiencing life. Opportunities come to those who seek them so go make as many as you can.

          Lastly, save some damn money. Doesn't matter how much, just take a small portion from every paycheck and put it aside. I'm 26 now and still struggling with this. Skip buying those couple beers and save that 10 bucks instead, boom that's some forward progress this pay period.

          [–]BrodinsOats 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          Don’t do drugs

          [–]UshankaDalek 11 points12 points  (3 children)

          • Quit porn IMMEDIATELY.

          • Eat more red meat and less pasta, or you'll never put on muscle.

          • Don't get hung up on that girl in college.

          • Don't "get to know" a girl first. Get her number and take her out with clearly sexual intentions. Otherwise you'll go through this cycle of getting hurt again and again and again.

          • Never compromise.

          • No, not even for your girlfriends. ESPECIALLY not for girlfriends.

          • Break the rules and push people for favors to get that summer job you need.

          • Don't try to help people and only be nice to old ladies.

          • Don't ever have more than 2 drinks or you'll have a problem when you're my age.

          [–]YongThug 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          What happens at your age with drinking? My dad's been drinking since he was a teen all the way to 45, drinks 4-5 cans about every 2 days,more than 12 a week I'd say. I heard it damages the liver but I'd like to hear it from you about what happens?

          [–]OneMinuteDeen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Maybe I can tell you a bit about heavy drinking. My father drank about 2-3 beers every day. Beer kills muscle and puts on fat quickly. He got overweight pretty fast. He had to replace both hips at 38, because he had a hard job while being obese. Basically everyone in the family cut ties with him (even his wife), except for me and my grandma. Now at 40, he got told that his liver is done for.

          If he didn't drank 2-3 beers every day, his whole life would be better. You can become addicted to alcohol pretty fast. That stuff destroys your life, if you are not careful. Already seen it twice.

          [–]Blackedoutsky 10 points11 points  (2 children)

          To study more. Alot more

          [–]julius42 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          TRP talks a lot about lifting, and it’s good advice. But studying hard is probably even more relevant.

          [–]Blackedoutsky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

          yup, cant go wrong with both.

          [–]huantran 31 points32 points  (1 child)

          Don’t fucking be nice.

          [–]Revenant221 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Amen

          [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          "Nut in her mouth"

          [–]GucciGangBucks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          I’d tell my self to actually smash the chicks you had a chance to smash. I had an crazy high ego (I think that’s what it was) where I viewed myself as too good for a lot of women in high school I probably should of just smashed. Looking back I dropped the ball with a lot of chicks. idk wtf i was thinking.

          [–]philbignig 21 points22 points  (2 children)

          Go out of your confort zone as much as you can.. even if it makes you look retarded it dosent matter

          [–]PR0JECT_XIII 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          I use to regret and contemplate the decisions I made in the past. But at 27 I can confidently say fuck that.

          Fuck regret and all the other bullshit. I know I wouldn't be the man I am today without experiencing the struggles, the shit decisions, the oneitis etc.

          What ever the fuck it is I embrace it.

          The past is beautiful, it fucking teaches you lessons that no post will ever be able to. Dude you're young, enjoy it, make mistakes while you are at an age where it is expected.

          [–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          If could go back I would learn the skill and train myself in some field of martial arts. Karate, kick boxing, jujitsu, ultimate fighting etc. just be someone who could pretty much kick anyone’s ass who screwed with me. This would not only boost my confidence, but keep me strong, in shape, able to confront adversity, etc. my other advice is self employment. But your field may not be conducive for that.

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          [–]BuckNekkid18 -4 points-3 points  (3 children)

          I'm surprised by how much trouble some people have with controlling their use of substances. I still smoke weed and drink on weekends while still managing my own business and working 12 to 16 hour shifts every day.

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            [–]BuckNekkid18 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

            I wasn't really talking about you lol, but you're wrong because I'm actually 12.

            [–]Unlucky_Leader 8 points9 points  (2 children)

            wake up at 4:30 am. it will save you from the losers that you are hanging around with right now.

            source: hung out with losers at 17.

            [–]OneMinuteDeen[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

            Can you elabirate on that? I know that waking up early is good, but what does it have to do with 'saving myself from losers'?

            [–]Unlucky_Leader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            most of the trouble that a young man encounters is after 8 pm. staying up late, playing video games/gossiping/unhealthy activities.

            by waking up early. it does two things, the first is to remove oneself from bad activities in the evening(s). it also gives oneself the morning(s) to do positive activities.

            your peers are going to spend the next few years binge drinking. they're partying will happen in the coming years. your freedom of time is one of the first things that you can claim. there are a lot of time suckers. that want to do unproductive activities. each one individually may not be wrong but compounded they make a world of a difference. It's not one beer. it's one beer then one round of call of duty, then one movie, then one more beer.

            now, what to do with yourself when you wake up alone, and early. lifting weights is good, mediation/jounrling is good.

            being around good people is better than being alone. being alone is better than being around bad people. being around bad people is something i wish i had avoided sooner.

            [–]ahackercalled4chan 9 points10 points  (2 children)

            Lift more, video games less. and don't smoke. if you never start smoking, you'll never have to struggle with quitting.

            [–]SirCircularCube 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Smoking weed or cigs?

            [–]ahackercalled4chan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

            cigarettes. tobacco is evil.

            [–]Rear-Naked-Artichoke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Stop waiting for things to get better. It doesn't happen on its own.

            [–]Quo210 4 points5 points  (0 children)

            Don't become an MD so soon, you'll burn out and hate the career, enjoy life for a single year without killing yourself in effort.

            Dismiss every single counsel comming from women, specially from young ones. It will increase the mess by a tenfold. Young men will misguide you too.

            Don't stop lifting because clothes don't fit anymore you idiot

            [–]giangr21 13 points14 points  (4 children)

            Dont start a LTR in high school

            [–]unsolicitedcoonery 13 points14 points  (2 children)

            Disagree. HS is a difficult place to apply game multiple girls without social repercussions so imo best to find somebody you like and build your sexual experience whilst applying trp on it

            [–]gainz88 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            I agree with you. It’s easier to find a girl you like at 15/16, then get into a relationship and fuck than to be a 19-20 year old virgin in college who feels nervous around women because he feels like an outcast for still being a virgin. You don’t have to marry the girl from high school, just get some experience as that will give you some confidence and as we all know, that’s important.

            I have a couple of 19-20 year old acquaintances that are like that and it just puts an unnecessary shadow over their lives where everything becomes about still being a virgin. It’s kinda sad, really.

            [–]unsolicitedcoonery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Definitely, I didn’t get into a LTR till my last year of HS after my exams were out the way & it was the perfect opportunity to apply TRP theory and literally watch the effects of implementing & getting loads of sexual experiences at the same time.

            Only thing I’d say is be careful of getting emotionally attached and having illusions you’ll stay together forever

            [–]redpilledjoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

            Tfw dated 2 girls all through HS... rip

            [–]francie-brady 6 points7 points  (0 children)

            "DO NOT CUM INSIDE HER! Get dressed and walk away now!"

            [–]Iwantmypasswordback 4 points5 points  (2 children)

            Hit on every girl at your HS recklessly. Who cares if you fail? It feels like a big deal to you now but it is SOO not. Get your sexual experience up before college bc you want the word to get out that you’re a good fuck. Girls will talk.

            Go after chicks younger than you that can’t drive etc assuming you have a car

            [–]Critical_Mongoose 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            getting a car and your license super early is actually a really good way to get early sexual experience

            [–]musterdcheif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Sixteen and I procrastinated my license for a year, friends constantly roast me on it

            But I have the red pill and they don’t

            [–]Lego_My_Alter_Eggo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

            stop trying to get to the end. there is no end, only now.

            [–]youcantdenythat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Learn how to invest in a retirement plan (roth ira, etc) when you turn 18. Even if you only invest 10% of what you earn, that shit adds up. You'll have a couple of million by age 60.

            Open an account and learn how to do it. Do it right and retire young while you can still enjoy your money.

            [–]Square0ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Also german 22 living in NY making 200k in tech. Have some fun in university. If you plan to work in the US don’t focus on grades but seek opportunities and connections. Try to get internships during spring / fall breaks. Don’t think you can’t work at google/fb/Uber/apple/Amazon just because you don’t go to an American target school - just apply! Start doing leetcodes as soon as you know how to code.

            Falls du sonst noch fragen hast, schick mir ne dm.

            [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

            Don't cross that street on October 31 at 7:15 am. Don't look at porn. Stacey is a whore who will later be a heroin addict. Don't look at porn. Your dad is gonna die next summer, that anger you're holding in towards him needs to come out. Don't look at porn. Quit playing videogames. Don't look at porn. Forget about loyalty to your friends, they come and go. Don't look at porn. Leave home as soon as possible, your mom will be alright. Don't look a porn.

            [–]OneMinuteDeen[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            I'll be honest: cutting porn is probably the best and hardest task in my free time. I really have to work on my porn addiction, good tip.

            I don't hate my father. Even though he destroyed his life, he always tried to be there for me. Evem when he was at his lowest point in his life, he made sure to call me atleast once every two weeks, so I could tell him what is going on in my life. He may be the last person I would get serious advice from, but I still love him.

            Why should I leave home early? I originally planned to stay home until I've finished my apprenticeship.

            [–]musterdcheif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            This is advice to himself not you

            [–]rolleN1337 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Don't be a lil bitch.

            [–]2chazthundergut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            1. Its okay for people in general (and especially chicks) to dislike you. Learning to be okay pissing someone off because I prioritized my own happiness was the most important lesson I've taken out of TRP.

            2. Time is your most valuable asset. Stop wasting it dumbass! Get on your purpose, get on your grind! Time is your most valuable asset. Stop throwing it away on friends who aren't worth it and chicks who aren't fucking you.

            3. Sugar is poison. Treat it as such.

            4. Before entering University, figure out specifically how you plan to earn your money, and plan backwards from there. I would've saved years of my life if I had done it this way instead of drifting around aimlessly without a definite plan.

            5. You are the only person responsible for you. For your life, your happiness, your successes, and your failures. Including your relationships with women. Accept responsibility for all of it. Creating your dream life is your responsibility and no one else will put in the work for you. So get to it.

            6. Set your alarm the night before. Wake up early every morning. Make your bed, find gratitude for one thing in your life, and do your workout. Every single morning. If I had started this routine at 17 I would be retired today. It changed my life.

            7. Its okay to be hungry. It's okay to be sweaty and out of breath and pukey and scared and cold and tired and nervous and uncomfortable. It is okay to be uncomfortable. Push up against that discomfort, wrap yourself in it like a blanket, and find comfort in it. Discomfort is necessary for growth as a human and a man. So embrace that shit and stop running from it.

            8. Everything is going to be okay. You are perfect just the way you are. The universe loves you unconditionally. Go easy on yourself buddy; you're only human and you did the best you could. Love yourself, forgive yourself, and move on.

            [–]DropDeadTyrant 5 points6 points  (2 children)

            I'd tell myself right now to stop jerking off and get my head straight. Every time I have the chance for success, it's snatched from me. Every time I have a moment of happiness, someone pisses me off. I'm not saying become a psychopath, but I need to become less emotional. I need to get off my ass and do something before December and I need to stop jerking off.

            [–]KidWonder101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Same for me man. Some things in life will just kill your motivation and "animal instinct".

            I'm rooting for you.

            [–]camefromnofap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            r/NoFap has lead me here and subsequently changed my life- I recently broke a 200 day streak. Don't listen to any relationship related posts there they make though because they tend to be BP.

            [–]btharmony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Spend as much time as you can with the ones you love and show them you love them. I mean your immediate family and people you would die for.

            Everything else is tertiary to that.

            [–]BrainsOverGains 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            Hey dude where you from? I'm also in my last year of highschool in Germany?

            [–]OneMinuteDeen[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Near hamburg, in a small town

            [–]BrainsOverGains 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Damn that's far away I'm near Frankfurt. Viel Glück beim Abitur!

            [–]Khiv_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Invest on yourself and try to fuck every attractive women in your way. Don't worry about what they will think, it won't affect your future.

            [–]Bruchibre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Stand straight, pay more attention to your appearance, don’t be afraid of rejection. Also learn stuff now that you have time: music isn’t so hard, martial arts aren’t only for brutes. I was kind of a loser when I was 17... had lots of good friends and life was sweet and fun though.

            [–]OfficerWade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Stop wasting time with people who say they care about you and move on to people who actually try.

            Ninja edit: LIFT NOW

            [–]FromTheCaveIntoLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            dont smoke so much weed. hit the gym religiously. start investing money at 18. Play literally half the amount of video games you do now and pick up a martial art or other hobby with the new time. Go to the library and just pick out books that interest you and read.

            [–]ArcheHoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            don’t date anyone first year of college

            my own mistake lost focus

            [–]Vynxe-Vainglory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            HODL

            [–]BuckNekkid18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Keep lifting, end my high school LTR. I don't regret anything, and I didn't make any bad decisions, but I did stop myself from doing stuff that would've been beneficial for me because I had a lot of fear, and I was a "nice guy" who avoided confrontation and almost never said "no".

            [–]DonnySequoiaBuddz707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Prioritize your studies and health; it doesn’t matter if you weight train, mountain bike, kayak, play sports, just be active.

            Save money, have a goal, save 100 a month anything, just don’t spend all of your hard earned cash because one day you may need a larger sum for an emergency.

            Your studies should be a true priority, because they are going to help you be financially successful and better off in the future if you stick to them and choose a field with work or high demand.

            Read on philosophy and spirituality, you must become strong both physically and psychologically, in my opinion, you need both and truly can’t have one without the other.

            Prioritize your inner peace, it is better too be happy and content, then anxious and miserable

            [–]sesasees 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            That career you busted your ass for and sacrificed your fitness, happiness, social life and got into depression over? Not worth it.

            Go lift. No matter what. That’s better for your self worth anyway. And you’ll spend less time exhausted in bed unable to get up.

            Also that girl you thought was different is not. She may be the pastor’s daughter but she has just about no morals. She will still ditch you for the hotter guy and she will frame you as an asshole no matter what you do.

            [–]Critical_Mongoose 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Well I definitely relate with that first sentence. What field are you in? pm me if you want

            [–]sesasees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Pm’d

            [–]abudun79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            If a girl invites you to sleep at her place, in her bed, and starts cuddling, there's a reason. And it is the reason you've been hoping for.

            [–]cenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Stop being a little bitch.

            [–]Dr_Van_Nosstrand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            You literally have no idea how the world works and what it takes to truly be successful as a man. Seek advice from your elders.

            [–]Black_m0ngoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            You're the author of your own life. No one else.

            [–]enwhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Don't ever get married.

            [–]dtyler86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Stop believing that you can’t be whatever you want to be. The people that don’t seize their dreams and live in fear will become more clear as you get older. I high school I wasnt super popular or surrounded by hot girls all the time, I was a skateboarder that played in rock bands.

            Persevering to stay my course, Im a voice actor, musician, photographer, video producer and I work for myself and travel constantly all while earning more money than just about anyone I know. The point is, all the way from high school, through college and the first five years after college, everybody wanted to tell me I couldn’t do what I wanted to do and I needed to do something “serious“. These people are afraid of huge goals, they always will be and they are constantly jealous of other people’s successes. The bottom line is, do not let those people keep you down. This is your one shot. It’s YOUR life.

            You’re young. Start figuring out what you like and invest time in it. I’m 32, I wish to god I had started lifting weights at 17, reading, eating new foods, traveling more and refining some amazing skills. So much living to do and at 17, no one could have told me who I’d become and my only regrets were not knowing who I really was sooner.

            Oh... and don’t get involved with a long term relationship for a while. While you’re at it, delve deep into r/RedPill

            Good luck!

            [–]Radinax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            1. Lift.
            2. Embrace the female energy of a women, let it swallow you like a drug but always put yourself first.
            3. Think about what makes you feel alive and have fun, then seek ways to monetize them, its worth it and you be happy that way.
            4. Meditate.

            [–]mcs007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            1. workout, but have other hobbies you enjoy. ONLY lifting makes for a boring life, and it can grow old if that's all you do.

            2. read books other than just the ones recommended on this site. Things like "ego is the enemy" and "deep work" are great places to start.

            3. talk to more ppl. do it cuz it's enjoyable and easier to talk to random girls when you talk to a lot of random ppl on a regular basis. I don't mean in depth conversations with everyone, but just saying "How are you?" to the 60 yr old lady walking down the street even helps me a lot.

            4. hold eye contact with women longer than you're comfortable with. I've been doing this recently and it's led to more IOIs than almost anything else. Also gaining size thanks to the gym has helped as well.

            5. realizing having approach anxiety is absolute bullshit and there's not much of a reason to have it. Although, it never completely goes away.

            6. something that's helped with #5 is realizing that I'm floating on a goddamn rock floating thru space usually puts things into perspective for me. What I mean is: as long as you're not raping or murdering ppl then most of what you do in life won't affect others so much that everyone will be repulsed by your presence. We're only here for a short amount of time so either hate yourself for not approaching that hb7+ or nut up and see what the fuck happens. Hell, you might even impress yourself every now and then. Check out the overview effect that is reported by astronauts.

            Goodluck buddy.

            [–]frl987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            unless you're making money, people won't care what you know or believe. be pragmatic about this.

            your parents will move heaven & earth for you, but there's certain things them always be wrong & unhelpful about. avoid these things. don't try to make them understand everything

            major in computer science -- or at least a field you'd want to work in & not something you want to learn but don't want to work in, ie. psychology is great but it's going to remain a proto science (like alchemy) for the conceivable future

            [–]sampson158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            lets see I was 18 in the year 2000, so....

            • June 3rd 2000 powerball #'s 13,14,15,31,37,10
            • June 7th 2000 powerball #'s 19,39,45,46,49,17
            • June 21st 2000 powerball #'s 1,24,27,28,43,25
            • January 2018 powerball #'s 4,7,14,46,59,22 powerplay 10x

            then I would say, This is you from the future, trust me, dont waste any more time with marching band. Learn to brew beer, and open a brewery. You know what to name it. Lift weights, get fit, and dont ever get married, if you want kids donate sperm, and dont marry that crazy woman. Remember All women are like that, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.

            [–]hiddenpersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Lift no matter what you do, how busy you are. Quit fucking cigarettes. Eat clean and eat a lot. Don’t try to give validation to people. Do whatever makes you happy.

            [–]Critical_Mongoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I know a lot of people are saying lift but I think these are more important:

            Do what you want to do in life, not what others expect of you or what you think will impress others etc. Don't do something just for the sake of money (certain university degrees) and don't go in with an attitude of "i will grow a liking to it later" or "i will work hard later and it will be fine". Try find real hobbies and real friends. Don't be edgy for the sake of being edgy. Find genuine interest in others and treat them with respect (it goes a long way) especially people who are providing for you. I could honestly go on and on.

            [–]mozofila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Dont blow it. Keep is simple. Count your money

            [–]endertheend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Same as chachaChad:

            Lift lift lift

            Don't be fat.

            Lift lift lift

            Don't be fat.

            Lift lift lift

            Don't be fat.

            At 17 I already knew to wear a condom, and I saw how "happy" my married parents were so a tthat age I already knew I never wanted to marry. I eventually learned game, My generation had the new mASF boards.

            Thing is, no one told me to lift. I did a lot of Cardio, and even messed around with weights, (lots of leg pressing) I had girls comment on my ass looking good. . .but I was too much of a sheltered kid Religious parents"Happily divorced" with lots of dometic issues I might add.+church+AIDS epidemic scared me off of dealing with girls at that age till my early 20's.

            Also youtube was just starting, as well as google, so a lot of the lifting info that's out now wasnt even close to available then

            Yes I was fumbling aroud with life then, but seriously, If I knew about lifting (I wasnt fat) and appplied it, my life would be totally different now.

            Oh well, better late than never

            [–]Red90210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            [–]Andorli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Don't worry about anything so much. In the long run it won't matter. Meet new people, don't be afraid to make fool of yourself. Let things go, they don't mean as much as you think they mean. Life is very unpredictable, it is important to set goals and work towards them, but never dismiss that an opportunity or a sudden event can change the course of your future life.

            In terms of more practical advice obviously I would recommend doing sports (lifting) and using free time in more balanced way, also whatever you choose to study, go deep and try to gain insight that others don't have (mastery).

            [–]GoldZone1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Lift. Study. Read but dont read science fiction, read something you can apply to your life. Lift more.

            [–]bobbobbitybob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Lift.

            Chill the fuck out.

            [–]Cametotherightplace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Listen to your father. If I did that I would be where I am now in my career, but 2 years earlier. Also would have learned a lot of house hold skills from him such as tile cutting, heating, and welding. Be patient with people and don't show frustration or jealousy. Before asking for help exhaust all other options. Invested earlier. Attempt to learn a new skill every week; every Sunday Google stuff like how a refrigerator works, how to hang sheet rock, how to solder, how to properly invest. 17 year old me wouldn't listen to this though. He would just shake his head and say yeah yeah gotcha and go be unproductive.

            [–]Oceansdrive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Do NOT start smoking. Literally. Never touch one. I was hooked at 19 years old, after my first cigarette ever. Also, the fraternity I joined is thr most fun times I had, but it made me fat & lazy. Keep your priorities straight, now Ive had to study 6 years for 4 years bachelor ...

            Just, if you see yourself putting on weigth, change your lifestyle asap. However, do not randomly pickup weigths, get a trainer/class to make your technique right first. I lifted wrong, popped my shoulder joint, had an operation, spent 2 years not sporting because I couldnt do that much and used it as an excuse > fat. Struggling to lose it since Im most likely insulin resistant. Cut your carbs yo, you do not need bread and pasta every day.

            [–]moltenw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            School isn't that important.

            What's important is LEARNING. I hated my subjects in school, but I was always curious about graphic design and programming and a bit more "unorthodox" ways of getting ahead in life, and you know what? It feels great. It feels great to go against society's pressure - "Finish school, go to college, have a family" etc. The amount of freedom you feel is incredible.

            [–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            TAKE RISKS.

            DON'T MAKE DECISIONS BASED UPON FEAR.

            GET YOUR DEGREE

            LIFT

            [–]dumstick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Learn JavaScript. Learn a MODERN node.js framework and stay away from dated stuff like RoR, php and such. Work hard to learn new stuff. Start a LinkedIn. Start a GitHub and start doing side hustles.

            Owait I did that and everything went really good.

            [–]bluechipmonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            If you've come to ask such question then you're already way ahead of many of your age and you will be fine. Don't worry.

            [–]majorketone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Start lifting, and invest in bitcoin

            [–]LateralThinker13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Screw college. Lift. Hit trade school and get a solid job. You can worry about girls after you're cut, funded, and employed.

            [–]coolredpill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            fucking lift

            go fuck your gf

            go get accepted to harvard

            [–]Rares5555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Don’t smoke cigarettes. It’s a shitty social drug that flushes away tons of money.

            Don’t go back to your LTR that was diagnosed with depression.

            Read more.

            Lift more.

            Stop eating crap.

            Don’t go to so many parties. Not worth it.

            DGAF what other stupid teens think of you.

            [–]mrHappyPotatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Save money and gym.

            [–]JustChopItOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Take less courses. Rushing school won't help you.

            Lift weights with your friends.

            Apply for internships and co ops.

            Forget about the pressure to go to professional school for the benefit of your family's bragging rights.

            Work at least part time every year.

            [–]throwaway66633gg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            Start roiding

            [–]somefinanceguy 0 points1 point  (4 children)

            Penile implant ASAP

            [–]MiZiSTiK 2 points3 points  (3 children)

            Can you elaborate

            [–]somefinanceguy 3 points4 points  (2 children)

            25 upvotes for full backstory

            [–]MiZiSTiK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            No thanks, downvoted

            [–]Dirty_Socks_Mullins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Nothing changes.

            [–]TomasoJew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Start lifting, no porn, don’t have a LTR

            [–]ENTPunisher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Lead.

            [–]Bitr0t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Stick with your martial arts. (And lift) Do not treat her like your one and only. See other people. Do not marry her (or anyone else,) until you've been in more relationships. Don't be afraid to take risks. Strive to be the best version of yourself. Remember that she will never feel for you the same way you feel for her.

            [–]ethical_pa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Start doing pickup and cold approaches now.

            [–]sjdfhskdjfh -1 points0 points  (6 children)

            Take HGH

            [–]jay_jay_man 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Why?

            [–]this_weeks_account2 1 point2 points  (4 children)

            Gonna go ahead and recommend against this one

            [–]Khiv_ 1 point2 points  (3 children)

            Why? Did you get cancer from HGH?

            That's the only issue that I'd be afraid of, but it occurs mainly on predisposed people or those who already have some tumor waiting to grow.

            [–]Gainznsuch 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            Doesn't it jack your teeth up if you overdo it?

            [–]Khiv_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            On high doses it can do a lot of stuff. Your organs can grow too much, it can make you insulin resistant (like a type 2 diabetic), your bones can grow too much... But that depends on the dosage and individual response.

            I'm not recommending HGH to anyone, and I myself have never used it, but as with every drug it has pros and cons, and the effects depend on the individual.

            [–]Gainznsuch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            I've been intrigued by it before. Especially when I was a college athlete but I never actually fucked around with it. Expensive, likely you could get some bunk shit, and not quite as stable as other compounds as far as storage goes from what I had researched. Pros and cons to everything for sure though.

            [–]berryfarmer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

            That I wasn't searching for [email protected], I was searching for Bitcoin.

            That almost all dietary advice is a sham.

            To build the immune system with proper nutrition before lifting.

            To take in missing micronutrients like iodine boron and lithium.

            That theredpill movement has been formed upon the foundation of the religion of materialism.

            That quantum physics has proven the religion of materialism to be a sham.