Best female qualities/behaviors/actions in a LTR? (self.asktrp)

submitted by atayb7

When you are considering women for an LTR, your past relationships obviously play a role in your selection. A woman may do something that mirrors a negative aspect of your ex and it will appear as a red flag to you, for example. There will likely be "green flags", if I may, that show promise in a potential LTR. There are so many posts on red flags that I'd like to compile a list of good things or "green flags" that are outside of the minimum requirements (low n-count, RP family values, attractiveness, etc). What things do you remember fondly, or a time a girl impressed you with something instead of coming off as desperate? What are qualities/behaviors/actions that you reflect back on in a positive light from old LTR's? The more specific the better.

[–]2CainPrice 73 points74 points  (3 children)


Women nowadays are stupid, boring, entitled, and slutty. People give them stuff just for showing up and being women, and they've come to expect it. With most women, you're supposed to pay for the privilege of being invited to the fuck audition, then put on your best performance to be considered for sex.

Women who are genuinely grateful for things you do for them, and for who you are, and for the time you spend with them - that makes me hard. Genuine gratitude is sexier than the hottest of bodies.

The kind of woman who thanks you for sex and means it, because she knows you could have fucked any number of other women, but she's grateful to have enjoyed the time with you, and who genuinely appreciates it when you spend time with her no matter what you do or how much or little money you spend on her, because she just likes and enjoys being with you and is grateful for it? Hot as shit.

[–]BlackVale 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very true but is like finding a unicorn

[–]buddboy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is huge and I consider it the most important quality in a human, especially a partner. The only girls I've ever been serious about have been crazy appreciative.

[–]TheRedPillMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll second this followed by being submissive. Mostly, she's grateful for you allowing her to please you. I've had this in a lot of LTRs.

You've got to make sure your smv is on point, and you don't oneitis her. If you do, she won't be so grateful because she wants you on a pedestal, not her.

[–]Iron_and_Glass 49 points50 points  (1 child)

Anything that is an investment of time (not money) from the girl in you.

Hand making something Cooking dinner Planning outings Doing laundry

I don't count sex because that's passive and mutually beneficial to her, though a good blowjob that isn't asked for is bonus points.

Reason to count time over money is time is more valuable than money. Her time is a sunk cost in her job and she gets money for it, but her time after that is not.

[–]bikermonk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

a good blowjob that isn't asked for

Living the dream

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 46 points47 points  (0 children)

  • Introspection: being able to "see herself fucking things up" after the fact and laugh with you about it, when you call her out on her shit

  • Kindness: she responds kindly to people because it's her nature, in situations where she really doesn't have to and it doesn't help her to look good in anyone's eyes

  • Loves dad: if her daddy is her hero (not doormat), it will be effortless for her to glom herself onto a RP man that provides her a lot of fulfilling emotion using much the same daddy-princess mechanism

  • Has many non-slutty female friends: women know women's bullshit, and hate each other accordingly. The less bullshit, the less her female friends hate her as a person.

[–]freew33zy 34 points35 points  (1 child)

I'll say this one because it's often overlooked here: being a genuinely fun time to have around. This one is very rare for girls, but I once had an LTR who was a good time (other flags caused this relationship to sink) and man, it was amazing. I saw more of the world and experienced more things than I would have if I were single for that year and a half, and ever since then it's made me realize how much the fun factor should really be valued.

No, don't try to make a hoe a housewife because a lot of hoes are fun too--but if you happen to find a decently good girl who's also a great time, you have the next best thing after a unicorn (imo).

[–]bikermonk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

being a genuinely fun time to have around.

Most of the time is an indicator of a high N count. Interesting stuff and humor more often than not is acquired from Chad.

[–]Bruchibre 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No slutty past, no 200 skeletons in the cupboard.

No attention whore, no crazy, no drama queen.

Get along well with my friends.

HB7 minimum.

[–]ChewJitsu_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

[–]sjdfhskdjfh 17 points18 points  (8 children)

no tattoos, has a good relationship with her dad, handles her finances, doesn't drink heavily, stays in shape even while in a relationship

[–]Ghoat1 7 points8 points  (7 children)

No tattoos what is it a job interview?

[–]buddboy 8 points9 points  (3 children)

tattoo could be indicator of impulsiveness and lack of forward thinking. My best LTR's had no tattoos. A lot of girls with tattoos I were not LTR material. However I also know good girls that have tattoos too. It's not a rule but possibly a decent trend that I never thought about until just now tbh

[–]Ghoat1 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Having tattoos has no correlation what so ever with lack of forward thinking. I also think impulsiveness is a stereotype of people with tattoos, when people are genuinely covered in tattoos they are usually carefully selected, at least that’s the impression I get from those I’m friends with who have many tattoos.

[–]buddboy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Idk man, all my friends with tat's got them before the age of 20 and they all have at least one they regret. Except for that one girl I mentioned who doesn't fit the stereotype. When people are covered in tats they probably just don't care if they have one they don't like any more because it just blends in with the rest

[–]Ghoat1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still don't think they're an indicator of intelligence or have any influence on potential LTR. If you look closely tattoos can tell a lot about a person, like somebody mentioned impulsiveness, an impulsive person may be easy to spot if they have a lot of impulsive tattoos, but when a person has carefully selected pieces of art and has paid massive amounts of time and money constructing this work of art I think it showcases other personality attributes and proves that person is able to at the very least think straight and rationally. To stereotype everyone with tattoos as dumb is idiotic in itself.

[–]takobozu 1 point2 points  (2 children)

lower IQ most likely

[–]Ghoat1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Bro science?

[–]takobozu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you have tattoos?

[–]not-trp-questions 9 points10 points  (1 child)

[–]BurningOrangeHeaven 2 points3 points  (0 children)


[–]CapIshmael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's willing to take it in the bum

[–]redisthetruth -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Cooking delicious meals, cleaning, doing laundry, buying everything, helping me get organized, treating me like a king in every way...my current relationship is like this. It’s fun.

She was a marketing director for big corporation so she helps me with work too.

[–]alvaro10101 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So..your mum?