My fiance and I have been dating for 3.5 years and have been engaged since September. The wedding is this September. We have the venue, the church, the photographer booked and she bought her dress. We met in graduate school and share the same profession. Our relationship has always been great. We rarely fight, we have the same values, same hobbies, basically everything that each of us wanted in our significant other we have. But last Thursday night everything changed. She told me she was freaking out about the wedding. She says she loves me, that I make her the happiest girl in the world but that romantically we dont have it (it is true we don’t have much sex only about once a month but we dont share a place at the moment and we visit each other at our parents houses). She says she needed time to think if this was really what she wanted for the rest of her life. We agreed to give her space and not talk to each other.
We met today and she called off the wedding and gave me my ring back. The hardest thing Ive ever been faced with. She was the love of my life. My last four years have revolved around her for her to just end it 5 months before the wedding is heart wrenching. She says she feels no passion and just sees us as great friends. That there is something missing. That she wants to feel like a woman. Explaining that we dont fight because there is no passion. I pleaded to her to fix it and move in together, have a weekend getaway but she refused. Ill have to move on. I wish she wouldve told me this earlier. She was the one pushing for the ring for the wedding. I dont understand how this can happen so quickly. One day we are looking at houses to move in the next she only sees me as a friend and wants to be single.