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Told Oneitis No - Did I Do The Right Thing? (self.asktrp)

submitted by ouchthosebitches

Ask with my previous posts I have a terrible oneitis. She was just getting back with me but I said no bullshit to myself. I promised myself that. We were going to meet tomorrow, but I get a message tonight asking me to meet. I respond some 15 minutes later and then she says I was too late.

So I cancel tomorrow. I tell her to forget it. Life is too short for this shit. My phone blows up with messages telling me how I am being oversensitive and how I should xyz. I turn it off. It is in the draw and I am not looking at.

I did the right thing. I know I shouldn't need you guys to back me up but this time I just want some validation myself.


[–][deleted] 60 points61 points  (1 child)

Good call. Next.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks man.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 44 points45 points  (1 child)

Yup. No bullshit. You did right.

A funny thing will happen to you now: women won't bullshit you as much in future. It's fucking weird.

The next stage is to walk away sooner and happier. Then you'll get even less bullshit from them.

They know. They can smell strength just like they can smell weakness.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks man this means a lot.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (1 child)

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was down the gym three times a week till it shut a few months ago - just started up 3 weeks ago at a new place :)

[–]mrHappyPotatoe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also u can tell where you live if ahe want to meet you. Why u have to lift a finger or hamster about such stuff.

[–]LordThunderbolt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

N.E.X.T.

[–]TheRedKeepx 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Good job. Also its a drawer, not a draw. Stay strong!

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UK

[–]dontgiveupcarib 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not give two shits about a woman unless she's a close blood relative or you have kids with her. Even then don't put up with too much bullshit. This girl is useless.

[–]neopet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard to ignore a oneitis, you did really well and you should stick to your guns, in a couple weeks you won't regret it. No one should have that much influence on your emotions.

[–]Je_suis_throwy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get a message tonight asking me to meet. I respond some 15 minutes later and then she says I was too late.

My phone blows up with messages telling me how I am being oversensitive and how I should xyz

She tried playing games with you to solidify her control. Good that you canceled.

[–]hawkeaglejesus 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I get a message tonight asking me to meet. I respond some 15 minutes later and then she says I was too late.

Odds are she messaged like 5 different dudes looking to get a quick dick fix. You did right by not putting up with her shit.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's exactly what I thought was going on. Then I imagined being out with her for dinner tomorrow and I just could not picture a scenario where I was not pure rage. So I canned it.

And one of the brothers here told me to block her on everything. I've been told to do that before. But I left her unblocked on phone and she'd call. This time she is blocked on everything. EVERYTHING.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

I think you were a bit oversensitive based on what i read and how little i know. Maybe she was just driving by and was sincere. maybe she was playing games. Who knows and really, who cares?

But it was your decision, stand by it and keep moving forward. If she was really your oneitis then this is for the best.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Based on past behaviour I have let her off this sort of thing time and time again. When compared to my other friends they rarely cancel or if they do it's a big deal and they make it up to me. Not sorry... "too late"

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

you dont need us to validate your decision. all you can do is whatever you feel is best.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's why I did it. Because I knew it was best.

[–]ouchthosebitches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yeah she was a oneitis.

[–]MinaKatja -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

oneitis is a myth to us select few, but I guess not everyone can have pussy at their beck and call.