So I have a friend, let's call him R. R is a very nice and naive guy. He always trys to be a white night when it comes to girls.
He says things like:
"Ohh, I would never leave my woman no matter what"
"I'll always hang on tight even when it gets rough"
"I'm going to find the perfect girl and make her my wife"
I don't think I effectively captured his personality with those quotes. To put it simply, he is 21 but his outlook toward girls is like a 2008-cringey-emo-twilight 13 year old boy.
So he met a girl named N over Facebook and they have been going on some dates. I'm one of his close fiends so I asked him how it all went.
So his first date was going to the movies. Cool. His second date? Going to the movies. Okay. Third date? Movies again Date four? You guessed it, the new fast and furious movie! I asked him if they have had any interesting conversations during any of the dates. He told me that she mostly stays on her phone the entire time.
I was like wow, what a bummer, but at least you didn't pay right?
"no, I'm a gentleman, the man always pays no matter what"
So flash forward THREE MONTHS. I am thinking that R has snapped out of it and "broke up" with her.
I get hit with this. "I took her for a nice Mexican dinner and I told her that I wanted her to be my girlfriend and she told me that she is a person that develops feelings over a long period of time and that she needs to spend more time with me (read free dinner)"
What do I do to help the situation? I know it's not my business but I think that friends prevent each other from getting punked like that right? He plans on continuing with her. By the way, my friend comes from a lower class background. He isn't dirt poor but I can't see what he is doing to be sustainable.
Tldr; friend is getting hoed into free dinner ever week. Can't get him to snap out of his extreme white knight nonsense.