Why is it that a girls will almost never date a short guy but wants men to date and "love" fat girls? (self.asktrp)
submitted 9 months ago by RM_Slays
[–]justshootinblanks 100 points101 points102 points 9 months ago (3 children)
Girls have double standards. One for them and one for us.
In this example, they exclude men based on something which can't be changed ie height, yet men are expected to accept them as fat, which is easily changed.
[–]RM_Slays[S] 29 points30 points31 points 9 months ago (2 children)
Yeah! I find it amazing how fat-shaming is quite offensive to people but height-shaming isn't.
[–]robodylan123 7 points8 points9 points 9 months ago (0 children)
People are only motivated to be offended when it elicits a reaction out of someone, mainly beta orbiters. Men are less offended because no one sympathizes with them. A girl acts offended and she can complain to her orbiters. Stop sympathizing with her and she will stop acting offended. Being offended = a shower of attention and sympathy.
[–]Ganaria_Gente 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Society is gynocentric and misandrist.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 68 points69 points70 points 9 months ago (4 children)
This is part of their game: making demands, no matter how hypocritical.
It's our job to ignore this bullshit.
[–]dokks 5 points6 points7 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Or call them on their shit, then ignore response.
[–]tommycantoy17 -2 points-1 points0 points 9 months ago (2 children)
same thing with a bunch of redpillers here... such as yourself...
they are hidious and have no SMV but because they have read a bunch of self-help articles, think they have a chance with 9s and 10s...
"JUST IMAGINE YOU ARE ALPHA MALE, BRO... AND IT WILL HAPPEN IN REAL WORLD"
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
We're not hypocrites. We are not saying "hot women should date fat men".
We are saying it's fine for everyone to have standards.
This is the difference.
[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
ok little girl, pump the breaks.
Wanna talk about the paper alphas? We can shit on them all day. Want to shit on noobs for being fucking retarded? If they weren't they wouldn't be learning.
If you want to talk strategy, and actual guys getting their worth in life? then you'll have to stop being all spergy and really read, listen, and calm down
[–]zboo1h 33 points34 points35 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Who the fuck listens to what women say?
[–]1redhawkes 19 points20 points21 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Cos their whole life they've been told how they deserve the best aka entitlement plus the validation from betas and desperate orbiters.
Usually goes with some shit like "love me for who I am" written by some landwhale on tinder.
The other thing is female shaming tactic, same when some older guy dates younger chick. Double standards.
[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 14 points15 points16 points 9 months ago (6 children)
I don't understand this. My (half-)brother is like I'm guessing 5'7"-ish and was always very successful with women. Our grandfather (from the half-part), Maximus Peenor, he who laid more pipe than the romans, was about the same height and was a fucking master poon wrangler. My father who was a giant kraut had a hard time just landing my second-hand mother.
[–]EminemLovesGrapes 13 points14 points15 points 9 months ago (5 children)
It's just the hoes on tinder, bumble, okcupid can have these kinds of standards and also uphold them.
Dating aps are so focussed on looks that game falls away. In any normal setting it doesn't matter how short or tall you are. if you're a bit chubby, if you're a bit thin. The thing that can overcome all that is game.
If one of those girls were in a bar setting and any 5"6 man who knows his shit tried to seduce her, she will lose the standards quick.
So I agree.
[–]450k_crackparty 8 points9 points10 points 9 months ago (4 children)
Seriously. I think 5'5 might be the cutaway. Cause I know guys down to this height who slayed in college then ended up with solid LTRs. One was a dirt bag type dude the other a clean cut balding guy who shaved his head. Couldnt be more opposite people but both had great game. Below 5'5 you are a hard road ahead of you, but def not impossible.
I'm 5'7. Height used to bother me sometimes, but then I realized the only thing bothering me is that it's not as easy as being tall. You can still accomplish all the same things, i was just lazy.. I also noticed that a lot of people my mind had perceived as taller than me were the same height. Just due to their posture and overall impression.
[–]EminemLovesGrapes 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (3 children)
I don't have much experience with men below the cutaway. I'm 5"6 (168cm) and I live in the country with the tallest people on average(6"1).
Assuming you don't look like a manlet, at which point you're too wide it's shouldn't be that much of an issue. It's always about how you carry yourself.
You're taller, have a better jawline and lift? congrats, this just means you get more IOI's, you can make more mistakes before she loses interest.
Some people have it easier and some people like us just have to work harder for it. And that's life.
[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (2 children)
I live in the country with the tallest people on average(6"1).
I live in the country with the tallest people on average(6"1).
Dutch? Just curious.
I'm in the San Francisco Bay Area, which very strange when it comes to this metric. Now, when I was a kid, I think the average height for males was 5'8"--going from memory here, so beware. The interesting part here is that the vast majority of American males were White, Black or "white Hispanic" (whatever the fuck that means). I think the average height now is around 5'10". However... where I live there are a lot of first and second generation asians and they are notably shorter. (A lot of their grandkids will catch up, as there are also some very tall 4th+ generation East Asians now.). Meanwhile, the whites, blacks and old demographic has gotten taller. So instead of a overall demographic that hovers around an average height, it is wildly skewed in all directions. This creates some very odd distortions to the sexual marketplace here.
[–]EminemLovesGrapes 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago* (1 child)
Yep, dutch. Which makes absorbing RP knowledge always a bit trickier because some concepts are very influenced by American culture. But that's not the point.
That might mean that you're just as tall as we are. And which the common thing that most white women prefer to only date white men... makes it even weirder.
[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
most white women prefer to only date white men
most white women prefer to only date white men
I think people way over think this. Look at the animal kingdom. Yes, that stupid dog might hump your leg, but overall there is a vast array of creatures that have to somehow find another creature like it for mating purposes. There surely has to be some deep seated, innate impulse to seek those that look fairly similar to ourselves. Of course, not all instincts are absolutes and clearly it is often overriden, but it's the state we all start from. I think.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 months ago* (0 children)
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[–]UncleWarwick 12 points13 points14 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I’ve banged girls who have been 6 inches shorter than me and 6 inches taller than me.
[–]NazoXIII 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago* (0 children)
It, like others have said is a mix of a double standard, laziness, and solipsism.
They want you to be accepting of their poor life choices, whilst disqualifying you for things you have no ability to control. It also doesn't even have to just be limited to being a fat ass, it could be anything that implies poor life choices. For example, Women want men to date single mothers, not because a single mother is considered some kind of virtuous thing to be sought after (although, in today's society it gets the cringiest and most vocal lip service paid to it, almost constantly, but it becomes understandable once you internalize what I say next), but because they want a safety net should they have the misfortune of becoming the thing they champion.
If a woman becomes fat slob? That's okay, because she's spent the last few years of her life essentially planning ahead by getting behind the body positivity movement. If she becomes too lazy to apply makeup to look pretty? That's also fine, she's likely gotten behind some campaign to "de-stigmatize" going natural, etc.
The key thing to note here, these are all things she has the ability to change, to some capacity, but you know she won't, she doesn't want the agency.
It's also worth noting, even some men think like this.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Do you really need this answered?
[–]findyourinsanity 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Idk but I'm only 5'8 and never had any issues. I have dated gorgeous girls. That isn't to say that a girl has never "x'ed me out" due to my height, but I've never known or been told and I've dated girls taller than me.
[–]SpinPlates 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Because you can't just go to the gym and lose weight like you can have surgery to be taller. It's gentics shit lord.
[–]vicious_armbar 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
It doesn't matter what fat women "want". They're going to be used as secret cum dumpsters for desperate and lazy men. Stop feeling sorry for yourself! There are guys who are way shorter than you getting more bangs then a snooze alarm on Monday morning. They don't have to be rich and famous either.
[–]FiveStarTendieDinner 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Fat women are complete and utter wastes of flesh only a lowly male could show affection for. Sure she could have big tits and a nice face but women will do anything to avoid responsibility with their body. They'll starve themselves, take on bogus diet fads from garbage gossip magazines, spend thousands on liposuction and stomach mutilation reduction surgery, start a fat acceptance movement, or take advice from another equally lazy female because of their need for consensus to make a decision, anything but do simple cardiovascular exercise.
For those of you who aren't in the 6 foot realm. If any subhuman filth with a vagina tries to cut you down height-wise, drop the following line:
"We're the same height laying in bed."
[–]In33dmon3yz 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (3 children)
Bullshit I am short and banged alot of tall Girls 9/10s etc. Some way taler than me
[–]pilljourney 7 points8 points9 points 9 months ago (2 children)
Lmao it's not bullshit. I'm short too, I don't let it get in the way, but it's still a fact that it's less attractive than not being short to the general woman. I think short men need to know and accept this, just don't let it cripple them. To deny it is to lie to yourself, which isn't healthy. Just don't go acting like the guys in r/short and embrace your strengths. Hopefully those strengths include confidence
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[–]Elatea 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
fucking hell, manlets are fucked.
[–]pinechas 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Why would you ask a question that you already know the answer to?
[–]Nodeal_reddit 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I’m sure there are plenty of short guys who don’t want to date a fatty.
[–]ashley419 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
i think people have to realise that most of the time it is
a. not the same person that says both things
b. a very horrible person who should not be dating
honestly, it comes down to who you mix with, i know loads of people who dont mind a height diff but ive also had a very uncomfortable convo with a girl who explicitly told me to NOT date a guy isnt rich because he cant buy you expensive stuff and its not as fun (the guys she date are funded by their parents btw) but in her defense she really only mix with rich ppl and is very embarrassed to be seen in public with me. she would walk 10steps ahead/behind me if we are out tgt.
[–]reluctantly_red 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Lots of fat women refuse to date fat guys. How messed up is that!
[–]BernieSandersgirl101 0 points1 point2 points 8 months ago (0 children)
I don't get it! I think that height shaming is the worst. I mean, if a guy doesn't like me because of my height, then goodbye. But it's so cruel. Everyone should get to have standards.