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One-On-One Skype Coaching, Red Pill Style (self.asktrp)

submitted by Zamarski

Sometimes a man needs to talk directly to another man about attraction and dating from a Red Pill perspective. As a guy who is older, wiser, and experienced a metric shit-ton of life, especially in regards to attraction and dating, I can help. So, I offer personalized one-on-one Skype-based coaching and conversation. And it doesn't have to be just about attraction and dating. The details are here:

https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2015/09/14/need-personalized-attraction-dating-advice-skype-me/


[–]Modredpillschool 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is Private Man- who has been a long time blogger in the manosphere. He offers one-on-one coaching so I told him we'd sticky this here if anybody wanted some personalized advice.

[–]Kolbath 14 points15 points  (12 children)

I'm actually considering something similar. Not for coaching, necessarily. I'm no Endorsed Contributor or Mod or anything of that caliber. However, there are some people I would enjoy having down to earth conversations with regularly.

Consider the weekly poker game that used to be a staple of manhood and male bonding. Although we are in different states and different time zones, we can achieve something similar by use of Skype or other VoIP and video conferencing applications.

What I had envisioned was a weekly or monthly discussion on particular topics. The "host" would select the topic in advance, and we as participants could have some time to research the topic before coming into the discussion. It would be a great way to not only improve our general knowledge, but perhaps learn some new things.

I think this is something u/TheAureate would especially excel in. He's a sharp guy, and he's doing a lot to bring TRP to the front lines and the high school generation.

Thoughts? (u/CrazyHorseInvincible, do you think there would be an issue with posting this idea to the TRP sub to gauge interest? I want to avoid even the appearance of spam.)

[–]TheAureate 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Thanks for the mention man! ... I've been working my way towards creating a Modern Man's Rite of Passage meetup here in the Colorado Springs area, but I could definitely do mentoring sessions for any who need it as well. I've a busy schedule, but I'm looking to help.

[–]hansfriedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmk I'm in Colorado too

[–]Kolbath 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Why did I convince myself that you were in Philadelphia?

You kind of gave me the idea for this since we were talking about the podcast, so I figured you deserved some mention!

[–]TheAureate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may be rocking a bit of a Philly accent. I'm from Pittsburgh originally.

Thanks!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

What I had envisioned was a weekly or monthly discussion on particular topics. The "host" would select the topic in advance, and we as participants could have some time to research the topic before coming into the discussion.

That sounds like a very refreshing and enjoyable thing to do. I'm interested. If you ever do get things going or need help, I'll lend a hand.

[–]Kolbath 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thanks. I'm building a list of people that might be interested. I'll keep you posted.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Count me in.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm a 17 year old from New York and I could really use some wisdom and guidance as I make my way through life. I am currently working on developing a personal philosophy, and whatever wisdom and experience I could reap from such a group would prove invaluable.

This also meets the description of Napoleon Hill's "Mastermind Group," which, as history has proven, is very powerful in the achievement of one's Major (or minor) Definite Purpose.

Perhaps I won't have as many stories to tell or experiences to share, but I'll sure as hell be attentive and listen to the wisdom of those older than myself.

[–]notgivefuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

similar situation, I just want to absorb it all and pour my foundation

[–]DocShade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like too know more about this. Would there be one or two dedicated hosts with guests coming and going? Do guest need a base level of knowledge necessary to be involved or will it be more new guys questioning older guys? However it is run, I would love to be a part of the discussion and help setting it up.

[–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It's a great idea and keep fleshing it out. The technology is certainly possible.

Just know that these things take a lot of time to get some traction and you will have to spread the word far and wide and often.

[–]Kolbath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think it will catch on, but you're right. It's going to take some work.

[–]4benny2lava0 3 points4 points  (4 children)

This sounds like exactly what I need. I dont have any friends willing to do this journey with me.

[–]erniesmoove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im on the same boat. No RP friends. Skype talk sounds so fucking great.

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Likely most of your friends are too scared or too confused to even talk about Red Pill issues (even if they don't know about the Red Pill)

[–]4benny2lava0 1 point2 points  (1 child)

They can

They just dont want to do the work so they get to stay afc's

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got lucky in that out of the people I showed it to, one ended up being my best friend on our RP quest

[–]killsyou123 1 point2 points  (2 children)

So this is free but the donations are encouraged is what you're saying?

[–]Zamarski[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's the current arrangement, yes.

However, as this gets more popular, it will be a strictly fee-based arrangement.

[–]killsyou123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess I should take advantage of it while it's free. I'll be checking that link out in more detail tomorrow. Thank you as a newbie to the RP I'm trying to soak up as much wisdom as I can.

[–]Galton1865 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I unfortunately cannot afford your rates — our GDP per capita is a third from yours.

I'm interested in hearing other people's experiences, and wish you all the best of luck!

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry about affording it right now. If you like my advice, donate what you can and write up a referral message that I can post on my website.

[–]Thizzlebot 1 point2 points  (6 children)

lol I'm looking forward to the new rule where it's against the rules to ask for "donations" and sell shirts and shit. Preying on betas who will gladly part with their money.

[–]1RedPillJax -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

Yeah, I really don't dig this trend of guys trying to monetize what started out as a free resource. Sounds predatory and generally shitty.

I get TRP being amoral, and how a fool and his money are soon parted - but all this private coaching and 'donation funds' are starting to get to me.

[–]Modredpillschool 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Private man has been a manosphere blogger since before TRP started. He's offering one-on-one sessions and not asking a price. Since askTRP is sometimes difficult to get quality advice, I don't see anything wrong with advertising a well known spoken red pill elder who's willing to take an hour out of his day to impart some quality advice onto the younger crowd.

That you'd ask him to do it for free is evidence of this entitled generation. You don't have to ask him to give you an hour of his time, you can just stay on askTRP.

[–]1RedPillJax 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I'm not asking him to do anything for free - I wasn't aware of who he was, or what his deal was.

I'm more talking about the countless other guys I see who put up half-assed posts and then post a donation link. Hell, I should get off my high horse, though. Fuck it, if people want to pay, let them. It doesn't affect me, so it shouldn't bother me - you're right.

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true, you don't know my bona fides. That's cool. There is a large number of guys who need specific help and they do see the value of what I offer.

If you can get value from what you read here, excellent. I'd want see guys (especially young guys) get solid Red Pill wisdom through any means, whatever those means might be. What I offer is just another means to get that wisdom.

Hell, if you know guys who might benefit from what I offer, send 'em my way or just have them read this subreddit, especially the sidebar content.

[–]LordXerces 3 points4 points  (2 children)

A bald man with a beard and an eye-patch is a man you can trust.

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Ha!

But it's the damned truth!

And don't forget my ugly dog.

[–]2oubledose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason your body isn't in the shot? Look like you might be out of shape / overweight? If you're not, I'd lose the 'fat girl on tinder' style profile pic.

Maybe your info is credible, but tbh I don't see you a role model for attraction just based on that picture. Are you even getting high quality women?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

The question is: how long will it stay free?

[–]Zamarski[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

The blog will always be free. For now, I leave the one-on-one discussions based on a donation system. If anyone who I talk with feels that I've provided some value, he is free to donate whatever amount he feels appropriate.

I'm quite confident in the value I offer.

[–]180_turnaround 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm. Mite b cool.

[–]shapb 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Honestly guys if you want to be completely Redpilled, you need to study the fundamentals of human nature from scratch to truly purge yourselves from any bluepill thinking lurking deep in the subconscious. After the basics are done, go to more complex issues like the differences between men and women, their different nature, their respective attraction switches. Then the redpill/PUA material will make perfect sense because a lot of it is based on human psychology (ie. dread game is super effective because of women's hypergamous nature). Paying for a one-on-one skype session seems like a waste of money if it is based on basic topics like "attraction" and "dating." I admit though that I would be interested in the service if the coach dated so many women that he could categorize them into groups or stereotypes, If only so I can have a more complete picture if I run into such girls.

Anyone who has attending or has attended college, majoring science/math/engineering knows that if you neglect mastering a chapter perfectly then chances are you are going to run into some difficulties later down the road. Assuming every chapter builds on the knowledge and theories of the one prior to it.

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're fundamentally correct. Slapping some Red Pill varnish on a Blue Pill psyche is not going to work particularly well.

Given my age (53) and my long experience with humanity in general, I've got a very good handle on human behavior, especially when it involves women.

Before I give specific advice, I make a point to determine the level at which a guy is involved in Red Pill thought and actions.

[–]PROVERBIALLEMONADE 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Where do you suggest starting off with the fundamentals of human nature?

[–]shapb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any resource that looks at human nature from an evolutionary POV (ie. men are hunters and women are gatherers). Any resources that really hits the point home that everything humans do is inherently selfish with the purpose to ensure their genetic material to the next generation. Anything action that seems to lies outside that goal is to preserve relationships that may one day help them out. After that you should read the Torah/Bible/Quran to get an idea of the "sins" that people are so prone to committing: lust, gluttony, greed, laziness, wrath, envy, pride. Afterwards, you can read The 48 laws of power to give you an idea how to maneuver/influence/manipulate people in the workplace that suffer from pride, envy, wrath, etc. Now that you know people can be manipulated based on their "7 deadly sins" you can go into more details on how to manipulate such people with (book: social engineering the art of human hacking). [Last but not least there are some things to know about human nature that aren't negative: fantasy is a way to cope with the harsh reality of life. Scarcity gives something value. the effects of social pressure on promiscuity, things like that.]

Only then does it make sense to try to understand women. A lot of things will click. There is a reason all PUAs start to sound the same after a while, it is all just general psychology applied in the context of picking up women. I wasn't able to give you a super concrete answer because i'm still on the process of learning myself.

[–]Biggie_Smores 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Well, actually this would be really cool. It would be similar to asking my professor questions on the subject. You'll understand my confusion, what I'm really thinking and provide additional knowledge.

Just one question, how does your scheduling work with timezones/life?

[–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't claim that I'm as studied as a college professor, but I've had years of research, experience, and observation on the subject(s).

My schedule is quite flexible regarding time zones. If you are International, I have had some trouble with Skype and the connection. Hopefully, I will have it resolved soon.

[–]Dustin_Bromain 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Is this still a thing?

[–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It certainly is.

Sometimes, guys need someone to talk to who's been through some shit and has learned a few things.

[–]Dustin_Bromain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be very interested in speaking with you. If you have the time and the patience, of course.

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[–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read through that epic thread. The advice to you there is appropriate. If you want to talk about it more, I'd be glad to. Hit me up on Skype - Drewsky1962

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

waoh

This is pretty cool, just when I thought a real life TRP meeting couldn't exist.

Ideally I would take this up, but to be honest I am not sure what to say to you. I guess I am very unfamiliar with this kind of thing...

So right now I am just watching your videos.

[–]IamGale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome added you on skype

[–]abhigeek 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Is it free? What the catch?

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's donation based for now. If you feel you got value from what I said, click the Donate button on my blog. There's no obligation but I will remind you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An online life coach? Charging money? Give me a fucking break. What is this sub coming too.

[–]adapt2evolve 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Hey, your page says you only do this for the post divorce crowd. I'm not in that audience, but I would definitely benefit from some dating help.
Do you do sessions for 20-25 crowd?

[–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Many of my blog's readers are under 30.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Much appreciated. I like your podcasts, but please for hell's sake TALK MORE. You seem to have a wealth of knowledge and experience and us young dudes want to hear it. The 10 minute videos aren't enough.

Cheers.

[–]Zamarski[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Many thanks! I am very used to short attention spans so I have kept the podcasts relatively short. I also do Periscope broadcasts that run longer and (if you use the smartphone app), you can text me questions directly. Follow me on Twitter (@man_private) so you can be notified of those broadcasts.

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    [–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I will look into that. I do appreciate the suggestion. I will also make sure my podcasts have audio as the primary means of delivering content.

    [–]Xemnas81 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    This is awesome

    [–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    And it's getting solid interest, especially from younger guys.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    For how long will you do that

    [–]Zamarski[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Doing the one-on-one conversations? I probably won't stop. But as things progress, I'll be more formal with the fee structure.

    [–]2oubledose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Downvoted you because this isn't a question. It's a sales pitch. Gross.