The summer before last I went on a "below my usual standards" tinder date because I was horny as hell and in a new city. I took her home, displayed normal dominant behavior, and had her blow me. She didn't want to fuck and I respected that because TBH she was a 5 at best and I didn't want to stick my dick in that. Afterwords it became clear to her that I didn't want to see her again and I blocked her on Facebook when she kept messaging me. About 4 months later I got a call from a detective saying she had accused me of sexual assault. That didn't go anywhere since she didn't have any evidence and I didn't say anything but she also attempted to get a restraining order against me despite the fact that I was the one who blocked her ass. $5000 in attorney fees later and this is also dismissed (most expensive shitty bj of my life).
But this post isn't about that incident. Now more than a year later, my game is still suffering as a result. I had a second date last week with a girl who was giving me serious kinky vibes but I was scared to go full aggressive dominant with her. As her Uber was arriving I asked if she liked to be slapped to which her answer was an enthusiastic affirmative. I know I could have fucked her on our first date even if I had gone with my instincts but this false accusation fucks with me. I don't know what kind of advice I'm looking for but hopefully this resonates with someone and I can get some useful information moving forward.