I know this question is autistic and sperg as can be... in my life there have been a few people that have liked being around me, but these were tistic and sperg types, socially weird, you get the point. What is it about a person that most people like? I know this varies by individual. But there has to be a general thing that most people like. How does one cultivate this into their personality? to mold yourself into a person that a lot of people like to be around? I believe we all have that special something that makes us unique and we must cultivate that as much as we can, but I am not sure how to boost that special something more. Also don't want to be the type that is SO NICE that people start taking advantage of me, which happened in the past, I was too accommodating and friendly that people didn't take me serious. I know there are entire books written on this subject but would like to hear other's inputs. What is it that attracts a lot of people around you? how do you develop that? everyone is different, almost like an indescribable trait, when people don't have it you notice "it" but when they have "it" you know it.