Soo she finds me ugly? (self.asktrp)

submitted by nisachy

Whaddup guys,

I have been texting with this chick and she said that she is starting to like me and such...then she says that she likes my personality, that I am not handsome and that she likes my guitar playing.....then she proceded to tell me that she would like to meet me and such.

Dafuq was that about...she flat out told me im not handsome?

[–]epictetus_irl 124 points125 points  (19 children)

It’s a test. Don’t react beyond laughing.

I was once told by a girl that her boyfriend had bigger muscles than me, was much taller, and had more hair. (All 100% true)

It almost got me. But I laughed instead. Few hours later I was balls deep in her.

Never break frame.

[–]nisachy[S] 38 points39 points  (9 children)

I meesed up...I replied that it was a weird complement

[–]epictetus_irl 64 points65 points  (3 children)

Don’t worry about it. Don’t mention it again. Act as if it never happened.

And next time you get some shit designed to break your frame, don’t let it.

I’ve had some hurtful shit said to me by women, comments that stung hard. I never react and I always get the lay.

You’re made of solid fucking steel. Don’t forget that.

[–]nisachy[S] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

Amen brother. Thanks. Im getting back in the ring

[–]epictetus_irl 28 points29 points  (1 child)

Do it.

The key thing to remember here is this:

And don’t worry if it takes you a while to internalize it, I still fuck up from time to time.

Women are unbelievably insecure. About everything. Every part of their body. Every part of their life. They NEED a strong man to quieten that insecurity so they test for strength by acting ‘confident and bitchy on the outside”.

They have to do this to weed out weak men.

Your job is to see right through this bullshit and not let it affect you in any way. Act strong and you’ll become strong.

Women will follow.

[–]nisachy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks again. I shall aspire to become an inmovable object

[–]Andgelyo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

^ good example of amused mastery. Laugh it off. Who cares about what she thinks about you. When you laugh it off and act unphased you signal that you are higher status. You are subtly sending her signals that you are confident in yourself.

[–]88VILLI 4 points5 points  (1 child)

not the worst response at all. better than 99% of guys would’ve replied with.

[–]nisachy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)


[–]sometimespredictable 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Not that bad.

A real mess up would be "I am not that ugly. I have a decent jawline, I think I look ok." That would be defending yourself and shows insecurity.

[–]nisachy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. Definetly not doing that.

[–]matt675 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I feel like it depends on the kind of laughter though. If you just laugh nervously and don’t say anything in response, is that not bad

[–]not-hardly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sudden uncontrollable laughter, then reign it in. "Cool story, but how bout day booty tho?"

Maybe I just laugh suddenly and uncontrollably though ("I hate it when you do that" ...then stop being so funny)

[–]a_nus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a test. Don’t react beyond laughing.

It'd be my natural reaction. I'd find it pretty funny if a girl said "you're not handome." Who the fuck says that lol.

[–]Morphs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I once had a Tinder date at her house. She opened the door and her very first sentence was "Hmmm on your pictures you looked more muscular". I found it very weird but just laughed and kept frame. Few hours later I'm fucking her brains out.

[–]morbidaar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You ain’t joking. Shit happens, a lot. I’m usually the guy better looking or better shape. And I get had cause mother fuckers compose themselves . God speed. ☄️

[–]clausternn 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What do you think about Agree & Amplify as a response to that? I was thinking like, "he sounds hot, you should give me his number!"

[–]epictetus_irl -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Wouldn’t have worked in this situation. it would have placed value on him which I wanted to avoid.

I’m the prize.

I was trying to get her to cheat on a 10 yr relationship so had to frame myself as being higher value.

Her comments were just her talking to herself, trying to make sense of why she was attracted to me even though on paper her boyfriend was ‘better’.

She was attracted to me due to my frame, confidence and attitude. It was primal and she couldn’t quite understand it herself is my guess.

It went downhill fast after we smashed. Guilt is a strong emotion 😂

[–]clausternn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great point

[–]ppanthero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its extremely hard to never break frame, but in the end - this is what gets you laid.

[–]cptgoatsack 46 points47 points  (5 children)

If she didn't find you attractive then she just be avoiding you and making minimal effort. Shit test 100%.

[–]nisachy[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Yeah....I fell for it...won't happen again. I swear

[–]uniquan 11 points12 points  (2 children)

It won't, because it's gonna be different words and you won't see it coming

[–]nisachy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll do my best not to fuck up again.

[–]666Evo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How fucking true...

[–]not-hardly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very convincing. Is it working?

[–]1redhawkes 38 points39 points  (5 children)

Watch what she does not what she says.

Those things are called shit tests, the topic you obviously missed while you were 'reading' the sidebar.

Setup date, game, escalate, isolate, close.

[–]nisachy[S] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Fuck....you are right...and I fell for it...damn...i think I lost the battle...she now knows I bleed .

[–]LeonardoDiDraperBond 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Thats the beauty of it. Even if you don't fuck this chick you learned something new that'll take you further with the next.

[–]nisachy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck yess. We are at war..you give em an inch and they take a mile

[–]1redhawkes 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Just go and close the deal dude. Never break frame and treat her like the little brat she is, never take them seriously.

[–]nisachy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 25 points26 points  (1 child)

If you keep your cool (or regain it), you might even ask her how that “ugly cum” tasted. LOL

[–]nisachy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have to regain it

[–]red_matrix 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She wants to suck your cock. Let it happen.

[–]Peter_B_Long 5 points6 points  (5 children)

Girls will most likely not tell you you're ugly if they not attracted to you. It is a shit test and from your response to someone's comment, you failed.

It's apparent that you're insecure about your looks, so you should focus on fixing that issue.

Next time someone makes a negative comment about your appearance or imperfection say, "Imagine I was handsome though? I'd be having every girl on me like I was Justin Bieber" and then smirk.

[–]nisachy[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I am getting in shape....in process of fixing it. Thanks for the encouragement!

[–]Peter_B_Long 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Yes, that is important. But what I meant by that is that if you are sensitive about what people think about your appearance, then you are still going to get butt hurt when someone makes a negative comment, no matter how much you try to improve.

While you improve your looks (gym, acne, haircut, facial hair, teeth, etc.) also try to accept yourself as you are now.

[–]nisachy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Indeed....I am also in the process of that. I used to flinch at my relfection in the mirror....not anymore

[–]Peter_B_Long 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's good. It does take time. It's really just more important about you being happy with your appearance. For example, I grew my facial hair out this year. I've always had a clean shaved face but this year I decided to try to grow out a scruff. It's still a bit patchy but I really like it and it boosts my confidence. With that said, I've had friends and family tell me that I looked better with a clean face, but even if it were true, I am happier with my patchy scruff and IMO, the confidence boost is much better than if I look better with facial hair or not because the confidence is more attractive and overall will help you in other areas.

[–]nisachy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True indeed. Nice, fellow scruffy beard dude

[–]Bruchibre 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Are you handsome or not?

Luckily women are less attracted by pure physical traits than we are.

I've dated hot girls who at first openly thought I was ugly. But it's true, I'm kind of ugly, I have tons of acne scars, one eye higher than the other one, wear glasses. I kind of take pride in it, I score in hard mode, these girls thought they were out of my league and were the ones crying when we separated.

[–]nisachy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fuck yeah. Its all in the attitude after all

[–]SteveStJohn 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Oneitis here? Re-read abundance mentality.

[–]nisachy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know....been meeting some other chicks too.

[–]Prodigalrockstar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ffffffff man. Keep on reading. You should've been able to skewer this one.

If she doesn't find you attractive, and you throw that back on her, how does her hindbrain reaffirm her (now diminished) sex status?

She has to fuck you. But to trigger that you have to make her think you're totally uninterested/spinning plates

[–]Zanford 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Shit test. Ignore or make a joke. She wants to meet you, this is just a standard shit test to probe for insecurities

[–]nisachy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I will remember this for next time

[–]Zhigaag 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I'd have said, "Men who can play the guitar with their cocks don't need to be handsome. Just sayin', honey."

[–]Zanford 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I'd drop the 'just sayin' honey' if it's over text (gotta be terse) but that's a good reply

Or some basic A&A on the ugly thing like "Yeah I just got cast as the new Freddy Kreuger. Play nice and you can be my red carpet eye candy"

[–]Zhigaag 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Oooh nice. Also throw in how you beat our Benedict Cumberbatch for that role too.

Not sure how, but that ugly motherfucker can make the panties drop like a fucking piano from the top of a New York high rise.

My daughter told me that his followers call themselves Cumberbitches. Lol!

A little later in the conversation In told her that she was a Cumberbitch, and she laughed and said I know.

BC > RDJ?? How in the flying fuck does that happen?

[–]Zanford 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't really get it either, but Britishguy Confusingname is certainly a good example of how 'looks' as guys understand it don't matter that much. (Appearance does, but he does have that...he's tall, typecast in imposing intellectual roles, and has the celebrity recog.) Also, all bets are off with celebrities, b/c their SMV is so high that being 'ugly' might just make him seem more attainable than, say, his intimidatingly handsome jacked costar Hemsworth

[–]Original_Dankster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a shit test. Agree and Amplify.

One (and by no means the only) option could be to call yourself Quasimodo, then comment how she's like Esmerelda or some shit because she has a thing for hideous deformities. Call her Esmerelda from time to time just to bug her.

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[–]nisachy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow...fucking right mate! I'll make a memo out of that

[–]Ricklogical 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Good. Go meet up.

[–]nisachy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will

[–]dtyler86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore her. Ghost time.

[–]Zahlix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is checking if you are doubting yourself. If she sees this throwing you off your tracks it means that you aren't confident in yourself.

[–]civilizedfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"That is not how you neg"

[–]wifeisbiorgay -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

It's rare that a girl will be that blunt, but she was, and the implication is obvious.

I would not pursue such a rude person.

[–]Bruchibre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of an entitled little bitch, right?

I like you but I wish you were more handsome... what about you go and screw yourself?