Why do girls love being second place? (self.asktrp)

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Okay, so this semester I'm taking 6 classes & lifting roughly 4 times a week.

It's not as busy as it seems. I still have time to spin plates & enjoy other areas of life reading, going out, etc.

Even with my obvious amount of free time whenever a girl texts me to do something I'll always respond with something along the lines of:

"I'll see if I'm up to it after gym."

"I have a lot of studying today. I'll let you know."

Lets be serious no guy is that busy or tired that he can't make time to see a girl yet I'll still throw in those texts (busy, maybe, we'll see, etc.) and it will instantly cause them to chase & switch to communicating overtly with me (whereas they were using covert prior).

Why does this have such a profound effect on girls?

[–][deleted] 125 points126 points  (3 children)

Women don't want to win, they want a winner.

[–]Borsao66 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Done in one.

Women want that paradoxical alpha bucks. A good looking guy with a mission gets them tingly.

[–]itsxeno 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Quote the man...

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So sayeth, Patrice O'Neal... RIP.

[–][deleted] 41 points42 points  (3 children)

Why does this have such a profound effect on girls?

because a guy who will explicitly make them a priority in life is of no interest to them. Either play games with them or lose them.

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    [–]_the_shape_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    She's probably the hottest girl I've ever had up to this point in my life.

    Fixed that for you.

    You'll also learn, with experience, that "the hottest" doesn't necessarily amount to "the best". For instance, the hottest I've personally ever had was one of the worst in bed and turned out to be the most mentally unhinged. One of the very best I've ever had (sexually) was probably the most bland and boring outside of the bedroom. The girl I'm presently with is definitely not one of the prettiest girls I've ever been with, but she fucks me like I am her king (literally drenches my bed with juices every single time we have sex) and brings zero drama into my life.

    Don't beat yourself up and don't dwell on the past.

    Stick with the program (TRP). The game only gets better.

    [–]Incaahhh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    So, do it implicitly?

    [–]electricspresident 12 points13 points  (1 child)

    For other guys reading this, a big key here is that the girls text him to see 'what's up' which is already a high indicator of interest, especially in today's world where dick is in their face left right n center.

    So just fyi the tactic of saying ur busy wouldn't work unless a precedent of interest has taken place

    [–]BPasFuck 5 points6 points  (0 children)


    they also are aware on a visceral level what it would mean if they said 'I'll let you know', or 'we'll see' to a guy.

    girl talk, that means, 'ehh, probably not-- i might have something else come up with someone else i'd rather be with.'

    boom, competition and dread engaged.

    [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 20 points21 points  (2 children)

    Women want to earn your time; this is why they abhor "nice guys" who drop everything and come running when m'lady beckons.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    You're on fire vasiliy your posts are making me laugh dude

    [–]1ideal_lemon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    see: hypergamy and covert communication.

    [–]oldslut 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    it is not that they love being in second place, it is that they want a man that has a mission independent of them. they can in turn try to fight to win that man over, thinking they want to be the man's mission, when in reality, they would no longer respect a man that gave up their mission for a woman. you are just showing them this trait that is quite desirable.

    [–]ImmaBeAMod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    A girl's attractiveness is based on her looks, a guy's is based on his life.

    Putting your life above spending time with her (and her looks) instantly indicates you're more attractive than she is. Of course this is something that occurs moment by moment and is never set in stone unless you keep it there.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Why does this have such a profound effect on girls?

    It signals a high SMV.

    [–]hb8only 0 points1 point  (0 children)