So I’ve been seeing this girl for the last 8 months, and originally thought she has the potential to be more than just a plate. We got along well, she seemed great with kids, sex was good, she agreed with traditional gender roles, etc. Then the red flags appeared, specifically her natural inclination to lie to her family and others. I knew that I was not exempt from this and as time went on I caught her in lies. Sometimes I would nonchalantly bring them up in a joking manner just to make her aware that she wasn’t fooling anyone (which would always cause her to go out of her way for me), and other times I would make note and keep it to myself. I always kept my frame, observed, and didn’t let her lies bother me. I believe that AWALT, they all lie when convenient. As a result though I concluded that I was wrong and that she wasn’t a unicorn, and because of some of her lies I actually suspected that she had someone that she was seriously dating or in an actual relationship with. But as long as I was getting what I wanted I didn’t care if she wanted to keep up her lies and kept her as a plate.
Fast forward to this Saturday, I’m laying in bed with another plate and my phone starts to buzz non-stop. It starts with odd texts from her:
“Are you my boyfriend? Yes or no?”
“Have we had sex?”
I obviously knew it wasn’t actually her so I didn’t answer and put my phone on Do Not Disturb. Later that night I check my phone and see:
“I’ve had a serious boyfriend for 9 months.”
BINGO. Suspicion confirmed. 45 mins later another text came in:
“Hey, I’m sorry. My phone was taken from a friend who has feelings for me. My dad and older sister are seeing this convo. Please say ‘no’. ”
She’s trying to keep up her lies. By Sunday morning I had gotten 8 missed calls from her, 2 texts from her newly revealed boyfriend’s number, and 3 calls that he made to me from his number and a throwaway number. In the text he was asking to talk to me.
Then I received messages from her on Facebook and Snapchat to not respond to him, that he was her abusive ex-boyfriend who had broken into her contacts and she was likely going to the cops. I knew she was lying and responded with a simple “ok”. I then get another call from him that night which I ignored.
Then finally on Monday she reaches out to me asking to talk because she needed to “clear the air” of some things. I told her I already knew what she had to say and when we spoke I was like “Look, I told you all along that I knew you were lying. I was pretty sure you were seeing someone. Now you’re going to tell me that he knows about us and you need to cut things off with me to be with him. It’s cool, no worries.”
She says “Yes, I love him and want to make things work with him but... he wants to speak to you. He’s incredibly angry and insist in speaking to you. He wants to hear all the details about us from you.” I told her that wasn’t necessary. That he either needs to come to terms that she cheated on him with me or he needs to dump her, that it’s super lame for him to be reaching out to me on random numbers, and that lastly I don’t kiss and tell. I left it at that.
Even as I’m in bed with yet another plate last night (Tuesday) I’m getting text from her saying that he’s harassing her to speak to me “calmly as a man”.
I‘m pretty certain that I shouldn’t need to speak to him. I’m completely cool with withdrawing from the situation. I think their relationship is doomed (she cheated on him, he lives 2.5 hours away and is in town randomly, etc.) and she’ll ultimately be back as a plate.
How do you guys think I should proceed though? I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want to actually know the details. All the times we’ve had sex, how she would constantly comment that I was the biggest she’s ever had and seen, how 8 hours before they boarded a flight to Costa Rica (on a vacation that he paid for) she was in my bed screaming from pleasure and literally begging for me to cum in her. It just seems lame as a man to ask to speak to me, and completely beta of him.
Update for clarification: he wants to talk over the phone, not in person.