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Had sex with my oneitis (self.asktrp)

submitted by Glennigans

I fucked my oneitis last week, we were both drunk & it was the 1st time we'd seen and spoke to each other in months due to me going into monk mode for a while. The sex was great although to be honest it only made me realise that most of the feelings I had for her have now gone, I still care about her because we've been friends for years but that's about it. She told me the next morning that she was a virgin and that she had just started recently seeing someone.

Fast forward and I realised today that she's blocked me on everything, what reason would she have for blocking me if she's only just started seeing this guy? It's pissed me off slightly, probably just hurt my ego a bit.

TLDR; Fucked my oneitis and she's now blocked me on everything. What do?


[–]thatguywhatshisface 173 points174 points  (5 children)

fuckthatbitch move on

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 31 points32 points  (1 child)

Needs more emphasization.

[–]i_forget_my_userids 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Emphasis?

[–]nappy_poontang 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Can we get an autobot with this response?

[–]obbimauler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd prefer a decepticon

[–]LiftOrGTF0 68 points69 points  (6 children)

to be honest it only made me realise that most of the feelings I had for her have now gone

Ah, now that you finally got what you always wanted, she's not that special anymore, huh?

Stop thinking what her reasons for blocking you could be. It doesn't help you, so just go ahead and look for other girls. Her "first time" with you probably won't count as she was soooooo drunk and she didn't know what she was doing.

[–]Droogas 9 points10 points  (4 children)

How is someone not supposed to be curious about why she blocked him?

[–]LiftOrGTF0 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Because it's a waste of time. There can be so many reasons why she did it and he will probably never find out. He knows he has oneitis for her, which is the first step done already. Now it's time to move on and learn not to overthink every worthless bullshit.

[–]babybopp 5 points6 points  (1 child)

People that have journeyed with trp mastery realize that it is absolutely not necessary to know why and the wherefores. A man should not care. She could hate ur ears and block u. Return to monk

[–]systemshock869 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, not caring is the only way to turn the situation around, if that was still your goal which it shouldn't be. What happens when you try to chase a cat to pet it?

[–]kruxofthemimed 13 points14 points  (0 children)

hmm, i wonder why someone might block you after they had drunken sex with you and started seeing someone else. HMM. Wow, ya know, I just have no possible modicum of an idea why someone would do that. let me think.. had drunken sex with me.. is seeing someone else.. blocked me.. ugh. it makes no sense! she even said she was a virgin the next morning like, WTF?! HAMSTERING?! [email protected]#[email protected]#?!

[–]alamsohel1990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My psychoanalytical mind says, she understood that you are not into her anymore and just want you to think about her and nothing else. Don't play the game, the only winning strategy is not to play, not to think about that person( read object/thing ).

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez 55 points56 points  (2 children)

If she's claiming "virgin" and she blocked you it's probably so she can keep up the charade. She doesn't need you poking around showing up on her social media and having people asking questions. I'd bet cash money she tells that dude she "just started seeing" that she's a virgin.

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If she's claiming "virgin" and she blocked you it's probably so she can keep up the charade.

Low key the most accurate comment on this post.

[–]RunawayGrain 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bingo. From experience with my crazy ex, she's telling the other guy that she's a virgin too. She doesn't want him finding out about you two fucking.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 43 points44 points  (2 children)

She told me the next morning that she was a virgin and that she had just started recently seeing someone.

I hope you said, "I promise I won't come in your mouth!" right before dumping a huge load in her mouth.

Fast forward and I realised today that she's blocked me on everything, what reason would she have for blocking me if she's only just started seeing this guy?

Because she feels like a slut.

TLDR; Fucked my oneitis and she's now blocked me on everything. What do?

Do nothing, move on. If she contacts you, make nicey-nice. If you get a text that says "I just want you to know what you did was NOT ok", do NOT respond to it; lawyer up.

[–]nrjk 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I hope you said, "I promise I won't come in your mouth!" right before dumping a huge load in her mouth.

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[–]dixieboyzspookyclub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol good to see some other redpillers are DAC fans

[–]Ivabighairy1 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Dude, you're still doing the oneitis thing. You got her. Now, let her go. She's not yours. It was your turn. Your turn is up. Move on. There are more women out there.

[–]ishyman 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She blocked you cause she feels like a whore and by blocking you her new dick won’t know and she’ll still be a virgin.

[–]1walawalawa 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When you get good with women things like this become much more obvious and common and you don't need advice on what to do---you know what to do.

Bang her= winning.

Move on= winning

Second-guessing what happened=losing

Let that sink in.

[–]360_no_scope_upvote 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You do nothing, this is the best possible scenario. You move on. Take solace that many men don't get to fuck their oneitis, pat yourself on the back and go get more kills.

[–]Moreofmore 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She cheated on her bf with you. ASD safety measures kicked in

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 23 points24 points  (2 children)

it only made me realise that most of the feelings I had for her have now gone

Yeah. They are gone so much that you come here to ask strangers on the internet why your sweet unicorn bebe gurl abandoned you.

Go to some chump sub and try to bullshit people there.

[–]CommanderCumlord 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This, and:

I still care about her because we’ve been friends for years.

OP let’s make this abundantly clear for you. This dear sweet unicorn that you care about just tossed you out for someone else. You’re a regret. A mistake. A blip in her sexual Matrix. Your attention doesn’t matter to her.

If you valued yourself, you wouldn’t care about a bitch who just deleted you from her life.

[–]indigenoushorizons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real t

[–]DirtyBastard13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Move on. Get those plates going.

[–]Dominic_Farussi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She had sex with you thinking you could be an upgrade from the guy she's seeing, and then blocked you because she got the impression you're actually not, and doesn't want your hookup to get in the way of her dating the other guy. Branch swinging 101.

Feel free to drop me a pm if you need any advice.

Dom

[–]longjeep2005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do nothing. Highly, highly unlikely she is a virgin and is going to do with other guys what she did with you.

[–]Kempiet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is some weak as behaviour. Blocked you to make you want it more. Act like you don’t care and she’ll be all over you like a rash within a few weeks and you hold the cards again.

[–]BeeBopJoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It could be multiple reasons but its not worth stressing over. Just next her, if she is still interested in seeing you she will hit you back up.

[–]sign_of_reality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

what reason would she have for blocking me if she's only just started seeing this guy?

One possibility is that her feelings for you confuse her. Is it safe to assume that you're both fairly young?

Before people learn to become straight-forward and plain-dealing, if they ever do, they do a lot of really strange and circuitous things. For example, she might still be carrying a torch for you, but trying to run away from it to this other guy. Or she might have just used you to "do the deed" (because this helps her get over some mental block surrounding virginity) and now wants you to disappear.

In a situation where communication is non-existent, either of those things is possible. You really don't know.

If this person means something to you, you may want to pursue the relationship further. The no-risk bet is to move on, its risky to invest further in this person, so many will advise you to cut and run. But your situation, in spite of being similar to what other's have experienced, is also unique, so nobody really knows, in my opinion, what the case is or what you should do. Its best to listen to your instincts and follow them.

[–]XCKCX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nothing, she did you a huge favor. She wants you to chase her. Don't be an idiot.

[–]BigNoseMcGhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do still care

[–]untonyto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She blocked you after sex is like she shut the barn door after the horse has already bolted. Now forget her.

[–]Nyquil-Junkie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pray that in 9 months you don't get a letter saying "congratulations daddy, see you in court to arrange child support"

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sue her for libel, slander, defamation and intentional infliction of emotional distress

[–]hibloodstevia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm guessing that she was worried about being inexperienced with the guy she actually cares about, and used you for practice. A very common advice given out by sloot's, her friends, would be to get your virginity out of the way with someone you don't care about.

Either way, there are very little positive outcomes to her blocking you on everything after first having sex and being friends for a long time. Just accept you got a nice nut, and move on.

[–]AlfredKinsey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a fucked up situation, but you extracted some poon. You don't really need to do shit, just go live your life and fuck other bitches.

Oneitis isn't a positive thing, so don't focus on her at all.

[–]awalt_cupcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

she knew you had oneitis for her. she wanted to shit in your brain.

[–]COORDOORS -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I too, am a Virginia