Anyone caught into the coldness trap? (self.asktrp)

submitted by silver-gun

Since adopting TRP mindset, I'm becoming a better man.

But at the same time, I'm becoming colder, more distant and antisocial.

I can't build relationships with people, because I don't give a fuck about them, and I'm not interested in anything about them. This kind of selfishness is boring for me and everyone else. Therefore I can't keep people around.

What do you recommend? Anyone else felt the same way?

[–]TheLonelyQuebecer 26 points27 points  (28 children)

I've always been rather awkward or cold socially, but I know that after I'm done meditating or working out, I'm much more open of a person and at ease around people if this can be of help. +smiling too.

I naturally tend to keep relationships at a distance, so when it's time to get more personal (especially with girls) I often lose my shit and start either being super awkward and/or cold, like my subconscious was letting no one cross my inner intimate barrier.

[–]Blaxxun 6 points7 points  (27 children)

Sounds exactly like me. I microdosed for a couple months and noticed a huge difference. Suddenly I cared about people, had open and interested body language and has this big natural grin on my face Everytime a girl caught my eye.

Sadly stopping the regime also made these improvements disappear for the most part.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 9 points10 points  (7 children)

What were you microdosing with?

Shrooms, acid, DMT???

[–]ashleyshafer27 5 points6 points  (1 child)


[–]Kenny_Twenty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would like to buy a hundred dollars worth of drugs, please.

[–]Blaxxun 5 points6 points  (4 children)

LSD. About 6ug 2 times per week. More than that was too distracting.

Thinking about microdosing shrooms because of the shorter half life.

Noone microdoses dmt. But I can recommend that as well. Just be sure you are ready mentally.

[–]scissormytimbers69 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I micro trip on LSD and Mushrooms regularly, highly recommend the mushrooms IF you are actually MICRO dosing. They make me feel super confident and increase my social skills exponentially, not to mention it increases motivation. Also the next day you feel like you've had a weight lifted off your conscience. Im a firm believer in the power of mediation and microdosing for depression and confidence issues.

feel free to PM me if you have any questions

[–]AtlasCuckd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dennis here. Basically took like a million milligrams of DXM and tripping out of my mind checking out some trippy visuals. I'm just gonna tell you guys how I trip.

Right here? Life Force Triangle. Basically everybody's either real or fake. 90% of people are fake. The Y2K bug? It actually happened. People think that it didn't, people think that the computers didn't shut down. Actually they did and because of that 90% of people are fake. It's a bug.

Right here? What we got is a portal. Basically go through this portal allows you to experience real reality, you just have to be on DXM. But it's very easy to get caught in the portal, if you get caught in the portal your brain will fry. Also, these are Trip Crystals. Just take a look at these things right as you're peaking, and your high will magnify at least 3 times guarantees. And I think it allows you to see past your brain into further knowledge, of course...new levels.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't tried DMT, so I hadn't realized that.

About the 6ug microdose twice a week, which days did you do it? Would you be able to go to work on those days? Why 2 days only? Is that just what you found manageable?

Sorry for the deluge. I just find this very interesting and I might try it.

[–]full_silver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don't like microdosing LSD because it amplifies my tiredness, but microdosing shrooms (in the form of 4-AcO-DMT) is great.

[–]TheLonelyQuebecer 4 points5 points  (18 children)

I have never tried microdosing, but since I'm a strong believer in not taking drugs, I would recommend hitting the gym + daily meditation instead. Healthy bodies and healthy minds go places.

[–]plasticslug 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am at a point where people ask me to come hang out, I have a group of friends that actually seem to care. But I also am finding it incredibly hard to tolerate people in general.

I no longer look at personalities but rather look for TRP patterns, deconstructing everyone I know and tossing the weaker ones in the shit pile. Amazingly I have been able to keep it under control, I feel each time I go out I have to mentally prepare.

Suggestions? Well like a boiling kettle you have to have some room for steam to escape. I tend to joke a lot, and when you do this enough people are not sure when you are serious or not. Allowing me to say 99% of what's in my mind.

But in all honesty, be busy, when your patience falls get the fuck out of there, people will start to respect your time and see it as a gift rather than you being a lost puppy.

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[–]LostLittleBoi 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Why would I give a fuck about people with nothing to offer me? Serious question, TRP is life maximisation, shitty people dont help with thT

[–]quicklogaccount 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess it's natural, I went through this stage.
At some point you reach acceptance though, and you go back acting normally.

A bit like this. Before RP you thought everyone was kind hearted and had your best interests in mind. You take it and you notice the ones that ACT the most and look like they're acting for you actually have THEIR interests in mind, and often disregard you.
Once you reach acceptance you see the balance there.

[–]Eldudearino89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Know the pain, BUT you still gotta get out and be social. Bars, talking to strangers when you are out and about, or find some hobbies that you can connect with other people. Building relationships is important in everyday life.

[–]Kenny_Twenty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting that you consider your behavior to be you, "caught in a trap".

[–]SocialJusticeWhiner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're reading too much TRP. Go out in the field and apply it. I found myself judging people before I ever talked to them. Really it's more of an ego defense mechanism to justify not approaching. Go out and get social. If you don't like your social circle find new ones. Invest time in your friends that are worth while. Lots of people feel/have felt your you do. If you open up to people a bit maybe you'll discover which ones do.

[–]miguel28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar situation.

I'm very sociable and I strongly believe it's important to be so. It's also important to care for those who are truly important to you, because they do care for you and one day you may need them.

At the same time being cold or "emotionally unattached" gives you a strength that prevails in the work place and managing stress.

It's finding the perfect balance of not caring for what doesn't matter and caring deeply for what does.

(Written from a toilet seat, in case there are mistakes in the above)

[–]tempjewman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been my biggest issue tbh. Since swallowing TRP, I focused on improving myself. Eating healthy, working out, reading theory, working on my career. I became the focal point in my life/ Eventually, I found a sense of security and purpose in myself. I don't crave attention. I'm on a mission to craft myself into a high-value male.

Part of my attitude change included cutting off a lot of people in my life. The others I hang out with don't provide much value other than filling my need to socialize. I've come to realize that my friends will view me as the old loser I was, instead of the person I'm becoming. So, I continue investing my time into myself, with the hope of eventually starting fresh in a new city. It will give me a clean slate reputation wise and the freedom to do what I want. My focus then will be on developing a social network of positive people, increasing my SMV and exploring new stuff.

[–]IIlllIllIIIllIl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add people to your life who add to your life.

[–]Trilldungsroman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like this, but I'm in a few social circles where I'm surrounded by men who're empirically more 'alpha' than me. They've a deeper internalisation of TRP than I do, but my interpretation is they've far succeeded the 'acceptance' phase of swallowing the pill.

To elaborate, they've submitted themselves to the reality of the world, overcoming the emotional adversity that comes with leaving preconceptions - and essentially, your past life, - behind. It wouldn't be an exaggeration to say many people who frequent this subreddit haven't achieved this mastery - myself included, but with a fair bit of grinding and work it's easily possible to become more socially embedded.

[–]TheElite3740 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah just became even more apathetic and cold towards things with women. Now I know what women are like, I don't even yearn or want them. Not that I had them in abundance. Too much effort