So, I'm not even sure how the hell I can properly convey what just occurred with me but I got to start somewhere.
Sorry as this is a bit verbose but I'm trying to illustrate something that I'm struggling with understanding.
So almost 2 years ago, my ex decided that she had enough of me being supportive, understanding, and not loving her enough and our marriage ended.
Basically, I made the cardinal rule of bieng weak infront of her (lost my job) and my marriage fell apart just after my son was born.
Since then I've been reading and learning about the TRP and hitting the gym, working on myself and smashing women. However, I still deal with the very real divorce rape that I went through. Things are cold between us and I keep things civil for my son's sake.
It's not easy because she tried to ruin my life with false allegations and even went as far as to reach out to my dead beat dad (my parents split when I was 8 and my dad ghosted me and my siblings when I was 13) for evidence and proof that I COULD escape with him to another country.
That's the kind of father that was abscent in my life. At any rate, my routine is pick up my son, drop off my son, ignore all the triggers (her buying a new car as a single mom, religious zeal, etc.)
So, when imagine my surprise when I go and drop off my son only to see this man that I haven't seen in well over a decade, casually say 'hey'.
I just put my son in his bed and prompty walked out. It took everything I had not to punch that man for trying to destroy my life (either directly or indirectly) and I barely held my cool enough not to yell at her for doing this.
I told this to my sister who reached out to him. She's at least on talking terms with my father and she found out that he's going to be living with my ex wife for 2 months.
This led me to 3 possible scenarios.
Scenario 1 - He's there to see his grandson and spend time with him
Scenario 2 - They're trying to entice me into some negative action to get me to go to court and lose my custody
(Going with what she DOES not what she SAYS)
Scenario 3 - This is one that fucks with me. They're actually together in some way.
Now, I've made my bones with my ex moving on. I've been racking up notches and she tried to fuck up my life so I felt sorry and contempt for anyone that falls for that innocent doe trap but I can't shake the notion that my father could be that guy. It's irrational but nothing about them is rational.
My ex is vindictive ( went as far as to cut her hair once because she some girl was flirting with me) and my father has no moral compass that I'm aware of so it's an unlikely possibility but one that I don't have an appropriate response to
So, I'm asking you guys. Has anyone deal with something similar? How did you overcome it? I'm being cold and trying not to engage but it took a lot out of me not to react and this will be ongoing for 2 months.
Any help would be welcomed