I need some advice, I was married for just over 9 years and had a child after almost 4 years of knowing and being married to her. Things where fine until my son was born but it was the usual stuff. But then I got cancer, I wasn't able to work for 3 years. I had leukaemia and 2 bone marrow transplants, this was no joke. Before and after I had gotten sick I was home taking care of our son, even after I got out of the hospital at 100 pounds I was taking care of him 12+ hours a day. 2 years after the transplant I was able to start working again, 2 months after I started working she came home from being on 6 week vacation without me and told me to "move out and find someone else to fuck'. She went back home to her parents in Europe for her 6 week vacation. I never cheated on her, I never hit her I never did anything wrong to her besides getting sick. We lived together for another 6 months after she came back and she took all of the money out of our joint savings account $50+ thousand at that time and bought a house even before any divorce papers were filed.
To say the least I got screwed in court, I have my son a few days a week and over night but I pay for his health insurance and $160 a week. I make $1075 a week, I come home with $526.07. I am going for a new job that is just over $100,000 a year double what I make now. Meanwhile she works as a "nanny" and cleaning houses and does not report her full income so it looks like she makes much less, even though she bought a new house in one of the richer towns in Connecticut and also bought a new car with in the first year of buying that house. She also bought an apartment in Europe where she is from a year before we got divorced without telling me. Why? Because I was home too sick to work but still taking care of our son, cooking 3 meals a day for him, giving him a bath everyday and taking care of him. She said "you aren't working, you are the woman now in the marriage you don't have any say what happens with the money"
What can I do to fix this situation? I can not keep letting her take 1/3 of my pay epically when she is hardly paying any taxes and makes more than me because of that. I am 36 years old, my son is 8 I can not live this way for another 10 years. Thank you.
I am divorced, the divorce was final in 2016. Also she is not an american citizen. She has told me she used me for a green card. I need to change the child support payments. I don't care about the money and the house she bought. But she has done a lot of improvements to the house such as put in new bathrooms in the basement and a bunch of other stuff without permits so I was thinking maybe I could tell the Town about that? I don't know. She works 2 or 3 jobs all under the table or she under reports it. She claimed to make $37,000 the year we filed for divorce and she bought that new house. the median income where she bought the house is $80,000 a year. I need help