We've been together for a year. Things have been slowly moving up to the pace I set. Friday night she went out with her girlfriend and got drunk enough to have plausible deniability but to also carry on a conversation with a guy well into 3 am. We grab each others phones regularly and neither of us have a problem with it. So that night when she got back I grabbed her phone to look something up, it was on her texts and an unnamed number had "Ok, have pleasant dreams." This was a little before 3am.
I'm not stupid, and further, I've been that guy before texting chicks that late at night. I haven't brought it to her attention, but i want to. I personally don't think 12 levels of dread will work here because I'm already most if not all those things. I have a life separate from her, I'm a personal trainer, I ride horses, I have a group of friends I see regularly, I have had girls flirt with me in front of her etc.
In the texts the interest seems one sided (his) but this isn't a guy she met that night this is someone from her past, plus she initiated. What i want to do is flat out ask her "do you think it's ok to text another guy the way you have while you're in a relationship?" Then tell her to go home. I refuse to be a guy she believes she can do this to, regardless of how she treats me personally. Its a slap in my face. I'd like, obviously because a year has been invested, for her to drop everything, but I am more prepared to cut her off right now. I didn't want to be rash, which is why you're reading this now