I've never struggled much with doing well personally. I lift, i work full time, go to uni part time, learn whatever skills I can in my very limited spare time and train BJJ. I do pretty much everything I can alone as an individual do that the sidebar reccomends.
I have however always struggled to build a social circle after high school. I moved cities and never had the time to do anything or go to any parties etc. I met people platonically but that was it. Nothing progressed from there. This has severely hampered my ability to get lays and understand basic social convention. Like I am totally out of loop of what everyone is into nowadays and am falling further and further behind in my red pill journey since I can relate less and less as time goes on. I literally didn't know what Snapchat was until mid 2017.
So I've got 2 questions going forward.
How does one build AND maintain a social circle outside of a uni setting? I prefer to build one outside of a university setting cause uni is almost done for me and I need something in the real world.
Obviously I cant depend on my friends to help me get more lays, I need to pursue this as an individual on my own and I'd much prefer that then depend on social status. However outside of online dating it's been a disaster since everything else requires social proof which I am severely lacking atm. Like if I go to a party alone in the creepy one there and automatically get rejected. How do I do better as an individual to get more lays? Like where can I go and what do I do to make my success rate less dependent on social status? Do I do more cold approaches at coffee shops? Do i go to clubs/bars more and game alone?
Like I honestly don't know the answer to this one. I want to be able to not depend on having a social circle but it's really hard without it.
Id love to hear your responses to these two questions.