My wife's been bringing this one up of late. It's probably less of a shit test and more of her trying to work out the puzzle that is dread game. I've been doing my best to end the line of questioning, but it keeps popping back up. I'm pretty sure she's actually more pissed that other girls are checking me out, but she can't exactly press that point. I don't think I've been ridiculously obvious, but right now my wife is watching it like a hawk and the other girls are delivering IOIs right back.
First incident: Two weeks ago, a girl (9) is all over me in the hot tub. I'm not pursuing, in fact I tell her I'm married, but she's basically inches from me when my wife rolls up. This is inadvertently a result of me giving the 18 year old next to me a lesson in how to pick up girls. She gets upset about me being next to the girl when we are getting changed later, I shrug it off and tell her I didn't touch the girl. The topic comes up again that night in bed, I ask her if she'd rather have a guy that no one was interested in and quickly end the discussion. Then we have sex.
Second: Apparently I checked out some girl and she spotted me. I'm pretty sure it was when I was walking out by the pool and wasn't aware that she could see me, but I don't bother asking when it happened because that just legitimizes her complaint. I deflected it twice.. ignoring it and changing the subject. I literally didn't give up an inch on it. It comes up again when we are bed and I shut it down with "I'm a man. I've got eyes and a pulse and I'll be looking at attractive women." End discussion and that night we have sex.
Third: We went out to a dualing piano bar, there was a batchelorette party that was funny in a sort of drunk and a bit embarrassing way. A bunch of 6-8's I wasn't even interested in, but they were right in front of stage and I made the mistake of commenting on a girl's legs when my wife is talking about them. Wife gets a little pissy there, I shrug it off. By the end of the night we are all hammered, we have sex that I can't remember and there's no discussion. The next morning a hot girl (8) obviously checks me out right in front of her. She comments on it in Spanish to her mother, which I catch and laugh about. That night the wife goes off about it in bed again, saying I don't find her attractive and mentions being jealous for the first time. I point out that I'm always trying to have sex with her which proves I find her attractive and then immediately escalate into sex. I get a soft no, but she initiates later.
I'm guessing that I'm doing dread right since I'm getting laid every time and she seems in a decent enough mood. I'm just really sick of answering this question and I'm not terribly interested in refraining from looking at other women.
How do I shut it down without being overly harsh?