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I walked away. (self.asktrp)

submitted by inquestionitive

tl:dr, I posted about a girl I was really interested in. I cared about her. Things went south, though, and today she was throwing shit tests my way, wondering if I really cared and if we should "give up", talking about how she's getting back with her mentally abusive ex and how that must make me really pissed. She caused me pain before. I've learned recently that this unicorn of mine was once a slut, and probably always will be, and I feel like I've finally unplugged myself.

So I walked away. I didn't get butthurt, frustrated, or sad, like I thought I would. I let my actions dictate what I thought. I told her I didn't care who she was with, and shortly after, I walked away. I thought separating from this girl would hurt me emotionally or make me spiral downward, but it did the opposite. I felt and still feel strong, calm, happy, empowered almost, and the look on her face of utter shock was priceless.

If you have doubts about walking away, you shouldn't. The guys on here are absolutely right. Walking away is your greatest weapon and it works. This may not seem like a big deal to some, but for me it was. Thank you, AskTRP. I didn't realize I had the strength to be a man.


[–]EntitledShitHead 23 points24 points  (7 children)

She caused me pain before. I've learned recently that this unicorn of mine was once a slut, and probably always will be, and I feel like I've finally unplugged myself.

She obviously doesn't respect you anymore. It hurst to next girls, but she's only going to bring more sorrow and slowly eat you alive. You made the right call.

I felt and still feel strong, calm, happy, empowered almost, and the look on her face of utter shock was priceless.

You gained power because YOU walked away.

If you have doubts about walking away, you shouldn't.

This is SO true. Archwinger said it best in one of his posts: “When a woman is being shitty, just leave. No pussy is worth putting up with bullshit. You are better off with no female prospects whatsoever than with a shitty girlfriend. Having a shitty girlfriend is like having cancer. Most days, you feel okay and live your life, but in the back of your mind you know that something is slowly eating you alive. You invest a lot of your energy and resources to keep the shitty parts of your life at bay and enjoy the good ones, but as time goes on, it takes more and more out of you. You slowly get used to more and more shit until your life is actually kind of unpleasant. Having that shitty girlfriend tumor invading your organs becomes part of your identity. Your life.” If you keep a girl like that you are just setting yourself up to have an absentee girlfriend — she’ll endlessly disrespect you, bitch at you, and probably flake. The minimum she has to do to get something out of you is proportional to how much she respects you as a person.

[–]JourneymanTRP 1 point2 points  (6 children)

OP also should be prepared for this girl swinging for the fences to get her orbiter back. She'll move an inch at least, but even if OP can use that and hit it, for his own sake he really should just be done with her.

[–]EntitledShitHead 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What she does now is no concern of OP. He hard nexted her. Nothing matters. She doesn't exist to him anymore.

[–]JourneymanTRP 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's what I'm making sure of. She's going to be like a Comcast retention specialist over the next few weeks.

It's easy to think you're just getting a quick lay and end up getting caught right back in that oneitis shit.

[–]EntitledShitHead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl are masters of sensing when a man has moved on, and they almost always push just a little bit to see if they can keep the dude in their orbit. OP made his decision from a place of strength, so let's hope for his own sake that he doesn't go back. We want to believe that the disrespect would end and that it would change everything, but it doesn't.

[–]EntitledShitHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What she does now is no concern of OP. He hard nexted her. Nothing matters. She doesn't exist to him anymore.

[–]EntitledShitHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What she does now is no concern of OP. He hard nexted her. Nothing matters. She doesn't exist to him anymore.

[–]EntitledShitHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What she does now is no concern of OP. He hard nexted her. Nothing matters. She doesn't exist to him anymore.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 8 points9 points  (2 children)

You're very welcome.

Enjoy your victory song for the day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0C1jj6I0eJA

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[–]omegalot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was amazing.

[–]ecosci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea always walk away she is trying to blame you while still seeing the badboy behind your back always remember when a female says her ex was abusve shes been alpha widowed and truly never get over his c*ck get yourself more options this slut is bad news.

[–]ex_addict_bro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've learned recently that this unicorn of mine was once a slut, and probably always will be

OMG, man, she is neither unicorn nor a slut, she is a WOMAN. They all will act like that. AWALT.

[–]Pillredpopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you man, walking away with your head up and your dignity in tact makes the situation that much easier to deal with. You have now learned a valuable lesson, taking control of your own shit will always be in your favor, instead of waiting for the other shoe to drop.