Does often realize after the pill how many missed opportunities you’ve had in the past? (self.asktrp)

submitted by Nex54

Realizing what’s really going on in the present is a given at this point, but it’s amazing how many past situations (and missed oportunities) I’ve had.

  • I remember back in 2007 when my 8th degree something cousin was staying with us in europe and, in spite of her boyfriend back at home (america), she fooled around with me for a month. And when it was time to fuck (my underwear was off, hers too, we were kissing and I was rubbing my dick against the exterior of her pussy), I tried to go in and she pulled away (LMR), and I caved and backed off like a moron lol.

She literally had pulled away because we had no condomns, she told me that, and instead of me going to the next room and get them, I put my pants back on and never tried it again for the remainder of her stay.......

  • Back in 2010 (I was 21) I had a job repairing/maintaining computers at a nearby local school. One of the teachers (30ish, attractive, taught computer science or something) started chatting me up and showed interest on my computer skills. She showed so much interest that she asked me if I could give her some private lessons............. of course, I didn’t want to do any kind of extra work so I called her and said I was sorry, but I was too busy..... oh, THE PAIN

These are a couple of noticeable examples of missed opportunities, while I also have a bunch of embarrassing ones lol.

Does this happened to you too?

[–]Iwannachokekatie 35 points36 points  (6 children)

Happens to most of us.

The only thing that bothers me is that despite being TRP aware and not being an awkward lanky nerd anymore, I get even less opportunities than I did back then.

[–]Nex54[S] 12 points13 points  (4 children)

Well, I have noticed that my oportunities increased only after I got bigger (gym). This may be because I’m 5’6 so I went from pathetic shortie to muscular shortie.

Those girls who kind of liked me before are now more straightforward with how they feel, those who didn’t like me are now shit testing me, and those who used to mess with me either stopped or backed down after a couple of snide remarks on my part.

The new ones show, on average, more interest, but the thing is, you have to put yourself out there and meet people. Right after I found trp I started going to the gym but stopped meeting new people, so ai got no results.

[–]Iwannachokekatie 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I have some issues with putting myself out there. I don't approach since I don't get checked out. Rarely attend social events where I could meet new people.

To be frank, I haven't really noticed any change when it comes to women despite being 40 pounds heavier than when I started working out.

[–]Nex54[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Attitude maybe? I used to get a lot of shit because I kind of acted like the top dog in the room, and I was a 5’6 toothpick, so you can imagine, eventually guys or women started bringing me down a notch and I looked pathetic.

For example, I’m the top guy at work. Two years ago I was constantly put down by a guy who realized I could do nothing to stop him, and people laughed their asses off and/or followed his example.

Today, this guy is gone (I got him fired), and my smartass, top dog attitude in there is virtually never crossed by anyone.

What changed? Stood up for myself, got bigger, and now people give me less shit. And, in that context, there’s more room for attention/attraction. No girl is gonna go after you if you are the loser of the group.

[–]Aesthetic_God__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That attitude thing, same thing is happening to me.

[–]shadada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i still struggle with this because its a tough and exhausting habit to break but i'll save you some valuable time with this advice... learn to be more receptive to your environment.

Don't be so self absorbed and in your head because your missing all the signs infront of you... people won't pursue your friendship and comradre as forward so you may see it in media but people will certainly make themselves approachable at the very least and its just a matter of being a bit invested in someone for a couple minutes to make the lasting impression with someone

[–]Aesthetic_God__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. When I was pua aware I had crazy success, after breaking up from an ltr, reading TRP and hitting the gym a year later I meet less people, kind of busy program. Moving around a lot and not living in a stable environment.. Been through tough times the past year. Drug use is also to be blamed for this.

[–]1atticusfinch1973 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I only have a couple of regrets where the girl was literally in bed with me and I did nothing. Knowing what I know now it was completely obvious but that’s life through a blue pill lens.

No point in feeling bad about the past, just learn from it and move forward.

[–]2chazthundergut 18 points19 points  (7 children)


But I've also had the opposite.

In my beta days I caught feelings for a few chicks who all friendzoned me.

Doesn't she realize that I'm the right guy for her? Doesn't she know we were meant to build a life together?

I was crushed every time.

But now? I thank God every day for those LJBF rejections.

If any of those unicorns had actually fallen for me back then, I'd be married with children having obligatory starfish sex once a month.

Instead, I'm fucking cute 21 year olds and having marathon threesomes with strippers in Tijuana.

One of those girls I had been rejected by (after months of giving free time and validation to) recently messaged me on facebook. She's put on some weight and is still working the same dead-end retail job. She told me how great of a guy I am and how she regrets not giving us a chance, and how we should "catch up."

I messaged her: "super busy, hope all is well" and didn't reply after that.

Thank God for those "missed opportunities"

[–]Werewolf35b 1 point2 points  (5 children)

This is so awesome.

I'm going through this as well, with the whole "men age like wine, women age like..."whatever it is, thing that ages badly, you know what I mean lol.

The ones that sent me away are now hitting the wall faster than they can believe, and the 19-22 year olds are smiling at me everywhere I go.....

[–]2chazthundergut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only caveat is that men only age like wine if they pursue their purpose and maintain their edge (physical, social, etc).

[–]Nex54[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones that sent me away are now hitting the wall faster than they can believe,

So, so true. Funny thing is, you can see they still try to look good, to look attractive, to compensate, and yet, it’s clear they are looking worse everyday.

Eg, I work with 8 women, ranging from 28 to 45. Only one (39yo) has clearly pulled something to age well. All the others are definitely post wall, and the pathetic attempts at looking better fool no one.

The only men I’ve seen fallen for their crap are the beta losers that have no sex, my boss included, so they kiss the floor where they walk.

[–]Livecrazyjoe 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Men age like wine. Women age like milk.

[–]Werewolf35b 0 points1 point  (1 child)

There you go lol. I wanted to say cheese.

[–]Livecrazyjoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheese actually tastes better aged. Milk not so much.

[–]Nex54[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean. I didn’t get even close to hook up with any of them, but had any of it happened, I would have tried to marry her and have children.

Tbh, I love the idea of having children now, but I hate the idea of settling down. I have to admit, I’m aware I’ll end up having children with multiple women eventually, but I have no idea how it’ll turn out for me in the long run from a legal point of view.

[–]growinglats 25 points26 points  (14 children)

Wtf is up with all this cousin shit

Didn’t read anything else

[–]pprstrt 11 points12 points  (4 children)

Redpill yourself on everything, man. Go look how bad incestuous relationships really are biologically.

[–]KingoftheCastle94 1 point2 points  (3 children)

TLDR for us noobs? I'm guessing by the sound of things that banging cousins isn't as bad for the offspring as the media made it out to be?

[–]Austinisfullgohome 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Google “harlequin icthyosis”

Happens when cousins breed. And that’s just one possibility.

[–]pprstrt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Harlequin-type ichthyosis isn't exactly what I would call common considering it's so rare it's incidence isn't quantified.

The gist u/KingoftheCastle94, is that people have inbred for a long-ass time (how do you think royalty works?) and it's not until a couple or more generations of siblings (or a few more of close cousins) that it gets to be dangerous. So unless your parent's are siblings, you married your sister, and your kids are doing the dirty, no one really has that much to fear. You just may end up your own grandpa is all.

[–]KingoftheCastle94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation. This kinda stuff intrigues me so much. Scientists are always flip flopping on whether it's serious or not.

[–]Nex54[S] 10 points11 points  (4 children)

8th degree cousing = almost not a relative. Besides, having sex with a cousing isn’t bad lol, it ain’t your brother

[–]Rudeyyyy 15 points16 points  (1 child)


Still is. Miss me with that Roll Tide Bama backwoods bullshit.

[–]Nergaal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everybody alive on Earth is like 40th degree cousin. 2 ^ 8 is about the size of a sustainable colony.

[–]growinglats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s bad.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done it in the past and it was worth everything......some of the best pussy I ever had.

[–]a_nus 3 points4 points  (3 children)

I've hooked up with my cousin. I honestly don't give a fuck. She's super hot, we barely see each other, and we're both consenting adults having a good time.

[–]Psilotheos 4 points5 points  (2 children)

It's chill you don't give a fuck but the matter of the fact, you hooked up with a family member

[–]a_nus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. No regrets. Social norms are overrated. As long as you're not hurting anyone, do what you want.

[–]KingoftheCastle94 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he only had one sock it doesn't count

[–]Aesthetic_God__ 2 points3 points  (10 children)

Yeah, happened a lot when I was younger. At high school I sucked at talking to girls.. I had hit on a girl and she rejected me, and a month later she called me saying she wants me and she's regretting. I rejected her lol. Mostly on my college years I would and still fuck girls but at their home, I had rejected girls only because I was too lazy to clean my house.. Living alone.. Fuck that shit lol it cost me a few lays because I didn't wanna get them at my dirty af house.

[–]Nex54[S] 1 point2 points  (9 children)

Lol, I remembered another one. Beginning of high school, new school, new people, this girl became my friend in the first few days.

She was barely chubby, and definitely bigger than me (I was really thin), which is probably why I didn’t think there could be anything between us, but she was pretty and I was a moron lol.

We had an acting-like class back then, and I remember we sat on the floor while the teacher explained stuff. She sat in front of me, laying her back on me. Needless to say, I got a hard on through the roof. I still didn’t know what the fuck was going on lol.

That same day (or maybe the following day), when we left the school and were going home, we walked a stretch together, and she hugged me. It was weird because she was bigger than me so we were in an awkward positio, hugging eachother and walking. And I still didn’t know what the fuck was going on lol.

We passed by a few older guys from school and they mocked us (you know how kids are at that age), and that was the end of it. This girl became my “best female friend” in that class, and I “confided” in her all about the other cute, little girl I liked that wouldn’t even give me the time of day (and turned out to be lesbian!). Friendzoned from day one by the imaginary love of my life, while the girl who wanted to put out became my friend.

A few months alter, I moved to europe, and this girl wrote me a letter in which she basically told me to stop obsessing with girls once I got rejected and there are tons of girls who would go out with me.

Now, a few years later, I finally realize what a moron I was, and she was basically telling me she would have put out with me but I was too stupid to see it lol. She had come onto me while I was a short, skinny loser, and multiple times! Cringeworthy stuff lol

[–]Aesthetic_God__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I confided to my a girl I was on lsd the other night. Lol

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Oh nooooooooOOOOOOOOOO

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[–]pprstrt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The red pill will guarantee hindsight is 20/20 in all areas of your life.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it's frustrating. But we can learn from our mistakes even long after we realize we made them.

[–]RedPilledRoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditate and quit living in the past.

[–]bigbodybuilderr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly no, I am having success now so I could careless about the old ones.

[–]Droogas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably don't ever admit this to anyone

[–]the_real_lunch_box 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think about this often but I only do it to learn from it. Crying over spilled milk serves no purpose, rather look at it as a lesson learned. I'm very grateful that these things happened because it pointed me towards the red pill. Things could be worse perhaps making different choices with a different upbringing I would be a natural chad but I would still be blue pilled and that's much worse.

[–]donkeydodo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had girls attracted to me alot in the past, both when I was fatter and now when I've gotten leaner. Problem is I started reading TRP maybe 3 months ago, before that I was BP when it came to romancing girls; I had no problem attracting them because I've always had frame, but when it got to girls I ventured into their frames instead of keeping mine so I always fucked up, without knowing why, until now!

[–]anabolic92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I get them even without swallowing the pill, I just hope one day I can look back and just laugh at how stupid/beta I was.

[–]Thunderfin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happened to me.

I'm only 19, so similar to you back in 2007, but had lots of missed opportunities in HS. Decently attractive guy, around 6', had a fine SMV though hung out with a "nerdy" friend group. No problem securing dates, couldn't for the life of me escalate and get second dates with girls who fit my standards. Low self-esteem / sexual vulnerability. 10-15 girls in total were probably into me throughout HS (and I went to boarding school, so it was optimal to have girls over and try things out)... left HS with only a first kiss last spring.

Some notables:

  • Facially nice girls with huge tits, probably a virgin, eye fucked me my whole junior year. Senior year, asked her out on a date, she was still sort of interested, but was already going to prom with someone else so didn't escalate.

  • End of sophomore year, girl went on a date with me, liked me, sent me paragraphs of texts over the summer. Told me that when I got to school we could bike to her house together and hang out (day student). Ghosted her for whatever reason.

  • Hung out with an HB8 who's a natural flirt, back when I was a sophomore. Same room together, and only watched a stupid movie with her, didn't do anything else even though my friend saw us and said he thought she looked DTF. A year later she was obviously still interested, and I never hooked up with her. We're close friends, but I think I've been in the friendzone for a while now (she texts me occasionally that she liked me, and wants to marry me one day... smh).

FML. Hopefully all this shit won't repeat in college.