Rejected 3 times in one night, bird shat on my leg and cracked my phone. (self.asktrp)

submitted by mysteryspoN

Yep lol. Big L's for me. I don't feel that bad but I was too drunk for my own good. Got rejected by a girl I've had a crush on for a year (I'm only 17), and I don't even feel that bad. I'm kind of happy I got rejected, much better than living a life of regret. But 3 girls in one night ?! Feelsbadman. What should I do? I really don't know.

[–]mcr00sterdota 100 points101 points  (4 children)

You're still alive dude.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 62 points63 points  (13 children)

Stop drinking and you'll stop whining as well.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 2 points3 points  (12 children)

Problem: I tried not drinking at a party and just didn't talk to anyone, 0 energy, 0 confidence. Any help?

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 39 points40 points  (5 children)

Yeah. Get out of your comfort zone.

[–]resnine 0 points1 point  (4 children)

How does one do that?

[–]TRPcez 8 points9 points  (3 children)

Taken from u/SirKolbath:

In a frame of x hours (2 is acceptable), approach as many girls as you can. The goal is to have them reject you. This has many effects, the most evident is Outcome Independence.

This is probably the best way to get out of your comfort zone and the easiest besides taking a cold shower daily.

Best of luck

[–]microgum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Approaching at High School parties is probably the easiest thing.

I'm in High School so I'm speaking from experience.

It's the exact same thing as approaching dudes.

Firstly, introduce yourself to anyone besides your friends you already have.

Those mexican dudes that don't seem like they speak an ounce of English? Who gives a fuck, go walk up to them with charisma and they'll be happy as fuck to meet you.

Literally talk to everybody; you'll realize that walking up to a girl and simply saying "Hey i'm ...." "Cool name" "Who are you here with?" any of those are simple introductory sentences.

Girls are there to get fucked up and to meet people. So are you. Don't waste it.

1 thing is parties is isolating after introductions though, or at least get a number.

Isolating is easy at house parties cause of the backyard and all that.

Be creative, don't be the dude at parties that sits with his friends the entire time (unless you just wanna chill and have a kickback type of thing).

Get out of your comfort zone or you'll die in it.

[–]resnine 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Wait, so I should go into the situation like I am going to be rejected? that should be what I am aiming for?

[–]TRPcez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. The reason behind that is so you can realize being rejected is not a big deal.

[–]willowhawk 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Have a little bit to drink. Fuck me man try to work some stuff out yourself.

Drink to much = too drunk to behave properly Drunk nothing = can't get loose.

So drink inbetweem. You're young you need to learn your limit

[–]FatGirlsInPartyHats -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Well he's on asktrp. It's not weird for him to ask questions...

[–]willowhawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never said it was weird.

[–]dongpal 1 point2 points  (1 child)

stop jerking off

thank me later

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard...... I don't watch porn anymore... wank only once or twice a week. Really hard considering I'm at peak puberty

[–]friendandadvisor -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Drink more.

[–][deleted] 82 points83 points  (6 children)

Find that bird and beat its ass

[–]yumyumgivemesome 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Utter disregard for this man's phone. Fuck that bird.

[–]Zanford 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dread game the bird. Grill some chicken within smell range.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Birds find me more attractive than women rn

[–]friendandadvisor 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Just wait till you get a girl to shit on your leg.

[–]cenie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people are into that.

[–]1redhawkes 24 points25 points  (6 children)

Lmao, who the fuck cares.

Keep maxing out your SMV, kill it in the gym and read the sidebar. You're 17 your life haven't even started.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Yeah agreed. How does one max out my SMV? I really need to read the sidebar tbh

[–]vileoat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Read and internalise the sidebar like a bible.

Hit the gym and lift.

Be social.

Get your shit together and own it.

[–]88VILLI 5 points6 points  (2 children)

read the sidebar before anything else. you’re trying to chop a tree without an axe.

[–]resnine 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's a solid point. He's just throwing darts without knowing where the target is.

[–]88VILLI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right. if you’re new just reading front page posts and filling in the blanks won’t cut it. there are tons of people giving out bad information here and on trp.

[–]friendandadvisor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really need to read the sidebar tbh

No, do not read the sidebar. It's not there to help you. There is no reason for it to be there. You cannot benefit from reading it. After all, if it was of any value, it would be put in a place that was readily accessible. Maybe even required reading.

[–]SauliusTRP 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Keep it up, remember it's oft just numbers game. The more you approach, the more you learn and success. Rejection is better than regret.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]Manilatimes 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Rejected 3 times in one night? Set your goal to be rejected 50 times in one night.

[–]AbdulCapon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In one hour*

[–]zeussingh 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Next time push it to 6

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tried To get more rejections tbh; I asked a girl now to meetup and she said yes... so I guess I'll have to keep trying for 6 rejections lol

[–]CaribaLd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Must have been a powershit from that bird if it could crack your phone

[–]room_303 2 points3 points  (1 child)

So trp is like Facebook for men now?

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calm down it's not that deep; if anything it's pretty funny

[–]BarackTheObama 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Man the fuck up

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you Obama

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you go into the night feeling? Also the “juice” comes and goes...trust me,you’ll have days where it all going weird good too,just like the bad days.

[–]Elitevaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have fun getting rejected, it's not so bad then

[–]NorthWonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit happens. Be thankful you found this now instead of post 30 years old. Keep getting out there & don't let shit phase you.

[–]mrrooftops 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Get over yourself. You sound like a whiny entitled girl. Men earn things. You haven't put in any effort to earn anything yet.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)


[–]mozofila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last year on my birthday I cracked my phone's screen, lost my credit card, felt down and got a scar on my face that's permanent. This year I only lost my wallet. It's not the end of the world but you gotta learn from it.

[–]Zanford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 rejections in one night is nothing dude lol. "Make 100 approaches" is standard newb training advice (not in one night, granted), and do you really think those guys are getting 98-100 bangs out of those 100 approaches?

You could approach dozens a night.

[–]ValorElite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I got rejected by two groups of women within twenty seconds of each other.

I just shrugged my shoulders and went back to dancing/ chatting with my group. Still pulled.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

At least you didn't got rejected by the bird

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real lol

[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I think that being 'too drunk' is a good path to follow, so, I can't imagine what your problem could have been.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)


[–]friendandadvisor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much.

[–]opper-hombre1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 girls have rejected you but 3 billion have not. Keep your head up and like others said, taper off the drinking

[–]Wrath_of_Trump 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Keep trying. Not with them, but keep trying. And cut down your drinking.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I need to learn to not use drink to pull; very difficult.

[–]Wrath_of_Trump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not an anti-substance guy, there's a reason alcohol is part of the culture, you just have to slow down after 2 or 3. It's not a race.

[–]neoda1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17 (yo), You got alot of time my friend dont worry.

[–]FlyingSexistPig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can only get better from here.

[–]2chazthundergut 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Beautiful, champ. You are on the right track for sure.

Now go get rejected by 100 more chicks.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the aim :)

[–]TheLanternFlame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out there again, but sobered up. Take the rejection head on, and it can work wonders. There's this tedx talk that the guy gets/ask to get rejected 100 times and went full u turn in his life. Now he's a successful man, due to immunity of rejection.

I need around 30+ more rejections though

[–]mattbrah 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Your story made me laugh, if that is any consolation.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Made me laugh too, looking back :)

[–]daytonbull90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In sales you always want to 'go for no', embrace rejection, because it's how you get what you want.

[–]stiffmiester786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lift, improve your smv, join social clubs, martial arts and group activities, you will meet new and cool friends.. chicks will come flocking without the bird shit

[–]DntPnicIGotThis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

keep lifting.

[–]FlexGunship 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 20 years ago I decided I wanted to learn to play golf, I got a set of clubs, went to a driving range and hit NOTHING and broke a club. So I decided to play a local public course... lost every ball I brought and left my putter on one of the greens but was too embarrassed to go back for it later. I tried out for the high school golf team, and was laughed at and made fun of.

Now I'm pretty damned good and I fuckin' love to golf.

But if you had asked me 20 years ago, I probably would've told you I was ready to give up and would never bother playing again.

I don't know what the moral of that story is, but now I want to go golfing. Man up, OP.

[–]stylesm11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're shooting out of your smv range dude, either improve up to them or shoot lower

[–]Incaahhh 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Tf do you mean whatre you gonna do?

Just do what you were gonna do already

[–]mysteryspoN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carry on... persistence is key. I've learnt a lot and feel really good surprisingly

[–]stoicstephen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stoicism will be your saviour in times like these.

[–]kiwifx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I was hoping by 'bird', you meant woman. Subsequent story was not satisfying.

[–]ThrowTheTRP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try 15, while I don't recommend the numbers game, I was a big fan of it when I first started out, the anxiety becomes easier to deal with, you aren't losing.

[–]usernameishardtomake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol move on hahahhhaha. Laugh about it, improve your smv, life happens bro 😂

[–]Black_m0ngoose 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Stop drinking. Get yourself in order.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Very hard. Especially with my situation. Need to read sidebar a lot more tbh

[–]Black_m0ngoose 0 points1 point  (1 child)

There's nothing hard about it.

Are you a fucking man or aren't you?

If you're a slave to the bottle, you're no better than a woman.

Check between your legs. Do you feel a hole down there? No?

Get a fucking grip. You don't need the sidebar for such a simple issue.

Remember why you came here: to be better.

You have to give something up to achieve anything in this world.

You'll never be a man if you cannot maintain your sobriety. Indulging is for women.

[–]mysteryspoN[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)