TRP didn't really seem relevant in my life until a few nights ago.
I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2.5 years. There have been some good parts, but lately, things have been getting dissatisfying. They have been dissatisfying for three things:
3) Her Friends
1: I go all-out beta on her birthdays. I figured out her favorite spots, cook her favorite meals, call up her old friends. I host surprise parties in lavish restaurants (burning a hole in my wallet). She's got a love for expensive wines? I got it. She wants to go shopping in an expensive part of town? On the house. I once talked my way into a reservation with one of the city's best sushi places, negotiated the price down, and got them to let me invite 10+ more friends.
On my birthdays, I'm lucky to get her moving off her ass to do anything. She'll buy me discount sweaters, iPhone case covers...one birthday, she got me a picture frame of us. That was it. No party, no dinner, nothing. This year, she can't even make my birthday because she scheduled a girls night out to go clubbing. She says we "could do something" next week.
2: We have sex rarely. And I mean, rarely. She lives in a house with her friends and she doesn't want us having sex there (even when her housemates are out of the house). Her best friend rooms with her, and she basically hates me. We have sex once every 4 months (I've counted). I have to rent a nice suite at one of the more expensive hotels in the city. We never spend the full night together. Every other day, it's just porn and masturbation.
3: As stated previously, her friends fucking hate me. They enjoy getting her to spill the beans on our planned dates, and then coming up with hangouts that interfere with those times. My girlfriend has no spine and she'll go out with them despite our earlier, arranged dates. One time, I sat at a restaurant table alone for half an hour before I realized she had gone out with her friends and forgot to text me about it.
Believe it or not, I wasn't bothered by it as much as I should have been. Not until a few nights ago.
I was working on a project late at night, up till 4 AM. I had an exam the next morning at 8 AM. I needed to crash at her place. When I texted her, I got a response saying that I couldn't use her room because "she felt awkward". Before I could protest, she said she was sleepy and promptly stopped texting me back. I spent the night huddled in my shitty car freezing my ass off. I used my car's screen protector as blankets. FML, right?
I later learned that her roommate urged my girlfriend not to let me crash in the room. Her roommate said I can take care for myself. She said she doesn't want me in the room. Funny, she has tons of other guys over for her one-night stands. Funny, I've been nothing but nice to her for years and this is what I get in return. Wouldn't even let me crash on the couch.
I just found out about TRP a couple of days ago and some things are starting to click in my head. I'm a little sad because I try so fucking hard to make her happy, and she doesn't blink twice to having me freeze in the car (it was during winter).
I think she likes her friends more than she likes me. She drives them around the city and helps them out late at night all the time.
TLDR; Go above and beyond for my girlfriend: get nothing in return.
Edit 1: Sorry guys, I wrote this while my head wasn't right. The "sleeping in car" incident happened last winter. I dropped the issue. A few nights ago, she told me why I wasn't allowed in the room (due to her roommate not letting me). ALSO -- Her ROOMMATE has the one-night stands. Not her. At least, for now, I don't think she does.
Update 1: Damn, just woke up. This got a lot more comments than I was expecting. A lot of you have been wondering if this is a troll post and why I put myself through this and why I haven't dumped her. The truth is, this is my first relationship and I've had a crush on her for years. I guess I was hoping she'd eventually come to her senses and start reciprocating. But, it seems pretty obvious that's not going to happen. Fucked this one up pretty good. Anyways, just called my local gym to set up an appointment for registration, and I guess it's Day 1 of not texting/responding to her. Thanks guys. I probably will update this sometime in the future, and am appreciative of all the advice.