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Girlfriend calls me a total fucking bitch after I refuse to get involved in physical altercation that doesn't involve me (self.asktrp)

submitted by czechpowerhouse1238

I was out bowling with my girlfriend of 3 months and she had been having a few beers. Every time she'd go buy one she'd talk to the guy selling the beers for a few minutes afterward. He just seemed like a shy, skinny asian student.

Suddenly, a burly white guy comes in, drunk as fuck. He starts talking shit to the group bowling next to us, 2 younger corporate office worker looking guys and 2 girls. They also happen to be pretty drunk and they start hurling insults at each other back and forth. Finally, it gets to the point where the burly white guy says, "Nice pants, bro!" and the young guy doesn't really have a good response to that, so he starts walking over to ostensibly fight the guy as his friend and two girls try to hold him back. The shy asian beer server is trying to tell the burly white to leave but he's too big for him and he's just sort of standing there doing nothing. Now the whole bowling alley is watching.

My girlfriend, having had a few beers, starts walking over to the burly white guy who is just aching for a fight. "Yo, where are you going?" I say. "I'm a girl, he's not going to hit me! We have to stop this." I say, "No, we don't. Stay out of it, it's not your problem." She says, "I've talked to that guy and he's really really nice! We have to help him." Now a lot of people are walking towards to diffuse the situation while I am sitting back. "It's not our problem. Leave it." I say as I hold her back. The last I want is for her to get fucked up too. She gets really mad and starts frothing at the mouth: "Oh, you are such a fucking pussy. I bet if someone tried to hit me you would just watch like a little girl. I'm sorry, but it's true. You are a total fucking bitch. You're weak, you're girly and you're not at a man at all. If Tim was here instead, he would throw that guy out himself without me having to ask for it." Tim is her gangster ex-boyfriend. He's 200lbs, I'm 150. I say, "Alright. Maybe you should call him up so he can take care of this because I'm not having anymore. See ya." and I turn around and walk out of there. She called me three times since I left but I haven't picked up.

Do I next her?


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[–][deleted] 39 points40 points  (3 children)

And the fact she compares him to her ex is all manner of disrespect. And if OP tries to hamster that his GF was drunk, remember this. A drunk mans words, are a sober mans thoughts.

[–]PantsonFire1234 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She'd only compare him like this if she's checked out of the relationship. This girl is fucking some Cad.

[–]Snufek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In vino veritas, as they say.

[–]0mnipath 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Seriously, a redder flag doesn't exist.

[–]50pluspiller 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Hard Next.

Good thing you discovered relatively quick that she's not worth being in a relationship with you. 3 months is about the limit amd red flags will wave.

[–]RatBastardJones 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Dump her before she gets you killed.

[–]look4wolfpack 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Women trying to leverage men's power for her own benefit = next unless you want to be a pawn. Honestly I've never met this person and I hate her. If she's so fucking tough why does she need some technicality not to get her ass beat? Why doesn't she just go handle that big dude herself? The entitlement is strong with this one.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child)

"Alright. Maybe you should call him up so he can take care of this because I'm not having anymore. See ya." and I turn around and walk out of there.

Excellent. Walking away is your biggest strength.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, what he did was a great way to handle it. Just don't go back and be a beta OP. If anything have her come crawling back and suck your D.

[–]Flyflyguy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hard next. If you fight in a public place you will go to jail. This is a lose massive lose situation.

[–]SoRedSuchAlpha 6 points7 points  (6 children)

Hard next, IMO.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (5 children)

... and lift if you're only 150

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Depends. I'm only 5'8, and I was a lean, but pretty ripped 150 before I started training to fight higher weight classes. Also, training takes most of the advantage away from a bigger, stronger, untrained man. I'd recommend he train for self confidence.

[–]juliusstreicher 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I was a lean, but pretty ripped 150 before I started training to fight higher weight classes.

I wish you hadn't said this. Now, somebody is going to start another Conor MacGregor thread. ::sigh::

[–]ChadThundercockII 0 points1 point  (1 child)

No, I would like to start a Sauld Alvarez, Gennady Golovkin, Erislandy Lara, Miguel Cotto, Oscar DeLa Hoya, Manny Pacquiao, Shane Mosley, Roberto Duran( this one could hit harder than a light heavyweight) thread.

[–]Louisie_steezy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm late like shit, but I weigh 178, bench 275 for my max and I'm 5,8. I could easily loose about 15 pounds to be 8-10% body fat

[–]Modbsutansalt 16 points17 points  (0 children)

3 months hardly makes her your girlfriend. That's about the time most of us would start considering to dismiss other plates IF she measures up to girlfriend status, which she just failed to do.

[–]psyflux 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She has literally spent the past three months subconsciously comparing you to Tim. The booze loosened her tongue and the truth fell out. Better sooner than later I say.

Hard next. Spend your newfound free time and money at the gym.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Next / plate her.

Girlfriend quality women do not swear and hurl degrading insults at their man. They also don't heavily consume alcohol to the point where they think this is ok behavior.

Sorry bud, your girlfriend's a drunk ho.

[–]Spread_The_Red 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You did right leaving, hard next

[–]Eyes_Of_The_Dragon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do I next her?

Absolutely. She wants you to get involved in fights purely for her entertainment. This isn't the last time that'll happen. If she loves to watch men fight, there are TV shows for that.

Your response was brilliant, by the way.

[–]PeopleHateThisGuy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She failed to show you any kind of respect. In fact, she tried to tear you down. This is where you Next her without giving it a second thought.

[–]Mustaka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Head over to /r/pussypassdenied. I think you will find it quite eye opening to this type of behaviour.

[–]Entershikari 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girls love making men fight

[–]notmyusualreddit 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The fact that you're asking us IF you should next her after she insulted you as directly as humanly possible, shows us she's right, she just used the fight as an excuse to bring it up.

I'm 6'4" 230lbs and I wouldn't have got involved either. But my gf wouldn't have said that to me because she'd know I was doing it because my career is worth more than the potential arrest, and that my health is worth more than someone else's health.

In college my fraternity got into a 7 on 3 fight. We were the ones with 7. Overall we destroyed those guys and they basically crawled away in the end. I was one of the 7 and didn't even get touched one time. Except one of our guys got hit so hard in the eye that it tore whatever moves your eye. Even after surgery his eye was never the same. 7 on 3, still ended up with a life altering injury. No thanks.

[–]PantsonFire1234 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you know how to fight and gauge the situation this shouldn't be the worry. Everyone who tells me that they refrain from fighting due to personal safety is secretly hamstring away the pressure. Seven of three hardly sounds like a test of blood. Chicks dig scars and if you're eye goes limp you can always wear a cool eye-patch.

Now having said that, the only man who can judge for a reason to fight is the man who's involved. And it's not something you are required to do to earn a girls pussy. So fuck that shit if you aren't that type or having responsibilities with your job or family.

Bitches like this are clueless

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, you were correct not to get involved in someone else's civil war. I am a big dude, and I never do that. The three levels are engagement are: Not Your Problem, Mind Your Own Fucking Business, and Kill The Motherfucker Because He Came After One Of You.

"Oh, you are such a fucking pussy. I bet if someone tried to hit me you would just watch like a little girl. I'm sorry, but it's true. You are a total fucking bitch. You're weak, you're girly and you're not at a man at all. If Tim was here instead, he would throw that guy out himself without me having to ask for it."

I would have administered a disciplinary spanking, on the spot.

YMMV.

[–]Shin_Ichi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Do I next her?" Go no contact on her, for your on safety. It's clear you don't respect yourself enough if you even have to ask if you need to next her.

Sounds like she's an alpha widow, she also clearly has problems.

[–]top-notch-alpha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you for walking out bro, I suggest you next her thats a lot of disrespect for someone you barely know.

[–]Albacorewing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your girlfriend is an abusive alcoholic. You are nuts if you stay with her. If you do stay, by the time it is all over you will be in several hundred incidents as bad as this, or worse.

[–]jcrpta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I'm a girl, he's not going to hit me! We have to stop this."

This, gentlemen, is how women get beaten.

They assume that literally no man on earth will hit them and they can provoke all they like with impunity. Then one day they get it wrong...

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy fucking shit yes next her. Not only because she doesn't respect you but she absolutely WILL get you into a fight.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so over the top that it seems like it is fictional. It is that awful. I'll bite though.

Yes, if this happened as you write it, then leave. She does not respect you and humiliated you in public. Those are some of the worst things I can imagine a woman doing to a man.

Some women have this crazy thing where they get off on making men fight around/for them. I don't think they realize it and goes to show how shallow their caring is.

A few months back I was on my mother's porch with her. A short skinny guy had been walking the neighborhood and panhandled my sister-in-law in a weird way. My brother was going to talk to/intimidate him over this. We see the guy and my mother jumps up and walks around in the front yard so he can see her and comes back with a smile. She says "I was going to see if he would bother me so you could set him straight about all this!" My response: "What the hell is wrong with you?"

[–]screechhater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard next and go fucking lift, bro. Smart move man, you have no idea what that dude knows and unless you have thrown a lot of blows, he could seriously hurt you

" Dump her before she gets you killed." This ain't no shit - man, I grew up fucking rough in the streets, and more drunk bitches will get you fucked up then you can imagine.

She ain't quality for short or LTR next

[–]blarggggggggggg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This woman is clearly a manipulative, entitled cunt and will bring nothing positive into your life.

Good to see you are not picking up her calls, you have a better head on your shoulders than to get sucked into her emotional blackmail.

[–]Ali_s1987 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I scrolled down halfway and I think most people miss 2 important things in this.

"Every time she'd go buy one she'd talk to the guy selling the beers for a few minutes afterward."

"I've talked to that guy and he's really really nice!"

She seems like she is into the asian doode. Apart from that her statement is absolutely unforgivable so it doesn't matter either way.

[–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Textbook RP Theory, Knowing When She's About to Leave: When she tells you how nice some other guy is.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 2 points3 points  (13 children)

If you followed any of Red Pills lifting advice half of which I wrote you wouldn't be 150. But you didn't and you are. Enjoy being treated like garbage. If you were a beefy 200 and litteraly did the exact same thing this wouldn't of happened.

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    [–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    I obviously started at 230 of solid Russian muscle

    [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Exactly. That's why this shit never happens to me.

    One of my plates would be saying: "If Vasiliy were here, he would poke that guy to death with his finger."

    [–]PantsonFire1234 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Anything bellow 180 pounds is unacceptable. That's the weight of DeSean Jackson

    [–]someboringdude 0 points1 point  (7 children)

    I mean she called him out for what he is right? Dude needs to go lift and do some mma or boxing ASAP. I'm saddened by the amount of dudes on this subreddit who shy away from violence or fighting .

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      [–]someboringdude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Unfortunately sometimes the only thing Other people understand is violence.

      [–]czechpowerhouse1238[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      So I'm supposed to go and be her Frankenstein and fuck up dudes at her whim? Fuck that.

      [–]DwightWolftail 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      No you dipshit . I'll tell you a quote a wise man once said :

      While a warrior may choose pacifism , others are condemned to it .

      The translation is quite simple . If you are able to be violent and dangerous , then not going into a fight is a choice . Which means that no one is going to accuse you of being a bitch when you choose not to .

      [–]someboringdude 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Although I agree with you on that PARTICULAR incident you did the right thing. She did highlight a major truth though. You need to go lift and learn to fight. She said you were weak and girly.

      [–]czechpowerhouse1238[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Agree. I AM skinny/weak and I'm going to fix that about myself.

      [–]someboringdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Good. Unfortunately you found out the worst way possible but sometimes it's necessary to be told the truth. I have been boxing for the last 15 years and Muay Thai for the last 5. Although I don't advocate being a bully, there are plenty of times where I've had to slap someone or knock them out to diffuse

      [–]David35207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Wheymen

      [–]fakeplastictrees87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      As soon someone shows disrespect to me, bye. Abundance. There is better thing behind the corner, I didn't believe in the past, but now i can see it is true.

      [–]rebuildingMyself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Do I next her?

      Absolutely. That's some unforgivable disrespect. You handled it beautifully and I was hoping for a good ending. Box up her shit and mail it to her.

      [–]3rt41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Yes.

      [–]satanicpriest13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Next her, this wasnt your fight. Shes a violence craving psycho. Maybe dominate her in bed after she calls you 20 more times then drop her. That said fucking hit the iron and get to 200 if not more.

      [–]BenjiDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      If it was me and my GF said that shit. I'd never speak to her again. Instant next.

      [–]CumForJesus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      "girlfriend"

      [–]StayBlackAndRedPill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Don't negotiate respect with women. If she doesn't respect you, she ain't worth the effort. Next her.

      [–]SexistFlyingPig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Do I next her?

      You already did.

      If you're looking for validation, then yes, you did the right thing.

      But you already know that.

      [–]PantsonFire1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Downgrade her to a plate. She basically called you a beta and Tim her Chad. This girl is what I call a 'Fight Night Whore'. She wanted to provoke a fight, force your hand to see if you would be man enough to fight him. It's like second hand shit test. Her boyfriend probably kicked guys to the curb for a living and it made her panties wet.

      Now she wants you to beat the guy up like her personal gladiator and have crazy hot Alpha sex afterward. They get off on the high of having a fighter.

      If you ain't no soldier then lay off this one emotionally and devalue her importance in your life. Cause she's hanging by the edge.

      [–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      "Nice pants bro!"

      Some guy that was trying to goad me into a fight said something like this and i said, "thanks i got them at Macy's". Totally diffused the situation.

      [–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      I don't get the "nice pants" being an insult.

      ???

      [–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Never said it was a good one, it's tantamount to a neg. If you react negatively you validate it as an insult, if you react positively it is what it sounds like. It's basically a social trap.

      [–]solidsnork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Damn, if you don't next her she will never even respect you again for sure. She went nuclear insult on you. She will think if she can get away with that she can get away with anything.

      [–]Pillredpopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Next. That behavior will show back up, and probably at the worst time.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      She just shit on your entire manhood

      [–]juliusstreicher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      in front of people.

      [–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Next her ass. Bigtime.

      [–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I just re-read the OP, and I can't see a SINGLE thing that the girl did, since they arrived at the bowling alley, that doesn't deserve a hard next.

      Also, she clearly was lubricating for the Asian dude. She was all protective of him, while she wanted to get her bf into a fight. It's OK for OP to become endangered, but, she didn't ask anyone else to help out the set-upon clerk.

      Also, WTF kind of retard clerk didn't call for the PD when huge drunk is in there starting shit???

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Never stick your dick in crazy, OP; for an LTR anyways.

      It is one thing for her to call you a pussy for not defending her/ your self in an altercation that is about one of you. It is something else completely to call you a pussy for not being superman and stopping every altercation around you.

      It's also very alarming that she decided to bring up her ex boyfriend. I can't see a way that you could spin that, that isn't intended to insult you and compare you to him.

      At best, have a conversation with her about her behavior and her comments about her boyfriend, IF, and only if you see potential in her. If you do decide to have that conversation, stick to your talking points and don't let the conversation go down emotional tangent lane.

      [–]neverbesmall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Women key into the overall social dynamics of any group/room. She recognized a chance for you to become the dominant alpha male of the bowling alley, and was pissed off that you didn't take it, because then she'd be the girl with the dominant alpha male of the bowling alley.

      [–]juliusstreicher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Please give a follow up telling us how you nexted her slut ass...

      [–]BoyWhoreWithASword 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      She gets really mad and starts frothing at the mouth: "Oh, you are such a fucking pussy. I bet if someone tried to hit me you would just watch like a little girl. I'm sorry, but it's true. You are a total fucking bitch. You're weak, you're girly and you're not at a man at all. If Tim was here instead, he would throw that guy out himself without me having to ask for it."

      The only violence that should have occurred that night was you slapping the shit out of her. What a cunt.

      Tim is her gangster ex-boyfriend. He's 200lbs, I'm 150.

      Lol wtf? Fucking lift you scrawny fuck.

      I say, "Alright. Maybe you should call him up so he can take care of this because I'm not having anymore. See ya." and I turn around and walk out of there. She called me three times since I left but I haven't picked up.

      Nicely done.

      Do I next her?

      You have to. She nexted herself.