Hi guys! I've read the glossary and collected advice for beginners, and I am still looking for practical steps regarding these 10 crucial issues. While TRP approach is complex and require a systemic change in life, I think we all can benefit from listing useful protips and lifehacks that will help us in automatization of good habits. I encourage you to be as specific as possible when listing examples.
1. Developing non-neediness. Should we demonstrate a non-needy attitude by exposing our vulnerabilities (as mentioned by Mark Manson) in the age of mass surveillance, privacy concerns and a smart exploitation of weak points? Are there any alternative strategies?
2. Full enjoyment and deep engagement in relationships without attachment. As a fan of deep connections, how can I fully enjoy the relationship while being aware that "it's just my turn" and it can end at any time? Is there a clear trade-off between closeness and a pain of breaking up or can we circumvent this problem?
3. Polyhacking. Polyamorous settings are increasingly prevalent, having a rising influence on the gender dynamics. While I think that the concept of sharing love with more than one person can be very liberating and enriching, poly communities are largely poisoned by SJWs, amplifying the effects of hypergamy and leaving bottom 90% men in a bad position. What are the possible steps, apart from increasing one's SMV, to acquire more power in polyamorous settings? One idea that comes to my mind is to have a one penis policy (OPP) with the primary partner(s).
4. Outcome independence while learning from feedback. What is the optimal way to reconcile learning from mistakes (which largely relies on the emotional feedback) and remaining confident/feeling good no matter what the result is?
5. Compersion instead of jealousy. In the age of constant comparisons, artificial needs and a disrupted gender equilibra favoring young attractive women, it's easy to become jealous about everything. At the same time, suspected and actual acts of sexual cheating make us anxious or hurt because we care about them. What if we could apply a counterintuitive approach and become invincible by deriving pleasure from the well-being of others?
6. Alternative sources of true love. There is a widely discussed possibility that women are generally incapable of loving men as much/in the way the men expect them to do, and my personal observations seem to confirm this assumption. As a sensitive romantic by nature (ouch), I can't really eliminate a strong need for a "one soul in two bodies" metaphysical connection. Love is also particularly beneficial for the overall health and life satisfaction (see: https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness). Can we solve this contradiction in other ways than by having pets and taking empathogens?
7. Social proof and preselection. Women are primarily attracted to male status and influenced by other's perception of our attractiveness. Are there any useful tricks to non-directly communicate our high social position, such as through a friendly wingwoman?
8. Convenient tips for a) increasing her investment, b) evoking strong emotions. We may achieve these goals by staying less invested and simply doing exciting things. While both are great long-term lifestyle choices, we all sometimes experience ego depletion, fatigue, low mood or just laziness. Let's name some simple, low-effort tricks to increase her engagement or boost the attraction when it's hard to maintain a strong frame or make more effort.
9. Using powertalk, vulnerabilities, game theory strategies and variable reinforcement schedules. These are probably the most effective methods in managing the relationship from the very start. Did anybody try incorporating them in a relatively ethical manner? If so, could you share some practical examples?
10. Reversible, healthy male contraception. We need to take care of our reproductive rights - and condoms, while largely protecting from unwanted pregnancy and STDs, are sometimes not enough due to obvious reasons. Vasectomy, on the other hand, can result in a long-term pain, become an irreversible procedure or evoke an auto-immune response (produce sperm antibodies) with largely unknown health consequences. Are there any better possibilities available in Europe? What if we could use the heat-based contraception as a temporary solution till the better ones are developed?