TL;DR: I threw a small party at my apartment and invited a good 15 of my friends. We're all college kids in the university setting. I blacked out and fat chick takes advantage of me by making out with me while I'm passed out in my own bed. Girl I'm seeing finds out from this girl and still seems to blame me for this. Thinking I'll end my relationship but not sure what to do about the big girl taking advantage of me. She's not a whale but she's pretty thick, not a girl I'd ever get with or attractive to me at all.
I'll try to keep this short. I'm a university student, been lifting and a lurker on the redpill all together for a year now after coming out of a long relationship. Been getting more attention after making gains and becoming better with women. Have a good social circle of friends and potential girls.
I started exclusively seeing this girl about 3 months ago. She's cute and I'm her first relationship so I decided why not, she won't be like all the sorority sluts. Anyways she leaves for a weekend to her hometown as does my roommate. So I decide, screw it I'll throw a little gathering at my place on a Friday night since my friends wanted to hang out.
I tell my friends to invite their friends and around 15-20 people fill up my apartment. I'm bantering and having a good time with all my guests, drinking and joking around. I can tell I'm getting attention from some of the girls who show up as I have the highest social status by knowing pretty much everyone and for hosting the party. Anyways I end up having too many drinks and I literally blacked out (I know this was dumb, especially since TRP doesn't encourage drinking too much). I felt it was ok to do so because it was my place and I trust my friends.
Now this fat chick I know had been eyeing me, came over with two of her friends. She's not landwhale fat but she's pretty plumpy and not attractive to me whatsoever. All of her friends leave home with each one of my friends (props to my friends for getting some that night). I had no interest in this fat chick at all, but I was too drunk to tell her to go home. I was literally falling asleep on a damn chair. The girl I'm seeing is better looking anyways so no point in cheating.
One of my female friends who I study with frequently comes over super late at the end of the night, I hardly remember her coming over. She puts me in my bed and also puts the fat chick in my bed with me but on the other side of my bed (I have a big bed).
Apparently the fat chick makes out with me as soon as my friend leaves, but I have no idea. The next day I wake up and she's already up and helping clean my place. I assumed she slept in my roommates room because she was too drunk to go home and don't think much of it. She helps clean up and I take her home as I get ready to go eat with some of my friends for Cinco de Mayo.
Fast forward to the next weekend and this chick and her friends are throwing a little function so I head over with my friends and the girl I'm seeing. We drink and all have a good time. But at the end of the night, fat chick tells my girl about how we made out without me having any idea about any of this. So my girl gets angry and upset, I just take her home and tell her to talk to me while she's sober.
Next day I talk to her and tell her how I was black out drunk and had no idea fat girl made out with me. I sincerely feel like this chick took advantage of me as my SMV is way higher than hers, and I really don't recall any of it. I even have text messages where this chick texts her friends from my phone, checking on them, and letting them know that I passed out. I show these to my gf but I told her we should break up because this is something she probably won't let go. She insists she forgives me and that she gets it, but I think she actually doesn't.
If the tables were flipped around and I was a girl getting taken advantage of by a guy, everyone would be quick to say it was rape or something along those lines. But because I'm a male, I feel like my gf and the friends she told about it are not understanding. We didn't break up but I think I'm going to end the relationship soon regardless because I don't think its fair to blame me, even though she doesn't. Her attitude says otherwise.
I also haven't talked to fat chick about it at all because I am just really disgusted by it. I told one of my friends but he laughed about it and poked fun and said I got raped (I didn't mind the joking much). I think with my relationship the best thing to do is end it. But not sure what to do about the girl who took advantage of me. What do you guys think? Never been in a situation like this before.
Edit: I know TRP really emphasizes about being in control and in frame at all times. I just want to reiterate that when I was passing out drunk was at the end of the night and that I felt ok to do so because it was my own place. I know I failed at being in control by allowing myself to drink too much, but my question is how to proceed with the girl who took advantage of me. I learned my lesson for next time and know it’s not ok to drink past my limit, whether that’s in my own place or not because you truly can’t trust anyone.