Theres so much of information out there, so many gurus telling you to do 'X' so 'Y' will definitely happen. So many websites teaching you the behaviour of a High Value Woman... there is this one thing almost all the Gurus teach. "By not caring for the relationship, you hold the most power"... "Do not care, be busy, be high value" mantra is blatantly taught by all the big names ( Brian Nox, even Sherry Argov... in their bestselling books.
Well, congratulations, lady, you just answered your own question.
In. Their. Bestselling. Books.
When you go to Brian Nox's website, here is the first thing you see. Scroll down a bit and you get to read this:
Some men are silly to say the least. They don’t treat women with the respect they deserve in relationships, at work and even in their family lives. Sure, not all men are like this, but you might have noticed life is not always easy, as a woman.
I’m on a personal mission to change that. Being a man I get why men do what they do. Consider me your “insider” who is not afraid to share the truth about men and their ‘interesting’ behaviors. I share important strategies with women that will help them get what they deserve, in their love life, in their career, wherever they need it.
Yeah, right. Mr. Brian Nox, your personal white knight, is going to treat you with the respect you deserve, by giving you inside information on how men are silly and what you should do to get everything you deserve from them.
Just click here to buy his book.
I swear, if I ever get sick enough of working for a living to be willing to sacrifice my self-respect, I will take a fifty milligram dose of ondansetron hydrochloride, and start penning "Coughing Up The Red Pill: How I Rejected Misogyny and Discovered Women are Wonderful", full of every platitude I can think of about how women are perfect, how anything they do wrong is men's fault, how they deserve a Nobel Prize and a Congressional Medal of Honor just for breathing, and how it is morally imperative that every man they encounter should devote his entire existence to satisfying their every whim, but never dare to speak in their presence unless given permission.
Then I will buy a small Caribbean island, have a palace built on it, and never do any work again, unless flinging the ice from my martini glass off the balcony counts as "watering the lawn".
Because hordes of women will buy enough copies to kill a small forest, then read the first three chapters and collapse on the sofa in a drugged-out stupor of ego-gratification, oblivious to the babble of daytime television or the fact that their bag of potato chips has spilled into their unwashed hair.
In case my real point isn't totally fucking obvious, anyone who makes money giving women relationship advice is really being paid to tell women what they want to hear.
It must be quite tough to be a woman sometimes (and here I am no longer being sarcastic), because women are constantly surrounded by a perfect storm of misinformation, blowing from overprotective busybodies, and dudes who will say anything if they think they'll get laid.
Let's face it: If good relationship advice for women affirmed what they already wanted to hear, they wouldn't need any. They'd already know it.
All growth, by definition, happens outside your comfort zone. This is common sense. If you want better results than you have ever had, you are going to have to learn things you have never known, think things you have never thought, and try things you have never done.
If advice tastes good on your tongue, spit it out. It's full of sugar and it will make you fat. Anyone can make long lists of what they they deserve, and seek out people they can pay to agree with them. But if you think you deserve something, and the world isn't offering it to you, then it has a different opinion of what you deserve.
And you can work hard to change yourself, or you can pay people to tell you the world is mistaken. Guess which one of these will get you what you want?