I had stopped shaving, period. I washed my hair once a week. I just threw it up into a bun on my head, same style every day.
As part of experimenting with RP ideas on femininity and re-committing to becoming my best self, I discovered that these things were actually symptoms of depression. I wasn't taking care of myself well enough, and only trying to be more feminine really revealed it.
I'm happy to report that I'm getting better day by day, and that my husband is really responding to the fact that I'm not a hairy, smelly, mess anymore. I realise that this should be the absolute basics, but when you are depressed it can seem totally normal.
I wonder if this indicates that many women who don't take care of their physical appearance are depressed, too?
Thank you, ,RPW. I'm slowly coming back.