SELF IMPROVEMENTKeeping your nails done (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by Ruinedgirl22

I used to think that manicures and pedicures were meaningless wastes of money. “No one’s going to look at my hands or feet!” I thought.

I didn’t realize that I unconsciously did just that. Whenever I talked to a woman (and especially a man but I’ll go into that another time) and saw that her nails were clean, cut and painted, my opinion of her seemed to rise. It showed that if she takes care of “meaningless” things like her nails, she very likely takes care of herself as a whole.

Ever since I realized this, I’ve kept both my hands and feet done. I don’t always go to a salon; I mainly purchase those insta-dry Sally Hansen polishes, clippers and filers and do them myself every week. The effects that doing this has had on my self-confidence is insane. I feel sexier, more feminine and even cleaner. I’ve definitely noticed others glancing at them when we talk (and often complimenting me) and I feel good knowing what this could imply.

[–]thatbadlarry 40 points41 points  (3 children)

I work in healthcare so nail polish isn’t professional but I keep my nails nicely groomed and it really helps my confidence. I keep them nicely shaped and clean. My trick to keeping them groomed is to push back my cuticles every night in the shower and then slather them in Burt’s Bees cuticle balm afterwards before my hand lotion. I’ve really come to love the aesthetic of natural but well-groomed nails.

[–]eatavacado 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Oh this cuticle treatment is a great idea. Do you find the cream at Walmart?

[–]thatbadlarry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes you can! Anywhere that sells Burt’s Bees sells their cuticle balm. It’s great stuff and makes me look polished without using actual polish.

[–]SushiWizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good tip thanks :) I hate wearing nail polish because I get sensitive skin and scratch quite a bit but doesn't mean I can't pamper my nails

[–]leftandleaving_ 54 points55 points  (9 children)

I'm a welder and I still spend $100 every two weeks on lash extensions and long gel nails. it's a bit pricey but it helps me to feel feminine despite my career.

[–]elrabb22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the idea of a welder with gorgeous nails 😍😍😍😍

[–]bambiliftsweights 6 points7 points  (7 children)

Where do you get lash extensions so inexpensive?

[–]leftandleaving_ 8 points9 points  (4 children)

I paid $130 for the first time, and then it's $30 every two weeks to get them fixed up. it really isn't bad at all and they actually look great!

[–]bambiliftsweights 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Wow that’s really inexpensive - are they the full sets? Demi?

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    [–]PrettyRP420 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    I was going to ask that too! lol....I would love to get them they're just so expensive here. $150 for putting them on and then $75 for refills and that's what I see with groupon

    my nails/toes cost me 75 every other week tho

    [–]bambiliftsweights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Me too - 75 plus tip every two weeks. Expensive AF.

    [–]bambiliftsweights 14 points15 points  (30 children)

    This is something I feel super guilty about haha.

    I have acrylics and I spend $140 a month on it.

    SO ridiculous.

    I’ve tried painting my nails but I lift weights every day and they chip instantly.

    Press on, all of it.

    The only thing that keeps my nails nice, long and feminine is acrylics.

    But yeah, it’s expensive.

    I did cut out eye lash extensions though because that was also $100 a month.

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      [–]bambiliftsweights 17 points18 points  (0 children)

      I think that’s awesome.

      And you have no idea - before I got married and my husband took over the finances, I spent around $500/month on looking sexy.

      We’ve massively cut back now but I am not gonna lie; I miss pampering myself a little.

      [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

      I wish more guys realized this. We’re not getting free dinners. The heels, dresses, nail polish, makeup, hair products to look good for the date costs us, too lol.

      [–]elrabb22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Thank you!!!!

      [–]cherryhearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Wow so appreciative!! This is lovely.

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        [–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        We're not playing "whose life is harder"

        [–]RedCyren 6 points7 points  (3 children)

        Same here. My nails and hands don't mix well with the bar. The other thing I found, because I'm not shy about helping, moving heavy things, etc., was my legs. Bruises all over from weightlifting and being active. It's one of the few reasons I like fall and winter - I can wear tights with skirts and hide the bruises from the gym.

        [–]bambiliftsweights 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        I also weight lift daily and I haven’t had any issues.

        Have you tried acrylics?

        [–]RedCyren 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        I have, it was just cost, but reading your post made me want to get back into that routine. So thank you!

        [–]bambiliftsweights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You are welcome!!!

        [–]ragnarockette4 Stars 6 points7 points  (1 child)

        Deciding to get acrylics was honestly a Top 10 life decision. I am a nail biter and I was always so ashamed and struggled to stop for any length of time. I started getting acrylics and it increased my confident tremendously, keeps my hands out of mouth, makes me a better back scratcher, and overall makes me look more feminine and put together!

        [–]bambiliftsweights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Totally agree!!!

        Thanks for chiming in!!!

        [–]norahlady 3 points4 points  (2 children)

        I want to start lifting weights but I also maintain long nails and it's making me nervous about starting! Any tips for lifting with long nails?

        [–]bambiliftsweights 4 points5 points  (1 child)

        Yes - don’t be nervous!

        I’ve been doing it for a long time.

        I go hard, racking, reracking, I never have to worry about.

        First time is terrifying but eventually you don’t even notice.

        [–]norahlady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        This is so great to hear! I've heard in passing all the time, "I'd love to lift but then I couldn't have long nails", so I guess somewhere along the way I thought I'd have to choose. It's great to hear from someone who does both!

        [–]Ruinedgirl22[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

        I think that’s awesome! If you’re able to spend that a month, why not? Obviously I’m biased but I think it’s worth it especially since painting them isn’t an option. Having them done is so important to your overall look (and confidence).

        [–]bambiliftsweights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I feel SOOO much more feminine in them!

        Thanks for saying that!!

        [–]snacksarelife 2 points3 points  (7 children)

        I thought about getting acrylics, but I haven't gotten them yet because of the lifting. Do they limit you at all in, say, deadlifting?

        [–]bambiliftsweights 3 points4 points  (4 children)

        No, I deadlift, squat, use kettle bells, really do whatever.

        I even do this plank movement where I have to drag weight on the ground and my nails stay perfect.

        I’ve had no issues at all and perfect nails 24/7.

        [–]snacksarelife 4 points5 points  (1 child)

        Awesome! Thanks for informing me ;) My nailpolish gets chipped all the time from lifting, so I will consider it as an option.

        [–]bambiliftsweights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        It’s a great option!

        [–]eatavacado 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Are your nails short? Do you get them done or do them yourself?

        [–]bambiliftsweights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        They are very long - they look like this

        And I have them done twice a month.

        It’s my one high maintenance thing.

        [–]queenvalerie 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        they definitely limit me, I pull sumo so my long nails ALWAYS scratch my quads, specifically my "over" hand because I pull over under grip.

        [–]snacksarelife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ahhh, I see. I pull sumo as well, either over-under or over-over...

        [–]eatavacado 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        With the press ons.. do you take them off for working out?

        [–]bambiliftsweights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        No they fell off almost immediately.

        Or I felt like they would.

        I hated them.

        [–]79seconds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Maybe Lashify? Or those Ardell individuals-wayyy cheaper.

        [–]U_Can_Have_The_Crown 12 points13 points  (2 children)

        I bought a gel polish kit (light, base coat, color, top coat) and do gel manicures bi weekly. Saves so much money and looks just as good as Salon.

        [–]krizzlemahnizzle 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        Do you use one of those UV light things to set the gel polish yourself? I'm been wondering if it's worth getting one.

        [–]U_Can_Have_The_Crown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I do. I got a kit from Ulta called red carpet manicure. It was a total kit for I think $60ish. It’s been so worth it. Once I used the base coat and top coats in the kit I started buying them off amazon.

        [–]stripethrowaway2 Stars 11 points12 points  (3 children)

        Has anyone managed to keep regular polish from chipping and their nails from getting ridiculous? I can’t justify the time and money to get shellac or solars anymore and it gets so annoying to maintain. I’d like a low cost option that looks nice for more than two days.

        [–]merel-- 12 points13 points  (1 child)

        Use a good base coat and put top coat under the nail to connect the top part and bottom part. So basically wrapping the tip in top coat. They last between 4 and 7 days. Sometimes I use top coat again to make them more durable.

        [–]snackysnackeeesnacki 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        I never thought about wrapping around the topcoat. That is genius.

        [–]LookSafeFromFarAway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Yes, I use Nail Tek strengthener, then the Nail Tek ridge filler (makes the polish go on very smooth) and the top coat is Seche Vite quick dry. It's thicker, almost like a gel. Polish the tips and do the same with the top coat, because the top coat shrinks the polish a tiny bit. Get a cuticle pusher and cuticle softener to push them back. Polish doesn't adhere to skin well, you want it on dry nailbed. All of the above can be gotten at Sally's for $20 or less.

        [–]goldhighlight 9 points10 points  (3 children)

        for anyone trying to grow their nails out naturally - a biotin supplement has made mine so much healthier and i'm now able to keep them long and shaped for the cute high maintenance look!! before i started taking it either they would break or i would compulsively rip them first. now they're so strong that i can't even tear them off when i get the urge to 😊

        [–]Taliahood 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        Mine tear and rip constantly! I've never ever ever in my life had nice natural nails. I'm ordering this stat. Thanks for the advice!

        [–]queenvalerie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        biotin is great for a lot of women I know but it makes my eyebrows, bikini, and arm hair grow like crazy haha!

        [–]krizzlemahnizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Also, if you use the oil cleansing method to wash your face, rub the extra oil into your nails! It's helped my nails get so much stronger over time.

        [–]HappySoutherner 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        I spend $80 a month on gel nails. I love choosing fun colors and the way they look. I feel pretty. Also, according to my fiancé, no back scratch feels as good as one done with natural nails.

        [–]merel-- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        I know! It's so weird that you feel so much prettier with nail polish on.

        [–]eatavacado 5 points6 points  (2 children)

        Do you have any methods of keeping the skin nice and smooth around and above the nail? I often get the little tiny pieces of skin sticking out when I don’t go get them done, and I’d like to get in the habit of doing them myself since I need to keep them short anyway for playing guitar.

        Also, as a guitar player, are there any other musicians who have figured out how to spunk up theirs nails so their okay with not being able to have long nails? I’ve started really wanting them for the past year, but it’s not worth not playing.

        [–]cherryhearts 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        More moisture! You can also lightly file the rougher skin before you do. Try wearing some moisture gloves once a week or so. That's one of my biggest annoyance when it comes to my nails, I garden so they get pretty roughed up.

        Also when I had to keep my nails shorter, just invest in nice polish (top coat and base coat) (maybe at home gel). Keep them filed nicely and use cuticle oil. You can also go polish free just ensure they're nice and clean all the time.

        I know the 'single black dot nail' looks really nice on shorter nails and it's really subtle and wouldn't chip on the strings.

        [–]eatavacado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Thank you for the black dot idea!!! Definitely using this I’m so excited!

        [–]Mewster1818 4 points5 points  (4 children)

        If I didn't ruin my manicures immediately I'd keep my nails done, but I'm just too hard on my hands. :/

        [–]honey-laden 5 points6 points  (2 children)

        have you tried gel polish?

        [–]Mewster1818 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Yeah, but my natural nails are pretty weak and I get my hands wet too often for it to hold up.

        [–]honey-laden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        i completely understand. i always use gloves as well for chores and other types of work with my hands! 💕🧤💕

        [–]littlemisslasagna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Same! I have a compulsive problem with picking that I’m trying really hard to overcome. I’m always picking at my thumbs, my feet, my face, etc. So nail polish doesn’t last long for me. Keeping my nails shaped, clean, and long has helped me curb my picking habit though.

        [–]norahlady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        I started getting hard gel nail extensions and it has made such a difference. I try to choose classy colors and modern shapes/designs (my nail girl loves doing nail art) and I get CONSTANT compliments from women and men. I never thought men cared much about things like that, but it's something they really seem to notice and comment on. Plus I just feel put-together and confident everywhere I go! It is expensive but with hard gels + gel polish I can go three weeks between fills, and they seriously look 95% as flawless on day 20 as they did on day 1.

        I haven't been paying as much attention to my toes. I live in a cold climate and almost always wear closed-toe shoes, plus I'm a pretty avid runner + hiker which is pretty rough on my feet. I think I've been using that as an excuse to let my feet be gross! Haha. I would really like to start taking better care of them, but I think that's probably something I could do myself at home.

        [–]perkysue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Because we live in the mountains and it’s a drive into town, a couple winters ago I bought a UV light and do gels. Because I do a lot of yard work, stack wood, etc, I’m hard on them, so I renew every week on Thursday. My husband loves them.

        [–]Kara__El1 Star 6 points7 points  (2 children)

        I love painting my nails fun colors. I definitely don't go to salons. My husband would be furious if I spent $80 a month on my nails and I feel that's fair. I do love a good Sally Hansen instant dry topcoat, though!

        [–]Ruinedgirl22[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Oooh I never thought of getting the top coat! Getting that today lol.

        Yeah I don’t blame your husband. Life would be great if I could spare that much a month but, yea, not smart at the moment

        [–]Kara__El1 Star 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        That topcoat is the only reason I have the patience to paint my nails. Lol.

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        [–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl[M] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

        Make your point without your gender. Personal preferences are not advice and remember that men must have an active presence on TRP before posting advice on RPW.

        [–]tinderoglu 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        Cool I didn’t know that rule

        Btw TRP got quarantined tho I was pretty active before that happened

        [–]pearlsandstilettosModerator | Pearl 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        TRP still exists and remains quite active :-) . You have to access it through a computer the first time but then it will pop back up on the apps.

        [–]tinderoglu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Thanks :)

        [–]souponastick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        When I was unemployed and living off my severance I still got my nails done. It was the one thing that made me feel put together in such a tumultuous time. I was only unemployed for 2 months cause I still put forth tons of effort and never let myself falter. No regrets.

        [–]Bea_LeChat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

        DH asked me when I came home from the salon: "why do girls obsess over their nails?"

        Me: "because it makes everything we touch more fabulous. Like the steering wheel of my fabulous car. And the brilliant words I type on my keyboard" (doing air-driving and air-typing)

        Him "Yes I see what you mean. But we should run more experiments. There are some other things you can touch." (with spicy smile)

        Me "Yes fabulous"

        [–]Chemtrails2k16 1 point2 points  (4 children)

        I get acrylics($30) done, with a refill($15) every few weeks. Of course they try to push for the uv gel, but honestly the acrylic with shellac is strong enough for me and doesn't break the bank. I keep them filed in almond shape, and change the colors based on seasons. I love how it looks, and I feel sexy and confident digging into finger food I'm not grossing anyone out. Not to mention pets and (potential) bf love them for scratches. :)

        **also ladies magnetic lashes are a game changer.

        [–]thatbadlarry 2 points3 points  (2 children)

        Tell me where you get your magnet lashes pretty, pretty please! Definitely want to give it a go

        [–]Chemtrails2k16 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        I buy them on eBay very cheap. And then when they get here I cut them into three so they're much easier to place. Takes me like a minute to do my lashes each morning, and they last quite a while. Just curl and add mascara BEFORE the lashes. Also I hear Sephora has them, but personally the $2-5 lashes on eBay are good quality. So why pay more for the same thing?

        [–]thatbadlarry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Good to know! Thank you

        [–]Taliahood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Yesss! Love magnetic lashes. The ardell ones are great and only twelve bucks. I cut them into sections. Makes applying them so easy.

        [–]videlachkadua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Understandable. It especially looks good with jewelry. Like a nice ring and bracelet. :)

        [–]AnnaAerials 1 point2 points  (7 children)

        I am a big believer in having your nails done. I posted this on r/nails. Any girls who are nail biters or who want to stop using acrylic but their nails are too weak maybe this will help- My before & after

        [–]sunfleur 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        You should post to r/RedditLaqueristas too! They would love this over there

        [–]AnnaAerials 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        Oh gosh thank you!! I was searching for a more active nail subreddit

        [–]sunfleur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You are very welcome! It's my favorite one!

        [–]letgoor 1 point2 points  (3 children)

        Read your post and your nails are so beautiful! I’m not a nail biter but I do have “weak” nails and they don’t grow to be thick like yours. Are you saying that filing them is better than cutting them down for growth? I just started taking a biotin supplement so hopefully they will grow stronger, but they have always been weak :/

        [–]AnnaAerials 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        Yes! A good glass file is about $8AUD. Invest in one, and learn to file with the grain of your nail fibre ,not against (google videos or images about it) Biotin is great and taking a supplement is good if your nails are weak due to nutrition- it may be worth seeing a GP as weak nails and hair loss can be a sign of a bigger thing and they can also test to see how deficient you are :)

        The one thing I’ll stress is get an oil for your nails and massage them daily or as often as possible, the stimulation of blood flow helps heaps- especially if you have bad circulation. I recommend watching nail care videos from simplynailogical

        [–]letgoor 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        Amazing, thank you for all the advice and I will do this all! I’ve wanted beautiful nails for so long 💕how long did it take you for you to see noticeable results? What’s the timeline between your before and after pic?

        [–]AnnaAerials 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I think the timeline is maybe over a year for the physical pictures but they were in healthy and fine shape before then. Depending on how fast your nails grow (mine tend to grow fast) and depending on how thin or brittle yours are, maybe the “white part” or end part of the nail may have to grow out 5 times (shaping each time) if that makes sense. In terms of months, I want to say 4 months until you’d see something you were really happy with. All the best 💓💓

        It’s also worth getting a manicure professionally once or twice to see how they paint nails and take care of the cuticle :) there’s little tips you’ll grab alone the way such as “wrapping the tip” of the nail with polish to prevent chipping in the polish. Painted nails are also strong nails, I’m a big believer that naked nails are short nails!

        [–]organicsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Very important. I do acrylic cause it lasts longer and I cook a lot. He pays for it.

        [–]cocksuckaddict 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I love it too. I usually get a french tip, I know some find them tacky but I like the look.

        [–]cynicalhousewife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I think this is one of those things where practicality is more important. I can't stand having long nails. They get in the way of everything. Painted is fine.