I just wanted to share a small victory that I can't think of anywhere else appropriate to share.
My husband and I have been together for 12 years (since I was 19!), married for 6. When we met I was at the beginning of my college education with plans to become a lawyer, but my heart wasn't totally in it. I wanted, more than anything, to be a wife and partner, but the current state of American society made me feel like this wasn't enough and I needed to be ashamed of the fact that it didn't make money. I think I've carried this shame with me to some small extent until very recently.
When I met my husband I knew right off the bat that he was brilliant, and could change the world. His job takes him all around the world, consulting where he is needed. This, obviously, is not compatible with being a lawyer, but I knew in my heart of hearts I would much rather be his best friend, support system, creating a home life for him wherever we landed, and serving as his confidant then spend my days doing legal paper work for other people. I knew this immediately, but still, it was important to us both that I have options, so I finished my education, graduated at the top of my class, then decided to marry him. With that came moving to a new state (sometimes a new country) every year or so... It's hard, like really hard, but I couldn't have ever asked for as much joy as I've had in life, and it's still early!
Even with all that, I carried with me this nagging feeling that I wasn't contributing enough and needed to feel bad about not having a "career." Is helper really enough?
Last week we had dinner with one of his best friends in the same profession. He's in a serious relationship with a very nice Biology professor, and they spend 6-8 months a year apart. Still, they are a lovely, if unstable, couple, and as we left dinner with them I felt that old insecurity over my lack of profession rearing...
Until my husband looked over at me and said "I'm glad we're not like them, it never would have worked. I'm so blessed that you chose to be by my side rather than chasing your own interests."
You guys, I melted. It's all worth it. Stay the course. A lot of people have a lot ideas, but that doesn't matter one bit.