Hello hello! So I'm newish to RPW and I've been upping my girl game, confidence, and feminine zest for life following a dark stint subscribing to the feminist church in college.
I have posted here previously regarding a sigma/introverted man I've been seeing for a year now (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/55p63f/he_has_given_me_a_conditional_offer_to_move_me_to/). Just to recap, I lost his trust/attraction during the tail end of my SJW days and I fell into a depression related to my paranoid world views and lost sight of myself/life goals. Understandably he had little interest in a relationship with me earlier this year and expressed he didn't want to be my boyfriend and was skeptical of me. We still kept in touch/slept together and during this time I did a complete 180 and took the red pill.
It really wasn't easy and I went through a depression phase. The "empowerment" that feminism claimed to offer me turned me into a reactionary, paranoid, and clingy woman. The way I viewed men was not out of respect and understanding, but out of fear. Feminism taught me that ambiguous forces such as the patriarchy and male privilege influenced men consciously and subconsciously. This supposedly leads to toxic expressions of masculinity, which can manifest in all sorts of ways. Long story short, I was seeing malicious intentions in the men around me that just were not there. While I never had a combative personality, I was needlessly avoidant of men and vetting them incorrectly.
I'm in such a great position today and I owe much of it to finding my inner grace as a woman and respecting the contrasting imperatives/goals that men have. With my (now) boyfriend in particular, it was just a matter of allowing myself to fall in his frame and adding worth to his life outside sex.
You guys weighed in on the situation and I'm happy to say that I've earned a chance with the man of my dreams. Upon him offering conditional LTR/girlfriend status based on my own self improvement, I was confused about if it was a good idea to continue seeing this guy, but things seem to be heading in the right direction since I've decided to continue giving the relationship a shot.
He recently brought me to his brother's fiance's bridal shower, which was a great opportunity for me to make a good impression with the other ladies in his family and meet family members and family friends. He told me it was a rare occurrence that his whole family got together like that, so I felt really special that he trusted me to represent him in that situation. His aunt told him that I was really sweet and he seemed pleased by my manners around his family. I might be spending Christmas with his family now. Yay!
I only get to see him once a week or so since he goes to college an hour away from me, but I really try to make his visits worth it. I've been dolling up in dresses when I see him (he always comments that I look cute!), give him massages, let him relax after a hard week, giggle with him, buy him his favorite snacks, talk about our shared hobby (trading card games) etc. All those little things add up!
I'm having the best sex of my life. Last time he visited we went at it three times in one night. He really opened up to me during sex. He wanted to look deep into my eyes and talk to me. I told him I wanted to be good to him so much and I didn't want any other guy to touch me or have me. I told him he's the man in my heart. He said "I know. You are so good to me. That's why I want to have sex with only you. I love you more than anyone. I hope you can feel that."
He then told me that he loves our sex and that it means something. He told me I am special and when I told him I wanted to be with him he said I was with him. God it was so hot and afterwards he held me tight in his arms and whispered in my ear that he loves me and we fell asleep sweaty and happy. This is some top tier mythic romance novel level stuff. I've been swooning for days.
He's been sending me more "I miss you" texts. I just let him initiate conversation and give him space when he needs to focus on school. He has another semester left after this one before he is ejected into the "real world" and starts the amazing IT job he's been offered. No more stage five clinger behaviour! Of course having a job and a couple of new projects in my life helps keep me occupied and content. I've been helping a coworker out with her vintage clothing shop on Etsy and I've been taking a introductory web design class and kicking butt at that. Of course I'm watching my calorie intake and doing leg lifts/crunches. I'm already at a healthy weight, but I'm looking to tone the booty and legs.
My end goal is probably what most of you want. I want to make a home with a life partner. Marriage would probably be a part of that. I can definitely see myself with my boyfriend for life and I feel like I'd be the happiest girl alive to stand by him every day. I hope to continue on being a phenomenal girlfriend and respect myself as well.