It's not uncommon to see a lot of posts here where the OP will say, "high value men want X!", or "high value men don't care about Y!", and then the comments will be a mess of differing opinions about whether or not these statements are correct. "Actually, high value men don't care at all about X, and they really love Y!" A good example of this is the recent post about men not caring about a woman's accomplishments.
I'm sure many people reading these discussions are tempted to believe that there is one objective response, one absolute list of things a high value man likes and cares about, a checklist of everything a woman needs in order to snag the man of her dreams. Unfortunately for those of you looking for your Ultimate Checklist, life is a bit more nuanced than that.
These types of posts always bring about a lot of discussion because people have different experiences. Some women found their high value man having only a high school education and working as a waitress. Good for them! Others only found their high value man once they had a master's degree and luctarive career. You go, girl! But what this means for everyone reading and commenting here is that there isn't one single list of things that every high value man cares about, because there is no one, objective High Value Man.
Are there objectively high value men? Yes, of course they are. Nobody would dispute that a high-ranking politician, a world-renowned actor, or a CEO of a multi-million dollar company are high-value men. But for most people reading posts here, these types of men aren't attainable. And even in this list of men who would be objectively high value, there is still a huge amount of difference between them -- the kind of woman a politican would like to marry is likely quite different from the kind of woman a celebrity would like to marry.
A man can't fuck your law degree: the difference bewteen SMV and RMV
One of the things discussed frequently here is the fact that men don't care about your career or your personal achievements. And on some level, yes, this is true. That level is the level of SMV -- the sexual attraction you inspire in a man. Trying to get a man to notice you involves looking nice and acting pleasant, it doesn't involve waving your CV in their face. Imagine if a man tried to get you attention by constantly talking about how well he can cook and take care of children. That's all well and good, and you may find that impressive (who wouldn't want a delicious meal, after all?), but I highly doubt most of you would be desperate to rip your clothes off as he drives you to his appartment in his sensible minivan in order to cook you a meal and look at pictures of cute babies. Why? Because this man is trying to inspire sexual attraction using things that are really only important once in a long-term relationship (and not in every LTR, either). This is what a woman does when she tries to snag a man by talking about how she earns six figures and went to top universities. That's all well and good, and a man may find that impressive, but the first stages of courting and attraction begin in the genitals, and no matter how many cum laude degrees you have from Harvard and Oxford, that's not going to make anybody's dick hard.
So yes, if you want to attract a man, being beautiful and feminine, open, warm, and approachable is pretty much the basis of what you need. But nobody is here just to learn how to attract a man. That part is pretty easy. What we need is to know how to keep that man -- and that's where things start to get more tricky, and where what you bring to a relationship (aka, your RMV, aka that fancy PhD in astrophysics) comes into play.
Know the type of man you want, and know the type of woman that man is looking for
Everyone doesn't have the same idea in their head of a "high value man". I'm sure some people would look at my boyfriend and think, "I'd never go for that!", just as I look at some people's partners and think the same thing. That's because even though at a very base level women want similar things (protection, security, love) we have different tastes, different interests, and different goals in life. A woman who's childfree and loves to travel is not going to be happy with a hard-working family man, and a woman who wants to be a homemaker with many children isn't going to be happy with a man who travels a lot for work and doesn't make enough money to support a family of five on his own.
But these big disparities aren't the only ones to keep in mind. Want to be in a relationship with a highly-educated professor? He's going to want someone he can have intelligent conversations with, who will hold her own among his peers during gathers. Does this mean you need to have a PhD? No, but it does mean that, for this kind of man, your education is important and if you want a relationship, your academic "credentials" will be taken into account. Likewise, it's been brought up a few times that business owners, lawyers, doctors, and other people with high-ranking careers often look for a partner who can match up to them. No, you don't need to be a lawyer to date a lawyer, but it's pretty unlikely that someone who's got a lot more opportunities to meet women who are both accomplished and beautiful is going to settle for someone who brings significantly less to the table. Beauty and femininity are good and important, but they are not the only traits a man is going to consider when picking a partner. After all, just as a man is more than a wallet to women, a woman is more than a vagina to a man. Both parties are picking a partner, and different men are going to have different needs.
So rememeber, if you're interested in the high-ranking career man, it may not be impossible to get him if you're a high school educated waitress, but it will be more difficult. Don't just think about everything you bring to the table when looking for a partner -- remember that different sets of men have different requirements as well. And if you're looking for a specific type of man, you need to be the specific type of woman he needs.
Let's close off with some anecdotes:
My cousin is probably what most people would consider "objectively high value" (lucrative career in finance, high earning, etc). His wife is a CFO.
Another cousin is an engineer. Her husband is also an engineer.
My best friend is a lawyer. Her long-term boyfriend has a PhD and lucrative STEM career.
My friends in academia are all dating or married to other academics/educators.
My friend who works as a caregiver for the elderly is dating a very lovely veterinary technician. High-ranking, high-earning careers? Nope! But that's not what either of them were considering when picking a partner.