There has been way too much talk of “The Wall” and a ton of misinformation and half formed ideas flying around here from people who haven’t done thorough research or don’t fully understand what it means. That ends today, I hope.
Definitions and Explanations
The Wall: A metaphorical term for a physical manifestation of a woman’s gradual or seemingly overnight decline from her sexual peak.
The Rational Male defines it as
the threshold at which most women realize their lessened capacity to sexually compete with the next generation of women in their ‘actualized’ sexual peak (22-24).
We all can agree that this is the loose definition most of us use, yes? So if you define your peak as 22-24, it makes sense that many would (wrongly) assume that 25+ is The Wall. Not so. In fact, RM goes on to describe what I believe is a much more important factor in The Wall for women and defines their fear of it:
However, there is a male part of the Wall equation that needs to be understood. 30 is also the general age at which men (should) become aware of their own, longer-lasting sexual market value and potential. This affects women’s interpretations of the Wall. Once a Man is aware that he has the capacity to attract the sexual attentions of the younger women he’d previously had limited access and understanding of, his actions and imperatives define the Wall for women who are approaching that threshold.
Notes From a Red Pill Girl explains it well when she says,
What is taboo to say in society today (but women should know) is that a woman’s most valuable assets are her beauty and youth, not her education, money, or career (that would be men.)
What This Means For You
Is there a wall? Yes. Will you hit it? Yes. Should you be aware of it? Yes. Should you obsess or be afraid? No!
If you obsess about The Wall or are afraid of it, you will most likely settle down with the first chump that comes along because you’re afraid you won’t get anything more. Now, recently the argument was made to me that ugly girls have to settle and that marrying for love and passion is a new-fangled thing. Wonderful. Follow your own advice and enjoy your boring and stale marriage, plus the fact that you most likely will be divorced when your chump realizes there’s a woman out there that will love him the way he deserves. I’m aware there are ugly people. This isn’t a post about that. I’m talking today about The Wall.
Things that accelerate your ETA to The Wall
- Excessive drinking
- Smoking of any kind
- Being a single mother
- Being overweight
Sun exposure or tanning lights
I tell you these things not to scare you but to motivate you. Don’t delay in looking for a husband. Don’t settle or marry the first guy that doesn’t repulse you. But look for a man while your SMV is at its peak. This varies woman to woman and your SMV, depending on what a man likes, will vary man to man. However GENERALLY you’re at your highest 22-25. You have the greatest chance of attracting what you consider to be the highest value male when you are also at your highest value. Find out what makes a high value man to you, keep yourself in top condition and go after it.
Stay fit, stay healthy, dress feminine, up your girl game, hone your skills. These are all highly controllable things we can all do (pre or post wall) to ensure we land the highest value male available to us.
Preparing for Impact
Save it. We all know there are exceptions. We all know women who have gotten pregnant in their 40’s (Michelle Duggar, anyone?) or women who are 35 and crazy hot. These are general rules which is why I hate to see ladies obsess over The Wall.
I want to see you ladies stop saying “I’m about to hit The Wall” when I see from your flairs or your posts that you’re 22, 25, 23, NINETEEN. You never know when or how badly you’ll hit The Wall. If you’ve taken care of yourself, you’ll wake up one day and realize you’re past your prime. If you haven’t, you’ll most likely smash into it and you’ll be the chick everyone is looking at TimeHop photos on Faceboook of and laughing about how good you looked 2 years ago compared to the train wreck of today (Tara Reid, anyone?)
If you’re married, a fantastic added benefit of your matrimony is that you will no longer fear The Wall. As Notes From a Red Pill Girl states,
Married women who are happily so will benefit from ‘wife goggles’ which is a term that means her husband’s love blinds him to how his wife is aging and he still sees her as in her youth. You want those wife goggles firmly in place prior to the wall.
My MIL is 55 and my FIL is so in love with her and smitten by her he’s never even aware of other women around him. She treats him like a king, and he is obsessed with her, five kids and thirty-one years later.
What if you’ve hit The Wall and you’re still single? There’s still hope for you. You can still find a man, he just won’t be as high a caliber as you could have snagged if you were 20. You aren’t doomed to a life alone or a life of unattractive shlubs and bad sex. You still have worth. I think that is something a lot of women feel is that after The Wall they are worthless. Not true. There are men that don’t want children or who have children from previous marriages and don’t want more. Your fertility won’t matter to them. Maybe it will be an older man. My dad is 59, his girlfriend is twenty years younger than him but is still over The Wall.
The Wall is a thing and should be taken seriously but don’t let it rule your life. And for God’s sake, stop saying you’re about to hit The Wall. Women my age and older, when we hear you lament about it are literally rolling our eyes and I’m worried mine will fall out of my head the next time I read it.
If my post is lacking in a specific aspect or if you have a comment or suggestion to add, please do so below. I like to have my posts be as complete as possible so people reading them are completely informed. Any and all discussions are welcome, obviously, but please lets be mindful and courteous of one another.
All the best,
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