In all my 3+ years of casually lurking Reddit, this sub is the only one that has inspired me to post.
To finally find a community of other females who actually think the way I do..well, relief isn't quite the right word to describe how it's made me feel but it will have to do. I've spent years trying to reconcile how I see reality around me with what other females, the media, western culture etc tout as the way to be happy (as a woman).
When I look back at my past, my behaviour and choices are so clearly explained by TRP that it's astounding. TRP knew me better than I knew myself at the time. I didn't know there was a name for it.
Lately I've been deeply troubled trying to reconcile my desire to give up my career, leave it behind in the dust and focus solely on starting a family. I'm fairly successful, have worked hard to get to this point and my whole life I have been told that career, self-sufficiency and financial freedom is the goal.
However, I've recently married a great man and just admitted to him that all I want to do is make him happy and give him children. It was by far the most vulnerable I have ever felt in my life...and he loved it!
I always thought the personality traits he loved in me included my above average intelligence and ability to succeed at (most) things I commit to. Now I realise that may be true, but what's wrong with wanting to be the best 'first mate' I can possibly be? I can now measure my success (and sense of fulfillment) in different terms.
So thank you RedPillWomen, for making me feel no shame in putting aside my career and placing the needs of my husband and future family above all else.
And now I have this place to inspire me towards self-improvement in other ways!