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INSIGHTFULFrom "The Good Housekeeping Marriage Book" published in 1938. There are some gems. (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by iwishiwasamermaid

  1. Did my husband start for work this morning in a better frame of mind for having married me, or would he have been happier as a single man or married to someone else? Remember, as you ask this question and apply your own answer, that we are talking about business; hard, practical business where intentions do not count. You may love your husband dearly, but if the results of your love are not constructive, you must write the word FAILURE across the record.
  2. Do I always treat my job just as seriously as if I were working in an office for a monthly salary? Some wives feel that it makes no difference if they linger so long over bridge or cocktails or shopping or whatever in the afternoon that they are unable to prepare a suitable meal for their husbands in the evening.
  3. Have I grown in poise and interests like the wives of my husband's associates and superiors? Wives who keep up with the procession are an asset; those who fail to grow are a liability.
  4. Can I talk in the same terms as his associates and their wives? This indicates how carefully you have maintained your interest in the source of your income, and how accustomed you are to expressing yourself.
  5. Do I dress and act like the wives of the business associates and superiors of my husband? You place a heavy handicap upon your effectiveness if your husband cannot be proud of you in the inevitable comparisons with other wives in his organization.
  6. Do I entertain with reasonable frequency the people who are in a position to help my husband in business, or is our social life planned wholly for my own amusement? Perhaps this question should read, "How long since I have entertained So-and-So?" You may be surprised to find that months have slipped away without your having done a single stroke of good for your husband socially.
  7. Do I limit our social engagements during the week to those which will not take essential energy from the job, or do I feel that my husband "owes" me constant amusement when he is not actually at the office? As employers pile responsibility upon your husband, more and more care must be used in the allocation of time to social affairs. You may be able to rest the next day, but business does not permit husbands to rest on the job.
  8. Do I act as a balance wheel, cheering him intelligently when he is tired or discouraged, or do I rub him the wrong way on such occasions? If your husband does not share with you his disappointments, it is almost invariably because you have not qualified yourself to share them.
  9. Do I try to smooth things out after unpleasant discussions—as I would if a new dress or theatre party were at stake? Many married persons have an uncanny capacity for making miserable the objects of their affection. It is said that the course of true love never did run smooth, but the wise husband or wife will not unnecessarily roughen it.
  10. Do I carry my share of responsibility, or do I save up all the petty annoyances for our dinner-table conversation? Wives who complain that their husbands are silent during dinner have usually good reason to overhaul the quality of their own conversation. Don't bore him with your fight with the grocer or the catty things Mrs. X said at bridge or afternoon tea.

[–]StingrayVC 32 points33 points  (0 children)

This is surprisingly fantastic. And they don't treat women like fainting daisies either. It's straight forward and asks the hard questions.

We've lost so much to emotionality.

[–]StingrayVC 7 points8 points  (5 children)

Do you have a link to where you got this or are you lucky enough to have the magazines on hand?

[–]jade_catEndorsed Contributor 7 points8 points  (3 children)

I found this link with a pdf and Kindle version.

EDIT : Also, this link has an epub version. :)

[–]Kittenkajira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like such an interesting read! Thank you for linking it.

[–]littleteafox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh I'm going to read this later. Thanks!

[–]StingrayVC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

[–]iwishiwasamermaid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, it's a free download on amazon! (I should have mentioned that.)I have the kindle app and look for tons of free older books that people have transcribed into ebooks. There's a bunch of them!

[–]WhimsicalWonderland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this list so much. It really puts things into a simple perspective and gives us a chance to see how responsible we really are for our own happiness, not only our husbands'.

[–]Camille11325 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful thank you so much for sharing it with the sub!

[–]Sarita08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Now I'm off to download the book! In the mean time, for several months now I've been employing the advice from "The Good Wife's Guide" from Housekeeping Monthly from the 1950s'. A quick Google search will bring up the article, if you haven't seen it yet. I read that it was a fake, but I don't care. When I started following the guide as closely and consistently as I could, my relationship with my husband instantly became AMAZING. We literally never fight now. We have interesting conversations, laugh together, and appreciate one another. He was always holding up his side of the bargain and being incredibly loving, supportive, and positive. When I started ignoring my selfish, negative tendencies, and learned to be a care taker instead of unconsciously begging him to pay attention to every little thought and emotion while acting as my crutch, I was able to take control of our relationship. We're both very happy now, and I will likely create a more detailed post in the future to talk about how and why it works. Although I'm sure RPW already know this stuff quite well.

[–]katnip86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Downloaded! Thanks!