I've both been lurking the manosphere and TRP here on Reddit for quite some time and had this post idea. Not having my own blog and most forums and blogs are aimed at men, this seems to be the perfect place to post.
I can't help but notice how much content is aimed at men. Everything is what a man can do to keep her interested. Well, I've worked on myself for years and what happens when she doesn't too? I leave her. It's that simple for enlightened men. We have options. More importantly, we know we have options.
I'm going to define girl game here as something you're able to do inside a relationship to maintain his attraction and commitment. Don't think just because you already have a ring you have that commitment. We need things from relationships too.
I'm going to assume you have found a good guy (Note, not nice - good). If you are dating an asshole that is selfish and not RP at all, dump him and find a good guy to do this stuff with.
Here's a list of things you can do to improve your "girl game":
1) Be physically fit.
If you're overweight start working on that right now. Seriously stop reading this and do some fucking exercise and come back and finish reading. Now. Eat less and exercise more. It's that simple. Not going to bang on about this one. You know it, I know it. We care how you look so do something about it.
How: Exercise more. Eat Less. It's pretty fucking simple. You do not deserve more sweets because you did a bit of exercise. Stop that bullshit rationalizing, it's going to kill you early.
Typical man, huh? Yes, exactly.
You have no idea how few women seem to love giving a guy head. The ones that do stand out. A lot. I'm not saying that women don't do it.
Thank you feminism for sexual liberation!
It's just the ones that absolutely love giving it that stand out. Regular, enthusiastic, blowjobs are by far the best way to show that you care to go the extra mile and actually don't mind putting in some effort yourself into sexual situations. Sex is a lot of work for us guys. It really is. Being able to just lean back as you get on your knees to pleasure us is a wonderful mixture of pleasure. You're being submissive whilst I'm relaxing, how can a guy not love that?
How: Let him know you love pleasuring him. Don't just talk the talk on this one. The amount needs to go up too if it's less than once a week. Make it count.
3) Stop being aggressive and bitchy
We could go find hundreds of other women less than a 10 minute walk away that are bitchy to us. We pump and dump them. That's all I want from aggressive, masculine women. Generally speaking, they're a better lay than the girly girls, but I stick around the feminine women that are a cute relaxing ball of cuteness that I just want to hold because she's so god damn cute and she just obviously needs a man there. This should be your aim. Relax out of the aggressive tone and bitchy attitude that the western world has distilled into you. It's not sexy. It makes us want to walk away. Every. Damn. Time. Russia / Asia looks VERY attractive whenever a woman gives us that fucking attitude.
How: Just relax, it's not a big deal. Be aware of yourself. Think before you speak. Ask yourself, when was the last time he was bitchy and aggressive towards you? Men are usually not aggressive towards their partners, stop trying to be masculine with a characteristic that isn't even masculine to begin with.
4) Express yourself when you feel happy or content
It's not weak. It's cute and quite sexy. We like it. Example quotes that could be thought but never stated:
"I feel so happy when I'm with you"
"You make me feel safe"
"I wish you were a sleeping bag so I could zip you open and climb inside you and snuggle all night"
Ok, maybe the last one was a bit too far! However I hope you get the hint. We like it when you show how you feel in a cute way. So many women feel they have to keep this private to "maintain the upper hand" he can't know that you care and feel safe around him! That's weak! Bullshit, we love it.
How: This is pretty easy, just don't suppress yourselves so much. Don't let all the crazy out. I know you're imagining weddings and babies etc, don't go that far. Just express feelings more. You're women. You should be cute and feminine. Seeing a theme recurring yet?
5: Domestic Skills
This is a touchy one in modern publication. We shouldn't like this. It's sexist, misogynistic etc etc blah blah fucking blah. Well, we love it. When you cook us a nice dinner from scratch. It turns something on deep inside us. You can look after us. We don't want a new mother; we can cook for ourselves if needs be. However, it's much sexier when you do. Seriously.
How: Learn some simple recipes. With YouTube and the internet in general there's no excuse for this. Women even brag about their lack of cooking skills these days. Want to know what I think? Pump and dump.
6) Be his whore
Notice the emphasis on his? I hope you did because that bit's important. If you're already in a relationship with a guy and he's quite sexual (ha) he wants you to be his whore. This takes some metaphorical balls to follow through on. Be submissive, ask what he wants in a submissive way. When you get on the bed kneel and ask him what he wants you to do. Let him take you selfishly. Do what he wants (within reason, obviously never violate your own limits for someone else) and don't be scared to try new things. Let him know you're open to trying anything new with him. He wants you to be open about your fetishes and fantasies. I've slept with enough women to know that generally you're actually a lot dirtier than us men are. Stop hiding this. Most men believe you're sweet innocent things and therefore you won't get the sex you want. Be open and honest. Or at least show that you are open to trying new things.
How: For this you need to show your submissive side. I haven't met a woman that wasn't submissive sexually however I'm extremely confident, you may need to show this yourself to get the sex we both know you crave. A couple of tips: ask him what he wants "How do you want me?" when he tells you, reply with a "Yes, sir" or a "Yes, master". You can thank me later after he goes primal on you.
7) Never talk disrespectfully about your man to anybody. Ever.
This is important.
I have dropped a potential instantly for this. Others just allow the resentment to build inside and never express it, let it eat them up and turn beta eventually. Talking bad about your man to anybody, especially with him sat right there, is disrespectful to him. You want a leader? Then let him fucking lead. Don't mock him publicly. This makes us men feel smaller than a hobbit. I have heard many men say that this is the only occasion they have been tempted to hit a woman. That's how much this insults us.
How: Instead of joining in your girlfriend's bitch fests about their partners with the small things that may still bother you, express how happy you are instead. I guarantee they will soon start asking you for advice. This is a winner in two ways: You gain social approval for having an awesome relationship and become the go-to for advice. Your man will love you more for sticking up for him. We want you to be loyal and loving anything below that is an insult.
8) When we're working on ourselves as men, compliment us on it
I love it when I have been working out particularly hard for a few weeks and my girlfriend (oh, yeah, one has me tied up all monogamous) starts touching my arms and chest saying how big I've gotten. I know I haven't really improved as much as she's saying, I love the compliments all the same. It took a lot of hard work and dedication to get in shape. I used to be skinny as hell, less than a stick and it took more effort to gain that weight and muscle than you could possibly imagine. It's awesome and I mean awesome when I get complimented on that.
The same applies when we're working on our actual work. My field (software) requires me to self study a lot outside of work. I need to stay on top of new technologies to remain a linchpin at work. Respect the fact that he's dedicated to his work. Make it a compliment rather than a moan:
"I love that you work so hard, I've got a surprise for you when you're done.." // drop coat to show lingerie.
Don't do this too often, he has to actually study to keep up to date! ...can't believe I just said that!
On a more off topic but slightly related note: If you want a leader, let him lead. Don't ask for him to lead and then criticize. That's a little loopy and backwards. If you can't make a decision and ask for his input: respect that decision. Don't then start mocking him. Instead, thank him and go along with it. It's hard for us men that are naturally beta to mix in those alpha traits. When you start doing this it's very hard to get into the mindset of taking the lead.
How: Self evident. Just do it.
9) Last one, Sex.
I know you can't make yourself want to have sex with him. If you're not feeling it you're just not feeling it. However if this goes on too long you just end up in a fucked up rut of no fucking.
We need to fuck. I really would say it's a need. Blue-balls actually do hurt. Don't be afraid of the good old quickie. He needs to unleash inside of you on a regular basis. I (and most guys) certainly understand that you're not always going to be up for it. However that's no excuse for cheating him out of his relationship he's committed to. It's worse than cheating. Nobody's even getting laid. He doesn't want a friend, he wants a sexual partner. He has friends. He's not fucking them either!
Seriously if the sexual element has been removed from your relationship for more than 4 or 5 days. Give him a quickie if you're still not feeling it. The sexual rut is very easy to get into. If he's not feeling confident because you're not looking very up for him sexually, he won't approach confidently and you won't get turned on... it gets into a viscous cycle. A quick and nasty quickie can break this cycle.
How: Get over this notion that sex has to "happen" that some women have. Grab his cock and ask him to fuck you. If you're in a relationship sex shouldn't be something lacking at all. Ever. He will either resent you or leave. There's no other option.
TL;DR: Read it, I spent ages writing it up.