I work with a man who is 24 and gay. He has been with his boyfriend for 4 years, they live together, have talked about marriage, etc. Today, when I asked my coworker "Scott" how his bf "Jared" has been, he replied, hesitatingly, that Jared was fine. I gently asked if everything was ok, and he just hesitated, before going on to say that he was seriously thinking about ending the relationship.
Apparently, among other things, Jared is immature, doesn't mind bumming without a job, and since he doesn't really have any dreams of his own, Scott feels like he is just holding him back from his own dreams. And, to top it off, Scott finally blurted "it's like I'm fucking my brother." I paused, to see if he would continue, then asked if there was any passion between them. He said no, that they were roommates; comfortable, but not in the good way.
All the other things Scott was venting about were obviously bad signs, but that quote really struck me. Men don't want to fuck their sisters. They want to fuck someone who burns for them, even after years of familiarity. This isn't news for RP, but I thought it would serve as a good reminder. Don't be his pal, or his roommate, or his sister. Be his partner, his passion, his joy.