FIELD REPORTWhen it was my SO's turn to complain about his gf during Boys Night, he didn't have much to go off of! (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by wingstopbluecheese


I've been with my captain for some time now. Since the beginning, I've made sure to control the hamster, STFU, and be considerate of his feelings. Well, He told me last night that when everyone was complaining about the bossy/disagreeable things their girlfriends/wives do to them often, he told his buddies he felt bad for them but he couldn't relate and is really happy in his relationship! He told me they just said "well, they can't all be like wingstopbluecheese!". I was THRILLED and so proud to know when my guy is around his closest confidantes he has only positive things to say about me/our relationship. Thank you for all the tips :)

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[–]The_Hokage 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That's pretty damn awesome to hear

[–]Mewster1818 20 points21 points  (12 children)

My husband said his coworkers are the same way. Apparently I'm the only wife on the bunch who packs my husband a lunch, never thought something as simple as a sandwich and fresh cookies would be so highly desired...

[–]Pie_021 13 points14 points  (8 children)

Goes back to the good ol' phrase, "Keep his stomach full and his balls empty."

I mean really, it's that simple.

[–]Mewster1818 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Just makes it even more sad that it's uncommon these days considering how simple it is too.

[–]Pie_021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too many people want everything without an investment or effort.

[–]Xtinamina 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I mean really, it's that simple.

Not for me.

[–]Pie_021 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]NationalMouse 0 points1 point  (3 children)

My man hates to sandwiches and hates eating leftovers. Do you have any suggestions on what I could pack him for lunch instead?

He makes it so hard because he also works from home a lot and literally just snacks all day on chips until I can come home and cook for him.

[–]Pie_021 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Tell him stop being so dam picky. You could make something everyday but thats a lot of time and effort. As a guy that just sounds like he's being babied.

[–]NationalMouse 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lol that’s pretty accurate, although I don’t baby him at all he usually just goes out and picks up takeout food. This sub usually advises women to have a fully stocked fridge but I prefer to stock it with healthy options and just wanted some tips on what to keep in it

[–]Pie_021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want healthy options the home cooked food is basically it. More veggies and meat, less baked crap and sugar. Pretty simple. The hard part is getting people to make the switch to the gym a healthier lifestyle.

[–]Guywithgirlwithabike2 Stars 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Bill Burr actually has a bit about this:


And if you think it's just a joke, take a look at the like/dislike ratio and the comments.

[–]Mewster1818 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only 4 times a year???!!

Oh good lord, I can see why his work buddies have proclaimed jealousy if standards are that low these days. That said I rarely make him sandwiches on the weekends, but I usually try to make a fresh baked treat every Saturday for him like brownies or pie.

[–]baklavaforbreakfast 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What a compliment! Good on you, OP. Keep doing what you’re doing!

[–]Lilviscious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's the best confirmation you can get that you're doing well in your relationship :D It's definitely something to be proud of!

[–]aussiedollface2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats OP! It sounds like your man is happy and content with you, which is great news.

Interestingly, I live in Australia which has a very “blokey” culture and I do feel like men complain about their wives/SO in a joking way as a way of bonding with eachother. So it’s less about actual dissatisfaction with their wife, but rather some sort of ritual where they laugh about how much money their wife spends or how their wife wants them to come home early etc. Conversely I think if the men had actual real gripes or issues with their partner, they would clam up and not say anything at all. (This is just what I’ve gathered from having three older brothers and a hubby lol). xo

[–]Gold_Panda__TT 4 points5 points  (1 child)

That’s delightful to hear! I’m new to this subreddit so I don’t understand certain phrases. What does “controlling the hamster” mean?

[–]ThatKidinAfrica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the sidebar

[–]i_have_a_semicolon 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What's your best tip? I need this right now

[–]TheSelfGoverned 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Random hugs work wonders for me personally. Back rubs, even better.

[–]Zeldafan1023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Validation that you're on the right path and your self improvement and hard work is paying off! Good job!

[–]EmotionalSupportRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great for you :)! I can't stand people that are with partners they need to complain about to their buddies.