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[FIELD REPORT]What happened when I gushed about my husband in front of my girlfriends (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by HappySnowGirl

I was spending the afternoon with some girlfriends recently, when one friend and I were discussing a mud run that our husbands did together. She said that her husband was impressed with how fast my husband was.

I took this as an opportunity to brag about my husband a bit. I admitted, that after so many years, and three kids, and an all around busy life, I had forgotten how athletic he is. It makes me blush to see him now that he has rededicated himself to his athletic hobbies and be reminded what a beast he is! I love it! I can't believe I have ever been so distracted that I didn't take notice of how incredible he is.

We all smiled and laughed and move on with our conversation.

A few weeks later, my very best friend, who was also present, and is also pretty red pill herself (although I doubt she knows that term) brought the conversation back up. She and I know each other independently of the group we were with, and I had only just introduced her to many of these women.

She said that when I bragged about my husband it completely caught her off guard because she's so used to being around groups of women who are complaining about or just being generally condescending about the men in their lives. It's almost unacceptable to brag about how awesome your husband is, because husband bashing serves as a type of sick female bonding. That afternoon made her rethink how she talks about her own husband and how she's going to respond when the women around her start the eye rolling and griping about their own husbands.

I just wanted to share this experience with everyone. It reinforced my own good behavior, which felt pretty good, but I was also glad to to be a positive influence in how someone I love thinks about their own relationship. I also wanted to remind everyone that when you approach your relationship from a place of gratitude and appreciation it shows up not just with your SO, but with everyone you interact with!

Edited to add: Also, who you choose to spend your time with is a big influence on your own attitudes! Choose your friends wisely.


[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor 31 points32 points  (5 children)

I don't give a shit about how it's received but I will talk very positively about the husband in female company.
The best response I got was when once I was trying to explain how my husband always tells me an escape route and an attack plan whenever we sleep in a new place. I told them about the weapons he leaves in each room and three of the women I was telling this to all done a sudden intake of air. If you listened hard enough you could hear the elastic in their panties twang as they dropped to the ground lol

[–]Adach 3 points4 points  (1 child)

What is he ex military?

[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He just doesn't like being caught off guard.

[–]im__srsly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha my guy teaches me the same thing. Love it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this :)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao

[–][deleted]  (1 child)

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[–]lifesbrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a lot either way, really.

[–]aTweetingBird 28 points29 points  (2 children)

I saw a quote from a comedian, I forget exactly who, but it was along the lines of beating your wife is like keying your own car. I feel the same about bashing your husband--YOU PICKED HIM! it just makes you look like a fool when you complain about the man that you decided to marry. It is just baffling how often women are so comfortable saying such horrible things about the man in their life.

[–]FinnianWhitefir 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Jimmy Carr.

http://i.imgur.com/BZpVp.jpg

I hear he gets a lot more sarcastic than that, and so wish I had easy access to him while in America.

[–]aTweetingBird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh that's right! thanks for sharing the source! i've seen a few of his gifs/pics with quotes and he's just fantastic

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was also glad to to be a positive influence in how someone I love thinks about their own relationship. I also wanted to remind everyone that when you approach your relationship from a place of gratitude and appreciation it shows up not just with your SO, but with everyone you interact with!

Thank you for sharing this experience, I'm glad you were able to be a positive source of encouragement to your friend.

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[–]RedPillWife_June2014 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile HAES[3] tirelessly promotes the opposite for women. Obese is the new normal body type for a woman, "curves" and all that.

Shudder.

Where's the eye bleach?

[–]sierrasechoEndorsed Contributor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great story, great lesson. Thanks for sharing.

It's funny how such a little thing can make all the world of difference in how you and your man are seen.

[–]Katniss_GrangerEndorsed Contributor 1 point2 points  (1 child)

My old housemate used to constantly refer to her boyfriend in conversations as "it" or "that thing" and I could tell she meant it in a jokey way but christ it annoyed me so much, it just sounded so disrespectful! I have to resist the urge to gush about my SO nearly all the time for fear of annoying people and she was there talking about him like he was an inconvenience in her life, it was actually hard to listen to.

[–]IdoDeLether 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol! It annoys my friends when i gush about my SO too. It's hard to keep your happiness to yourself isn't it?

P.S. - As a Hunger Games and Harry Potter fan myself, i love your username!

[–]RedPillWife_June2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said that when I bragged about my husband it completely caught her off guard because she's so used to being around groups of women who are complaining about or just being generally condescending about the men in their lives. It's almost unacceptable to brag about how awesome your husband is, because husband bashing serves as a type of sick female bonding. That afternoon made her rethink how she talks about her own husband and how she's going to respond when the women around her start the eye rolling and griping about their own husbands.

A person can pretend to be independent, strong willed, what have you, but your friends DO influence you. For better, for worse, which is why you and I need to be selective about the people we have around us.

You're spot on. Venting so easily turns to tearing down, and devolves into unofficial pissing contests. Misery loves company and it's easy to have a lousy attitude.

I am glad you have shown your friend the breath of fresh air such a positive attitude can be!

[–]TheReason13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the sustenance that satisfies the soul, without which one can exist but yet not truly live. By expressing your happiness with your husband you are changing the herd dynamic.

The herd wants everyone to think alike. When women complain about their husbands it does not matter whether you are happy with your husband or not, you will respond to how the topic makes you feel in the moment. The husband bashing will make you focus on any negatives you see in your relationship regardless of what a saint you husband is.

The advantage TRP philosophy bestows is the ability to understand these subconscious social knee jerk reactions to situations, and recognize them when they happen.

The next time you ladies witness husband bashing brag about your man, then witness the envy and jealousy that ensues, and the eventual change for the positive. Its like watching wildlife documentaries.

And in closing I want to thank you for doing what you did, it is practically unheard of to stand up for a man in this day and age.

[–]onetwothree__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you ladies.