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FIELD REPORTCame here to judge. Stayed because you ladies are brilliant (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by spoonboom

I came across this sub a few months ago when I was grossed out by some of the attitudes on r/TheRedPill. I'm not going to lie; I came here to judge what I thought would be silly, man-obsessed, insecure women. Boy was I wrong.

I must have spent a whole afternoon devouring the top posts, tutting as I went along because I was purposely seeking out 'extreme' views to validate my preconceptions. I kept coming back because I was fascinated! A few weeks in, I started to really think about what you were posting and how a lot of it made sense. I realised that so many women on here are brilliant and interesting and that are diverging from what we're told we should be doing as 21st century women and that it was making your lives all the better for it.

While I believe I will never subscribe to the RPW philosophy 100%, I wanted to let you know that this sub has made massive changes in my life over the past 3 months. Before, I thought that even though I was about 30lbs overweight, a man should be interested in who I was. Now I've realised, why should he? I've lost 12lbs lately and started dressing more feminine which makes such a difference in the way people seem to view me. I've started acting more feminine and listening to men more, rather than getting super drunk all the time and trying to act like I'm "just one of the guys" which is what I thought guys wanted. I've started trying to make myself the sort of person a good quality man would want to be with, not just for the sake of an LTR, but for myself. I can't even describe it here (especially since I'm on my mobile) but the whole way I view the world is different.

When I find the right person for my next LTR, I have so many plans for how I'll do it differently than before. I'll do more sweet things for him, I'll keep working at trying to be attractive to him, I'll be sexually available to him, I'll let him feel like he's a man! It's all thanks to you wonderful women. I feel so guilty for judging you all so harshly before.

Like I said, there are many elements of TRP that are not for me, but what I've learnt from this sub is invaluable. I think a lot of women could benefit from RPW like I have and I want to thank you all for sharing your insights.


[–]VigilantRedRoosterModerator 20 points21 points  (1 child)

I came across this sub a few months ago when I was grossed out by some of the attitudes on r/TheRedPill.

This is a common occurrence, and to address this I'm working on a RedPillWomen portal for the sidebar there, and a welcome/TRP debriefing center for here. Glad you pushed through your initial expectations!

While I believe I will never subscribe to the RPW philosophy 100%, I wanted to let you know that this sub has made massive changes in my life over the past 3 months.

Some philosophies become ideologies and cult-like. RedPillWomen serves a wide variety of women, at all different stages of their love lives; we consider ourselves a big tent, not a rigid, exclusive club or clique. TRP and RPW are sometimes compared to a toolbox or a smorgasbord. Each individual takes what they want and need, and leaves what they don't on the shelf.

Thank you so much for sharing this, and welcome! We look forward to a FR about how your next relationship proceeds, with your newfound RP knowledge; and our community is here to help with any questions or issues that may come up along the way.

[–]spoonboom[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think that's such a great idea for the portal/debriefing centre. I imagine there are many women who come here and instantly leave because they assume what I originally assumed.

Thank you all for making me and many of the newbies feel so welcome! I really love the community spirit in this sub :)

Also, I have an FR within an FR. I was having a girls night with my work friends recently (they're all in relationships and in their mid 30s while I'm in my mid 20s) and we were talking about how huge an impact the culture you grow up in makes on how you view the world. I started talking about TRP in a very neutral way, saying that the women are dissenting from what we in the west think women should be like. One of the things I talked about was the STFU method which most of the gals were horrified about.

Roll on today. One of the girls has just been on a 5 day trip to Rome with her boyfriend. She told me at lunch that she had decided to try the STFU method with her boyfriend as an experiment for the weekend. Bear in mind, this woman is one of the most neurotic woman I've met (but with a heart of gold and many wonderful characteristics to balance it out) which shows itself mostly in her relationship. Her and the BF are always arguing and screaming at each other over nothing. Today, she tells me about her experiment and how it completely changed their weekend. She didn't go nuts over every pointless little thing and realised that they had an immensely better trip and relationship because of it. She's now planning to keep up her 'experiment' :) So I guess I'll thank you guys for her!

[–]trapped_in_a_box 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hey! I found RPW the same way - some people in TwoX were bashing, and I wanted to see what the mess was. Turned out, I liked it here better, and managed to get myself banned from TwoX for suggesting that maybe RP isn't the end of the world after all (without pushing even a single ideal). Good riddance! I love it here. :D

[–]LuckyLittleStarModerator | Lil'Star 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Please feel free to judge us as much as you want! We love positive judgements ;)

Also, welcome!

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        [–]rprollerEndorsed Contributor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        I've started acting more feminine and listening to men more, rather than getting super drunk all the time and trying to act like I'm "just one of the guys" which is what I thought guys wanted.

        THIS. In high school and first two years of college, I used to pride myself on how much like I behaved "like one of the guys." For a time, I was somewhat sexually invisible to most men because--you guessed it--I acted like a man. Looking back on it now, I can't believe that I was ever confused as to why I couldn't find men that weren't spineless betas!

        And welcome to RPW!