A bit of a rant and maybe discussion.
I am in my late-20's and have dated a lot. Many men see me as a great companion and even have said "a girl to marry" and "wife material." I keep myself fit and attractive, watch my diet extremely carefully, have lots of interest in politics, philosophy, worldly knowledge, and men say I'm very pleasant and nice to talk with and spend time with. I can also cook and generally am organized. I work in education so I'm good with children.
Perhaps it is the men I'm meeting, perhaps I'm looking in the wrong place, perhaps it's an issue with modern men. Since I am in my late-20's, then men I am dating are 33-40 years of age. All of them have a RP awareness (even if they don't specifically identify) and by this I mean that they have an strong awareness of divorce rape, of ex-wives taking away their children, of girlfriends cheating, etc. Pretty much all of the men I've dated are EXTREMELY cautious, paranoid, or wary about marriage. Some of them even just dote on their friend's children or their sibling's children, just to have a child in their life but doesn't belong to them. They all love the single life - basically concentrate on their career, travel wherever they want, not have the burden of a wife (financially and emotionally), can pretty much have short term girlfriends wherever they want without the commitment. These men are from US and Europe (generally central, southern and Eastern).
I feel depressed because even though pretty much all the men I've dated compliment me on my companionship and beauty and family values, none are willing to commit UNLESS it's absolutely required (eg. moving for a job for legal benefits). They don't see marriage for love or a family unit, they see marriage solely as a contract. They see women as only a girlfriend, as long as you're pleasant, attractive and interesting it doesn't even matter if you cook because these men don't want to come home and have a home cooked meal every night. These men want to go out and have dinner/drinks with their buddies/female friends - they're totally fine just having a social circle or a friend group, or just business colleagues, and have your "girlfriend companionship" when they want it.
You can't even demand marriage as a woman because 1) No man ever likes being pressured and 2) As a woman you would hope that you show him what you could offer to his life but it could still drag on for years and years with no sign of legal commitment (even if you don't cohabit!) Men nowadays are perfectly fine even having their own apartment, living single, because as long as they have friends (male and female), who needs a wife?
It is just sad to me, that as a modern female, we are seen as a burden. Even if we offer something good in their lives (dual income, household chores, good sex life, companionship, good conversation, networking, maternal values)........there's really no need for marriage. We can offer our value but men nowadays will still see us as just a side dish to their single MGTOW life.
Edit: I'm just adding a rant and clarification: it doesn't matter if women are respectful and don't nag. Men will always feel obliged to please their wives therefore we are still a burden, men don't want to always accompany their wives to events she wants to go to (eg. she got tickets to a concert, he's tired, she wants him to go but then it's seen as "dragging him along") so I feel like there is literally no point. As a woman you have to wait for him to WANT TO take you out. We cannot have our needs met, we cannot ask for anything because then we are a burden. How many times has a man told you **"I do something for you because I want to, not because I have to?"
CONCLUSION: Men just want the girlfriend experience. We are burdens to them. Even if we bear him children and run a smooth household, and don't nag, men on a basic level still want to see an attractive and fun woman whenever he wants to and it's not every day. Men are rubber bands theory? It still happens in marriage.