RELATIONSHIPSThe Five Faces of the Perfect Wife (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor

Recently another user made a post about the duality of being a "lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets," and it got me thinking of the multiple roles we need to play as women when we become wives. Although I am not married, I have been in an LTR for four years, and this is my theory based on my experience. I think the perfect wife can be broken down into five different roles:






The Mother is the nurturer. She is responsible for raising the children, taking care of hearth and home, healing the sick, and providing comfort.

The Confidante is the husband's trusted advisor who provides him counsel and support. The First Mate, there to help envision the bigger picture for the family and steer the ship in that direction. A shoulder for the husband to cry on if needed.

The Waitress is the cheerful attendant of the husband's daily needs. She makes the food, keeps the man comfortable, and anticipates his needs. She is cute and upbeat, always ready with a smile. Makes the man feel pampered while still feeling masculine.

The Whore is the mistress of her man's sexual needs. Her job is to be sexually willing, open, and adventurous. She needs to make him feel wanted--a god among kings. She also provides other sensual comforts like massages. Helps her husband let go and unleash his inner animal.

The Cheerleader is the public face of a husband's support from his wife. She too is cheerful, openly supportive of her husband, and helps improve and maintain his public image. She is considered high value by most, and her approval reflects well on her husband.

You may notice that many of these categories overlap to a degree. And they should; they are all facets of the same woman. Both the Waitress and the Whore are responsible for tending to her man, bolstering his confidence, and reinforcing his masculinity. Both the Mother and Confidante are serious, supportive roles.

If you're thinking you're not well balanced in all of these areas or that you find yourself lacking in one role, you are not alone. This balance is a constant effort that becomes easier with time and the more you get to know your partner. I said this is the picture of the "perfect" wife, and no one in reality is perfect.

Issues arise when women forget some of their roles and favor others too heavily. A very common example is a Mother forgetting her inner Whore. She has children, gains weight, shears off her hair, and dresses in frumpy clothes. Her husband misses out on the sexual fulfillment he needs, and she misses out on the confidence and satisfaction of being the object of her man's desire.

Another example would be letting the Waitress outshine the Cheerleader. Perhaps a wife excels at anticipating her husband's every whim before he can even imagine it at home, but then at a company dinner party she falls short supporting her husband and actively speaking well of him to his boss and co-workers.

All of these areas need to be balanced, and which roll is needed when varies from relationship to relationship. We all have all of these women within us!

*We're talking high class hookers/escorts here.

[–]radioactivities9 40 points41 points  (2 children)

She needs to make him feel wanted--a god among kings.

Yes. Beautifully put, the whole post

There is a proverb that "when a woman loves a man he's like a god, but when she falls out of love he's less than an insect"

We have to keep investing ourselves in our men, continuously, as that keeps us conscious of the love within us and we always naturally value what we invest in.

[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And you're very right about the god vs. insect thing. The contrast is amazing but it's so true when you look around at failing (and successful) relationships.

[–]JackGetsItEndorsed Contributor 28 points29 points  (2 children)

I think there are probably a good portion of men out there that flat out don't deserve all this from a women (and women are struggling to find a man that does) and on the flip side of this the average non RP american women thinks that doing these things is antiquated, weak, and will bring shame.

As a society we really need to adjust the narrative if we are going to rebuild the family unit; because a man that receives these five things from his partner will be happy and go to work refreshed and fulfilled. Relationships will have a lot more longevity if both partners are filling out their end of the contract.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My whole theory for TRP is the resume. If you want a perfect ten with all these attributes then you need to match your qualifications.

[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very true. Many many don't deserve this and many women are very far from achieving (or even wanting to achieve) it.

[–]vanBeethovenLudwigEndorsed Contributor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a perfect post because it shows that to be a good woman, you will need to have different facets. If you're too mothering, too eager, too slutty, etc. Then the man isn't fulfilled. It's important to be able to switch faces to adapt to the situation. Of course, this is part of being a woman - having the feminine instinct to do what's right for your man in that specific time.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love this! Especially the part about the balance! So true!

[–]Moral_Gutpunch 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I'm kinda new here, so I have questions: what if you're both childfree (or fencesitters)? Can you still be motherly to kitties and doggies?

He's a way better cook than I am and likes it better. Is helping out whenever I can enough?

[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yes and yes! There's no law that says you have to have children. Being a mother figure is more about nurturing than children, to your man as well as to any little ones. And if he cooks better, that's fine. You can chop things, wash dishes etc. And maybe have him teach you to cook some things for fun sometime!

[–]Moral_Gutpunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This really sounds great and like something my husband and I want to work towards; I just don't want to take cooking away (and I'm not a fan) or have to put kids in the picture (I'm not against other adults having kids). This place sounds great.

[–]HobbesTheBrave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Mother

The Confidante

The Waitress

The Whore

The Cheerleader

All of these nouns are trades. So long as you work somehow on these trades on your husband, you'll do fine. After all, wife is a trade. No different from baker, miller, smith, tailor, soldier, governor, doctor. No different from husband, and the trade of husbandry. Because marriage is a financial contract, with duties and a term limit of 'until death to do us part'.

[–]bowie747 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Great post. Nothing further to add

[–]Jayms 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really interesting and well-written post. I agree, it's all about balance and timing, knowing when to step into each role.

[–]Nyquil-Junkie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're lucky, whore and cheerleader are combined into one face.

[–]Virtusvitium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. This! OP just described the perfect wife. As a guy, I don't think I've yet met a woman who shows all five of those characteristics. They are like unicorns. Like OP said, most women excel in one category, but severely lack in the other. I understand that being great at all of those at the same time is challenging, but not impossible. I believe a woman should start slow and consciously remind herself to do a little of all 5. Make it a goal to do at least one of those things a day in order to train your mind until it becomes natural. Whore and Cheerleader might be difficult categories to get back into especially when you've been away from them for a while. To overcome those, try:

Whore - try being more sexual during private conversations. Just don't be a tease about it. Make sure to try to deliver some sexual pleasure if he responds that way. Even a more intimatent morning kiss can go a long way.

*cheerleader - this one might be hard to do because some women don't understand it correctly or they just do it wrong. Try bragging about him to your co-workers or boss during idle chit chat. Just do it at appropriate times. No one like that person that only talks about one thing. It wouldn't hurt either to tell a white lie from time to time. For example: "my so is always helping me around the house" might be good for woman to woman conservation. However for woman and man, you could try something like this: " *(I'm very high and I can't finish this because I started thinking about a woman a similar list of what women would want from a guy and I think I'm lacking completely. Like I can't think of one thing a woman could about to. Fuck I feel shitty now. Anyways if this gets interest I'll finish it tomorrow. Sorry for typos and grammar :/)

[–]loneliness-incEndorsed Contributor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good post!

It's all about balance.

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[–]SouthernAthenaEndorsed Contributor[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Well everyone has to have their boundaries. Even whores have things they won't do. I'm surprised you say that you would rather have your SO cheat on you than make you cook red meat...that seems pretty unusual. You know yourself though and what your priorities are.