I posted here for the first time last week, and I just wanted to thank everyone who commented for their insightful and constructive advice. I loved how honest you ladies were with me.
Anyway, I was prompted to write this post after watching Lauren Southern's "What Every Girl Needs to Hear" video (go watch it if you haven't already). She discusses how promiscuity has a detrimental effect on a woman's ability to pair bond with a partner.
To all of my fellow college RPW out there, please, don't let anyone convince you that you're missing out by not riding the CC. Maybe you're like one of my best friends, who has been in a committed relationship with a great guy for a few years, but you see your friends going out and meeting new guys every weekend and wonder if you should be doing that too, because that's what modern society dictates college-age women should be doing. It bothered her so much that she considered asking her boyfriend to open up the relationship, even though they've talked about marriage. That's how brainwashed our generation has become.
As someone whose n-count is in the 20s, I told her, point blank: it's not worth it.
I mentioned in my last post that I have bipolar, and that I am hypersexual when I'm manic. This resulted in my count going from 1 to 20+ in a matter of 6 months. All of these were hookups.
9 times out of 10, guys who want to hook up with you DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. AT ALL.
You're just a plate to them, no matter how nice they seem to be. That's the best case scenario. There are also men out there who can seriously hurt you. I was raped by one last year. That just goes to show the kind of people you can come across when you venture into the world of meaningless sex. They have no regard for your feelings, or, in some cases, your personal safety.
Given my high n-count, I feel that sex isn't as special to me anymore. I have to actively try to feel the connection with my partner, when previously it came naturally and effortlessly. I can still feel it, but it doesn't feel as strong as it did before.
Also, I can't help comparing my current partner to all of the partners I've had in the past. It keeps me from truly enjoying everything he has to offer.
Don't sabotage your ability to pair bond just so you can fit in with your blue pill friends. Sex is very important to men (and women, too). For most men, it's how they feel most connected with their partner. Like men, I also primarily prefer giving and receiving love through physical intimacy, and now I feel like my ability to receive has been compromised. Trust me, you don't want to be in my shoes.
I know it's highly unlikely for a woman in this day and age to save herself until marriage or have a count of 1 unless it is in the context of a religious upbringing, but at least try to limit your sexual encounters to men you are in committed relationships with. It's not just because of retaining your ability to pair bond, or keeping your RMV high, but simply put, sex is better with someone you love and who loves you.
My fellow young RPW, don't sell yourself short.