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[FIELD REPORT]Happy Ending to A Long Distance Relationship (self.RedPillWomen)

submitted by tryanotherJuanEndorsed Contributor

Some of you may remember several of my other posts about my budding relationship with Mountain Man (MM). We started dating back in October and have continued to date long-distance.

Here is a link to what I wrote about our camping trip several months back:

http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2fy7r9/fr_camping_with_your_captain/

Well...We are engaged! We will be married in October!

I attribute much of the success in our relationship to the things I've learned on RPW. Thank you for all of your encouragement, advice and support...really, I cannot say that enough. The mods and regular contributors on this sub dedicate a lot of time and effort to this community and it changes lives. It's hard to see the positive impact you make through the lens of the internet, but it is there and it is HUGE.

Almost exactly a year ago, I was going through a difficult breakup. It was an incredibly painful time. The breakup forced me to examine my role in the downfall of the relationship. (That's when I found this sub.) Although I think there were a lot of reasons and factors things didn't workout between us, it helped me to take responsibility for my actions and my attitude.

For me, something clicked. I had never quite understood how my parents had been able to stay happily married for 30+ years. But, when I started reading, it was clear: my Mom was an excellent First Mate. My Dad was the Captain and my sister and I fell in line behind my Mom. She was a good wife.

With a new frame of mind (and about 6 months of healing from my breakup), I reconnected with MM. We had dated briefly as Sophomores in college and kept in touch for the past 8 years, so we had a solid foundation to start our relationship.

This relationship was different. I followed his lead. I never initiated any DTR's. I let him set the pace and the progression of our relationship. I trusted him and his leadership in the little everyday things and in the big things. I also told him I was willing to relocate to be with him. I made gratitude and appreciation a habit.

Timing was also a big factor in our relationship. This time around we were both in cities that made weekend trips possible. He had had time to explore the mountains, take some incredible hunting trips and excel in his career. He felt ready and able to take on the responsibility of a relationship. My patience paid off.

I couldn't be happier. Giving up control can be scary, particularly if you are a Type A, overachieving, first born, like I am. But, it's so rewarding. It feels good knowing I have a great man by my side. I look forward to being his First Mate.

So, if you are just starting out in this journey, I cannot recommend, "The Surrendered Single" and "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle enough. Listen to the women on this sub and follow their lead. They have years of experience in successful marriages and relationships. Learn from their example and be patient. Great relationships don't happen overnight.

And thank you all! I am so grateful for this community where I can share my story and learn from others.


[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

/u/tryanotherJuan I am overjoyed to hear about this! You have consistently proven yourself to be an intelligent and hardworking individual. Thank you for sharing this wonderful news with everyone here, and for opening up about some of the things you had to grapple with during your journey.

You always speak so well about MM, and I'm sure that's due in no small part, to the fact that he is a genuinely good man and capable leader.

I wish you both all the best, though I know you'll be perfectly fine without any well-wishes because you have proven to be a formidable team already.

You are an amazing person TryanotherJuan, with many admirable qualities, and this ending didn't just 'happen' because you're lucky, it happened because you were open to the possibility, you made an honest effort, and you took some very informed risks that paid off.

Congratulations to you both. :0)

[–]tryanotherJuanEndorsed Contributor[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Your support and encouragement has meant so so much to me!

We are both incredibly excited about the future!

[–]lisfb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It feels good knowing I have a great man by my side.

^ Put such a smile on my face. Congrats!

[–]StingrayVC 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. This is wonderful news!

[–]Camille11325 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! It's been fun reading your field reports and chatting with you about your relationship as it develops. You two really seem like a great match and it's amazing that you'll be married so soon! So glad you shared this wonderful news with us :)

[–]TheTerrorSquadEndorsed Contributor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fantastic!!!
Congratulations tryanotherjuan :-)

[–]gabilromariz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I'm so glad to hear this and wish you both the best :)

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Congrats! Such fantastic news. I adore posts like this.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so happy for you! I wish you both a happy journey in your marriage!

[–]jade_catEndorsed Contributor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations !! I enjoyed your field report about the camping trip, and I am happy for you both ! :)

[–]TempestTcup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YAY!!!! I'm so happy for the both of you! This is great news :)

[–]sierrasechoEndorsed Contributor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such good news. Your situation crossed my mind the other day - I'm glad to hear that it worked out so well! Congratulations on your engagement!

[–]eatplaycrushEndorsed Contributor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats!!! This is wonderful :)

[–]lovingmaiden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay!!! This is amazing :) You are so lucky!! Congratulations!!

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