Good day to all.
SMV and RMV are concepts discussed here and are often conflated with one another. I will therefore attempt to explain each one, how they intertwine and how they differ.
We use the term "market value" because in any market the price of goods and services is determined by supply and demand. It's a sellers market when there's high demand and lower supply, this will cause prices to rise. When 100 people want an item of which there are only 50, they will have to pay more for that item. This is because buyers have to compete with each other over a product that's scarce.
The reverse is when there's high supply and low demand. This is when it's a buyers market and prices therefore drop. When there are only 50 buyers but 100 items for sale, sellers will have to compete with each other to attract buyers to sell their wares. They will have to lower their prices to do so.
Of course, there's a lot more to the dynamics of markets. This little bit will suffice for the discussion at hand.
SMV - Sexual Market Value
Both men and women have SMV because both men and women are sexually desired by each other. However, the fact that men as a whole desire sex in much greater frequency and variety than women, makes men the "buyers" and women the "sellers" of sex. Therefore a 7/10 SMV in a woman is more valuable than a 7/10 SMV in a man. This is also the reason why women have the upper hand and are therefore the gatekeepers of sex.
SMV is what makes you sexually desirable to the opposite sex. Men and women find different things attractive in one another, therefore different things will boost the SMV of men and women.
RMV - relationship market value
Bother men and women have RMV because both men and women are desired by each other for the purpose of a LTR. However, the fact that women as a whole desire a LTR more than men do, makes women the "buyers" and men the "sellers" of relationships. Therefore, a man with a 7/10 RMV is more valuable than a woman with a 7/10 RMV. This is also the reason why men have the upper hand and are therefore the gatekeepers of relationships.
RMV is what makes you a desirable long term mate to the opposite sex. Men and women find different things desirable for the long term, therefore different things will boost the RMV of men and women.
Turbulence and stability
Turbulence and stability are opposites. One is constantly moving, jumpy, unpredictable, exciting, passionate and sexy. Sex is a turbulent thing (generally speaking). Sex involves an elevated heart rate, excitement and other elements that cannot be maintained in a stable manner 24/7.
Stability doesn't budge. It's predictable and boring, not passionate and not very sexy. Stability is reassuring and comforting. The way it is today is the way it was yesterday and the way it will be tomorrow. Think of the structure of your house, you want it to not move ever no matter what winds, rain or snow come it's way. Stability is 24/7. When we built a relationship, we strive for it to be as stable as can be.
Stability and routine can become boring. We also have a need for passion, excitement, unpredictability and sexuality. How can these two opposites dwell together within the same home?
The analogy of a home is a good one. We have the foundation and structure that need to be very stable and only stable. We have the heating and cooling and electrical systems which are all turbulent moving parts which have been harnessed in a constructive manner. Then we have things like the doors and windows which are sometimes locked and shuttered and stable, while other times they can open and allow others into our home.
To translate this into marriage - the foundation and structure needs to be built upon a solid commitment that doesn't waver by the onset of turbulence such as "wind" from the outside or an argument from the inside. Once the commitment is there, we can harness turbulent things such as sex, passion, excitement etc into constructive forces just like we do with electricity, water and fire. We also have elements where we can allow others in at specific times but not other times, we'll allow this person in but not that person. These are the various people we allow into our relationship to varying degrees based on the need. Discretion needs to be used to decide when to open the door and when to lock it.
A healthy marriage has a clear understanding of what is what and what goes where. A healthy marriage also has a good balance between stability and excitement. This is how men and women can built a beautiful home together, a home that's nice and warm in the winter and cool in the summer.A home that keeps negative outside forces such as rain, animals and intruders on the outside while guarding those on the inside. A home that is a pleasant place to live.
Problem is that certain things might be a boost to sexuality but a detriment to relationships or vice versa. For example
A man who's committed heart and soul to his wife and children, he provides them with everything etc but has developed a dad bod, he's overly emotional, he doesn't lead etc. He may have some RMV, but his SMV has plummeted. He will wonder why his wife never wants sex.
A women who has the perfect body, is feminine, is awesome in bed etc. She has sex on the first date if she fancies the guy. She will wonder why everyone disappears, where are all the good men?
There can be many more examples. The common denominator is that in both cases a person was focused exclusively on their SMV or their RMV. If you elevate your SMV but neglect your RMV, you can end up a 10/10 in the sexual market but only a 2/10 in the relationship market. This person will attract people of a very high sexual caliber and wonder why they can't attract people of the same caliber for a long term commitment.
The same is true in the reverse.
A healthy balance needs to be found between what's attractive to you specifically from a relationship point of view and what's attractive to you specifically from a sexual point of view. Both are extremely important. Neglecting one or the other will have disastrous outcomes.
It's like the right and left side of your body. They serve different functions but both are very important to have. Your right side is the turbulent side. It's the side that goes and moves according to the situation at hand. The left side is the side that's grounded and stable. When you kick a ball, your right foot does the swinging and your left foot keeps you grounded.
People often get confused by what seems to be mixed messages of TRP. A man who is only looking for sex will only discuss SMV and completely ignore RMV. What may be a plus in the sexual market may be a minus in the relationship market. A woman who is only looking for a relationship may say things that make men wonder why the cognitive dissonance. But that woman is only looking at the relationship market. Her advice may not help in the sexual market at all. It may even be a negative there.
Ultimately, balance and harmony between the two is what we strive for here at RPW.