When I met my SO he struck me as an alpha trapped in beta clothing. He is by all accounts masculine but it seemed like the feminist society he came from was very oppressive to his natural instincts. But last night he finally told me that our time together has made him realize how happy he is to be with a woman that makes him feel like a man. Like he can be the man that he wants to be. And he said he would like nothing more than to be with me for the rest if his life.
Some interesting things: he listed a number of scenarios that he's experienced with me that he would not experience with the women in his country:
Jealousy.He said he'd never felt free to express jealousy with a girl or to express any kind of possessiveness with an ex as women from his country view that as "uncool"
An appreciation of femininity I wore a certain kind of some lingerie last week and he said he liked it. So I wore more of it the rest of the week. Last night he said he couldn't even imagine showing appreciation for that with an ex or even mention the word "lingerie" without a girl there freaking out at his "entitlement". He also says he loves how I dance and that women in his country don't dance in a sexy way at all.
The desire to protect. He says he really likes that fact that he can be protective without being shamed about it. There was an instance where a man in his building harassed me one night and he hunted him down and informed him that the next time he wished to speak with me he'd have to speak to my SO first...he said that was the first time he'd ever done that and it felt really good to be free to be himself.
All I can say is I'm so shocked. I've never explicitly spoken about TRP with him and I can't believe he used all these very RP themes to express his feelings. But he does know what I need in a man and he knows about the captain first mate dynamic which we are currently doing.
I'm so happy. When we first started dating he would firmly defend feminism and now he's got no problem saying feminism has ruined his country's women for dating.
Thank you RPW
It's been a long journey for me to get to this point. And I plan to stay here and keep soaking up your words of wisdom. RP has to be the best thing I've ever learned and it really works